One night stands

  • reges198

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    Oct 20, 2012 4:57 AM GMT
    So I just got back from the bar, and did not try to bring a guy home. (That is, assuming any guy would want to come.) But in all honestly, should I get over my uncomfortableness over one night stands? I feel like the younger generation is a little more prude than generations that came before. Am I missing out, and should I just man up and have a few?

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    Oct 20, 2012 5:00 AM GMT
    I have two night stands...one on each side of the bed.

    That way I can invite two guys over at a time.
  • Just_Tim

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    Oct 20, 2012 5:02 AM GMT
    I say go for it man. Some things seem to indicate that you might not get much better than that for a while.

    Not you personally, just the gay population in general. icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 20, 2012 5:03 AM GMT
    You shouldn't force yourself to do things you don't wanna do. If having one night stands makes you uncomfortable, then don't do it. Who cares what other people are doing. They're living their lives and you're living yours
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    Oct 20, 2012 5:04 AM GMT
    JOOU saidYou shouldn't force yourself to do things you don't wanna do.
    Then what's the point of higher education or going to work?
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    Oct 20, 2012 5:06 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    JOOU saidYou shouldn't force yourself to do things you don't wanna do.
    Then what's the point of higher education or going to work?

    I dunno about you but I happen to like my work and I liked learning about stuff in the classroom
  • reges198

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    Oct 20, 2012 5:07 AM GMT
    Yeah, I just don't want to feel like I missed out when I was young and beautiful. icon_smile.gif

    You shouldn't even pay attention to this. I am sooooo drunk right now.
  • Webster666

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    Oct 20, 2012 5:12 AM GMT
    Everybody's different.
    You should do whatever you like to do.
    I always thought that one night stands were great ! It's just sex. And, if you like the guy, you can see him again, and, maybe it will develop into something more.
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    Oct 20, 2012 6:12 PM GMT
    I'm sure there are those who will strongly disagree with this, but I think there can be some advantages to having a little fling now and again. Physical sex doesn't have to have an emotional connection that's permanent but it can give you an opportunity to experience what you might not otherwise try and to establish your likes and dislikes as well as determining what others enjoy.

    This can serve you well when you do find someone you're interested in for a serious relationship. The experience can enhance the physical side of the relationship. Now that doesn't mean you have to whore yourself out and certainly need to always be safe and smart about it.
  • NerdLifter

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    Oct 20, 2012 6:20 PM GMT
    Completely subjective. Some guys like it more than others; some guys like it less than others. Some feel fulfilled by sex; some feel empty unless it is with a boyfriend/partner.

    There is no right or wrong answer here. There is nothing wrong with being uncomfortable with one-night stands, or vice-versa.

    Just remember to think of all consequences of your actions. It is your life; do what makes you happy, not what you think others think will make you happy [wish I could make that final clause more perspicuous].
  • uniojot

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    Oct 20, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    I dont know ... personally I think i would feel a bit weird right after if i ever did do a one night stand...maybe slightly used or guilty? idk haha. I personally believe I would need to know the person better, talk to them frequently and what not to commit to having sex with them..even if its just once. :p
    but hey thats just me :p
  • kevmoran

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    Oct 20, 2012 6:33 PM GMT
    I think it requires a certain personality type. I've learned I can't do anything NSA, I just end up following them around like a lost puppy until they get mad.
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    Oct 20, 2012 6:34 PM GMT
    reges198 saidYeah, I just don't want to feel like I missed out when I was young and beautiful. icon_smile.gif

    You shouldn't even pay attention to this. I am sooooo drunk right now.

    Yeah, well... I was old and fugly when I came out (and gotten worse since). And even so I still wasn't gonna miss out. In fact, I was determined to make up for lost time, being a very late bloomer.

    Yah know, just go for it. Make sure the sex is safe, but what are you waiting for? Why would you hold back? You will never be this young and full of spunk again. Even over a hundred years ago the phrase for young men was "sow your wild oats." What the fuck do you think they were talking about?

    Have fun, chose carefully, have safe sex, but bottom line - fuck your brains out! You ain't gonna be 25 forever. Do you know how many older guys here would kill to be in your shoes? Myself included. Exploit the age you are, because the clock never runs backwards.
  • ArtistLike

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    Oct 20, 2012 6:42 PM GMT
    reges198 said I feel like the younger generation is a little more prude than generations that came before. Am I missing out, and should I just man up and have a few?



    That's funny...I feel the opposite way, but then again, I'm an older generation. I was in middle and high school throughout the 90s, and HIV/AIDS was a certain killer back then...I still live in fear of it. And it seems like a lot of the young guys on all these gay websites prefer unprotected sex, which isn't even an option in my mind. A friend of mine who is a year older than I am (he's 35) was just diagnosed as HIV-positive--the barebacking trend overcame his common sense.

    So anyway, whether you have sex with strangers or not, wrap it up. In the long run, that's what will matter.

    Also, "man up" is such a stupid term. Waiting for that one to die.

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    Oct 20, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    yeah u should. have alittle fun.
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    Oct 20, 2012 6:47 PM GMT
    Your mood will likely change back and forth from time to time. Sometimes you just need it.
  • reges198

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    Oct 20, 2012 11:09 PM GMT
    Actually, after mulling it over last night, I was *this* close to trying out grindr this afternoon. I completed a profile, put up a picture and everything. But they still haven't approved my photo, and now I've gone off the idea haha. Someone must be telling me something.
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    Oct 20, 2012 11:13 PM GMT
    Personally I think two night stands are better.

























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  • reges198

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    Oct 20, 2012 11:17 PM GMT
    That's deep.
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    Oct 21, 2012 12:01 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidPersonally I think two night stands are better.













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    I was just about to say! I love lamp on them though!
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    Oct 21, 2012 12:05 AM GMT
    just whore around...icon_rolleyes.gif but don't forget to practice safe sex icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 21, 2012 12:10 AM GMT
    dannylv saidjust whore around...icon_rolleyes.gif but don't forget to practice safe sex icon_wink.gif


    I know who to call now if I want a whore icon_cool.gif
  • reges198

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    Oct 21, 2012 12:11 AM GMT
    sonicpower19 said
    dannylv saidjust whore around...icon_rolleyes.gif but don't forget to practice safe sex icon_wink.gif


    I know who to call now if I want a whore icon_cool.gif


    That's exactly what I was thinking!
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    Oct 21, 2012 12:14 AM GMT
    reges198 said
    sonicpower19 said
    dannylv saidjust whore around...icon_rolleyes.gif but don't forget to practice safe sex icon_wink.gif


    I know who to call now if I want a whore icon_cool.gif


    That's exactly what I was thinking!


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    oh who am i kidding bring it on boyzzicon_twisted.gificon_lol.gif
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    Oct 21, 2012 12:16 AM GMT
    dannylv said
    reges198 said
    sonicpower19 said
    dannylv saidjust whore around...icon_rolleyes.gif but don't forget to practice safe sex icon_wink.gif


    I know who to call now if I want a whore icon_cool.gif


    That's exactly what I was thinking!


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    oh who am i kidding bring it on boyzzicon_twisted.gificon_lol.gif


    can I bring my stds with me or is that too much?