Dating while traveling

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    Aug 31, 2008 11:28 PM GMT
    I travel a lot for work. I live in a fairly small town that I really like. I am also very tired of being single, of being the third wheel when going out or being alone when going out.

    So for you guys out there that travel a lot for work/pleasure, how do you find relationships that work?
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    Sep 01, 2008 11:50 PM GMT
    My first bf traveled a lot, he was usually out of town 3 to 4 days each week.

    Before we started going out, he asked if I would be ok with it. We phoned each other at night to say how our day had been and stuff. I also had to put up with a friend who was all "he could be having sex with guys EVERY DAY!" I'd see him the day he got back from work (or the next one, if he was too tired).

    It did work, I mean, we didn't break up over the fact that he traveled. In fact, we broke up because his bff's thought I was too young for him (I was 21 at the time, he was 28 ).

    Did that help?
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    Sep 09, 2008 9:10 PM GMT
    I've had experience with this. I took a traveling job out of college and roamed all over the US. To say it succinctly, I don't see these two things as being compatible.

    New relationships need to be nurtured in order to grow. It's painful to have someone call you up for a spontaneous get-together, only to turn it down because you're out of town. Absence does make the heart grow fonder, but after a few months of routine travel away from home, it'll take a toil on both people.

    I knew a lot of co-workers who enjoyed traveling for a living, but then again they were married with kids, and were trying to get away from them rather than be with them.

    Not to mention the possibility of meeting a wonderful guy while traveling, and then realizing that it'll never work since you live 1,000 miles away. Yes, it's happened to me before.

    Living out of a suitcase sucks. My road warrior days are over icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 09, 2008 9:23 PM GMT
    In a way - you could say I have two jobs. For one, I attend meetings in Silicon Valley - near San Francisco. This is only an hour's flight away - and I usually go up there on average twice each month. I can either come home to Arizona that same night - or - take my BF (I almost typed FB!) with me - and stay a few days.

    But right now - there is no current exclusive BF - so I get to meet some of the local SF guys sometimes.......nice!