Sex & Adult: I, Personally, Do Not Think a Man Should Ask a Woman for Anal Sex.

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    Oct 17, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    I was in a discussion where a 20-something female said her boyfriend asks her for sodomy. A woman in the discussion said, flat out, "leave him."

    Who should initiate heterosexual sodomy, the woman or the man?

    In heterosexuality, the penis has the vagina; and, the female does not have a prostate to stimulate.

    If the 20-something was my sister or daughter I would be angry. I would not go to their wedding.

    Maybe if you're an elite athlete or dancer and you need your glutes stretched and penetrated, yea, I can see that. But, if you're an average person, women shouldn't be violated that way.

    Well, is there a double-standard here?

    Well, no, a man has a prostate which needs some stimulation that can lead to hands-free orgasm.

    Does heterosexual sodomy make women cum? Googling the topic, one answer to the question was if the woman stimulates her clit.

    http://womenshealth.about.com/b/2003/10/03/men-say-women-want-anal-sex.htm

    Maybe it's just an emotional response, because more than one woman answered, if there's plenty of lube and the guy goes slowly, it's okay and pleasurable.

    Intellectually and remembering when I did see it in an adult magazine (Hustler?), and when I remember two heterosexual friends of mine telling me they do that to their girlfriends, I could accept it.

    But when a woman tells me she does it and really isn't into it, I feel its wrong.

    That's it. When a person isn't up to sodomy and they feel they should do it as a Gift of the Magi (I'll cut my hair to buy you a Christmas gift, I'll sell my watch to buy you combs)--sacrificing for the pleasure of the man. I think that breaks my heart about heterosexual sodomy and homosexual sodomy.



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    Oct 17, 2012 2:46 AM GMT
    Should a guy ask for anything other then vaginal sex then? Blow jobs, handjobs? Because she doesn't "experience any pleasure"? I don't know - this sounds awfully like the argument against homosexual sex because it "isn't natural and doesn't produce offspring".
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    Oct 17, 2012 2:46 AM GMT
    The advice I gave the 20-something female was not to leave the man. Yes, he needs inner work--he needs to work on himself and the relationship.

    The case had many more issues than heterosexual sodomy.

    Yes, she should nurture her partner's sexual interests, but try not to be sad about being a sex object to your boyfriend.

    Does she earn brownie points (pun is there whether intended or not--and it was not) for doing this? He BETTER appreciate it, I'd say.

    So, when your boyfriend is a top and you steed him to bottom sometimes, it's the same thing.
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    Oct 17, 2012 2:50 AM GMT
    IceBucket saidShould a guy ask for anything other then vaginal sex then? Blow jobs, handjobs? Because she doesn't "experience any pleasure"? I don't know - this sounds awfully like the argument against homosexual sex because it "isn't natural and doesn't produce offspring".


    I disagree IceBucket. Men have prostates and need their thin hips opened up sometimes. It can be relaxing and pleasurable. Men even have butt plugs and stuff (Aneros prostate stimulators). Besides, men don't have vaginas, the only place to penetrate a man in the pelvic region is through the anus.

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    Oct 17, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    I just keep imagining myself forming tears if a daughter or sister said her boyfriend wanted to do that to her.

    Now if she was singing I had sodomy and I liked it (to the tune of I kissed a girl and I liked it), then, I'd just shrug my shoulders and say, you're physically fit for that sort of thing.

    It's the whining about it that I can't take.
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    Oct 18, 2012 5:46 AM GMT
    First off, take a remedial English class because your writing is horrid. Even your profile is all over the place. A big giant mess...icon_neutral.gif

    Second, stop calling it sodomy, it's buttseks. This isn't your grandma's house, no need to watch your language.

    And why would you be so offended by a little poke in the pooper? Male or female, people like what they like. If they are grown adults and it is consensual then there should be no issue.

    Geez....
  • TheBizMan

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    Oct 18, 2012 6:53 AM GMT
    Who are you to dictate what other people want in their relationship?

    That's exactly what homophobic straight people do to gays.
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    Oct 19, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidFirst off, take a remedial English class because your writing is horrid. Even your profile is all over the place. A big giant mess...icon_neutral.gif

    Second, stop calling it sodomy, it's buttseks. This isn't your grandma's house, no need to watch your language.

    And why would you be so offended by a little poke in the pooper? Male or female, people like what they like. If they are grown adults and it is consensual then there should be no issue.

    Geez....


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    Oct 19, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    TheBizMan saidWho are you to dictate what other people want in their relationship?

    That's exactly what homophobic straight people do to gays.


    The young lady in the relationship dictates that with which she's comfortable. Sodomy was causing problems in her relationship. I was listening to her and a woman was listening to her. The woman said dump the sodomizing boyfriend.

    Am I sodomy-phobic?

    1. There are gay tops who don't want to get sodomized. If those macho / masculine men--MEN--don't want to be sodomized, should a straight guy pressure his girlfriend to be sodomized? Where is your compassion?

    2. People have sexual limits. For some people, sodomy is a BIG favor. Her boyfriend was under-appreciating her. People have to be careful going the extra mile for guys--casting pearls before swine. Every time a guy has sexual needs doesn't mean you have to be the Good Samaritan or the dutiful lover because love may not have anything to do with it. He could sodomize you and think no higher of you.
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    Oct 19, 2012 7:03 AM GMT
    IceBucket saidShould a guy ask for anything other then vaginal sex then? Blow jobs, handjobs? Because she doesn't "experience any pleasure"? I don't know - this sounds awfully like the argument against homosexual sex because it "isn't natural and doesn't produce offspring".


    +1

    The girl in the OPs post who doesn't really want anal sex but is putting up with it for her bf is a completely separate issue from making a blanket statement about heterosexual sexual options.
  • ohioguy12

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    Oct 27, 2012 8:35 PM GMT
    LOL
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    Oct 27, 2012 8:39 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidSecond, stop calling it sodomy, it's buttseks.


    This ^

    Also, I have to agree a little if he's pressuring her. All my female friends say that their boyfriends are trying to force them into it and get angry when they refuse. But if they're both into it, have at it.
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    Oct 28, 2012 1:32 AM GMT
    kevmoran said
    jmusmc85 saidSecond, stop calling it sodomy, it's buttseks.


    This ^

    Also, I have to agree a little if he's pressuring her. All my female friends say that their boyfriends are trying to force them into it and get angry when they refuse. But if they're both into it, have at it.


    sounds like a lot of boyfriends shud be looking for boyfriends doesn't it.....