Do u find it hard to be liked & why?

  • TannerMasseur

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    Oct 16, 2012 10:02 PM GMT
    (Playing devil's advocate): Do u think ur ur own worst enemy? Do u feel ur the type most people aren't into so u have a hard time making friends & lovers? Just created this thread for anyone who feels this way about themselves who wants to elaborate their thoughts & feelings on this thread.
  • Just_Tim

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    Oct 16, 2012 10:10 PM GMT
    I actually do feel like that. Anytime I end up hitting it off with someone or a group of people I can't help but think "Wait a minute... what fresh hell is this?"
  • TannerMasseur

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    Oct 16, 2012 10:15 PM GMT
    Like u learn not to have any expectations because u know nothing ever goes ur way. That there's always someone better who has one up on u that most certainly will be chosen & not u. Like u know ur the kind that's easily passed over, overlooked, the "eh, take it or leave it, don't matter" kind.
  • HottJoe

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    Oct 16, 2012 10:21 PM GMT
    Everybody loves me.icon_evil.gif
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    Oct 16, 2012 11:00 PM GMT
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    Oct 16, 2012 11:13 PM GMT
    At times I do but that's seldom nowadays, I get along well with almost anybody I speak to. I also felt that way all lot when I was younger, often feeling inferior. Got over that, now when I find out people don't like me it's kinda like a compliment in a reverse psychology kinda way. I can't exactly explain it...
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    Oct 16, 2012 11:20 PM GMT
    I feel that I'm liked by enough people, not all, but enough. More than even.

    I'm sure that I could make more of an effort to be more well liked, to fit the mould, not to say anything beyond the pale no matter how true and necessary, or offer out trite empty pleasantries with wanton abandon, feign interest when I'm not at all, or pretend to share other's beliefs, arbitrary moral codes, dogmatic norms, dire interests and inane ideologies .... But I really couldn't care less. It is not worth the hassle of putting on such a taxing and self-defeating show. The 'reward' for that is feeble, it is hollow, unsatisfying and the price is your contentment and joy.

    I'd rather be loved by the few truly important (and misunderstood/disliked by the majority) for being true to my bold 'personality'/personal philosophies, than vaguely liked by the masses for assimilating into a false, soul corrosive drone.





    That is all.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Oct 16, 2012 11:24 PM GMT
    To modigliani: Hmmm, interesting icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 17, 2012 12:26 AM GMT
    I feel that way too... kind of.

    I have a hard time making lovers but friends not so much. I know I'm not the kind of guy people are usually into but I also know I'm not completely unattractive.
    It's just something that I do that instantly friendzones everyone and makes everyone friendzone me. And I have no idea what it is.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Oct 17, 2012 12:43 AM GMT
    It's a crux a lot of people bare, the crux of being just average, that makes them feel not worthy or deserving of anyone good or better than they are. They know they don't fit in the higher echelons of attractiveness or desirability, so anyone who tries to socialize with them who they think is in a higher league then them they consider odd & suspect. And u use the fine art of self-effacement as a defense mechanism.
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    Oct 17, 2012 12:48 AM GMT
    I get along with a lot of different types of people, but I get close to very few, and I date (or want to date) even fewer. I'm a bit of an oddball. I rarely have good chemistry with people. I'm not sure what the point of talking about it is though. It is what it is.
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    Oct 17, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    Just_Tim saidI actually do feel like that. Anytime I end up hitting it off with someone or a group of people I can't help but think "Wait a minute... what fresh hell is this?"


    i am same lol.
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    Oct 17, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    I find it hard to be disliked.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Oct 17, 2012 12:51 AM GMT
    To DudeInNOVA: Just a thread for people who feel like this to express their view if they want icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 17, 2012 12:51 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidEverybody loves me.icon_evil.gif
    I never said I love you. I just said you give me a hard on.
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    Oct 17, 2012 12:56 AM GMT
    Oh yes. I've been told on several different occasions that I create untrue scenarios, feelings of other people in my head. Like I create why my family doesn't like me or why someone doesn't want to be around rather then their own extenuating circumstances. They don't like me because I smell, I don't talk much, I'm boring...I'm whiny and lazy...list goes on. My nose is crooked.

    I always say and think it's me thats a problem. Which pretty much accounts for many of my relationship problems - romantically and friendship wise.
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    Oct 17, 2012 12:57 AM GMT
    Yep,

    Some people say Im the nicest person they know, others... yell a lot.
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    Oct 17, 2012 12:57 AM GMT
    I like to be hard loved.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Oct 17, 2012 1:10 AM GMT
    To IceBucket: Yes, it's me, not u. Never it's u, not me.
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    Oct 17, 2012 1:15 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidI like to be hard loved.
    What if I squeeze your muscles really hard while you flex really tight? Does that count?
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    Oct 17, 2012 1:17 AM GMT
    spgem saidTo DudeInNOVA: Just a thread for people who feel like this to express their view if they want icon_smile.gif

    I'm threatened by that notion. icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 17, 2012 1:28 AM GMT
    spgem saidTo IceBucket: Yes, it's me, not u. Never it's u, not me.

    ...wait what?
  • TannerMasseur

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    Oct 17, 2012 1:29 AM GMT
    To DudeInNOVA: No threat at all. It's a call for all who have no illusions to emote....
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    Oct 17, 2012 1:32 AM GMT
    spgem saidTo DudeInNOVA: No threat at all. It's a call for all who have no illusions to emote....

    It was a joke. icon_neutral.gif
  • TannerMasseur

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    Oct 17, 2012 1:33 AM GMT
    To IceBucket: Just reiterating wat ur saying. U feel ur the cause of all ur misconstrusions.