Is it really impossible to be something you wanna be or it is just an excuse to console yourself?

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    Oct 21, 2012 5:25 AM GMT
    I see many hunks with great body build and charm spreading around them, I am a not too attractive person just less than Ok and try to be like them, its not like that I don't try hard but probably I am not too content with it, so at the end of the day I am just me and it is killing me that I can not be one of those popular guys, I dont know what to do, I try to inspire myself finding good things about me but its not helping, any suggessions or thoughts?
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    Oct 21, 2012 5:29 AM GMT
    The only reason why you think those other guys are popular is because you give them that power. Treat them as you would anybody else and there would be no need for you to aspire to be like them. There shit stinks just like everybody else.

    For every hot guy out there, there is someone else who is tired of dealing with their bullshit. Remember that....
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    Oct 21, 2012 6:24 AM GMT
    crazy_raj84 said I see many hunks with great body build and charm spreading around them, I am a not too attractive person just less than Ok and try to be like them, its not like that I don't try hard but probably I am not too content with it, so at the end of the day I am just me and it is killing me that I can not be one of those popular guys, I dont know what to do, I try to inspire myself finding good things about me but its not helping, any suggessions or thoughts?


    I wish dudes would share their feelings more often.its very hot.And don't worry i feel like that sometimes too,
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    Oct 21, 2012 6:35 AM GMT
    u should just be yourself,and not let looks judge your life.
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    Oct 21, 2012 1:23 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    jmusmc85 saidThe only reason why you think those other guys are popular is because you give them that power. Treat them as you would anybody else and there would be no need for you to aspire to be like them. There shit stinks just like everybody else.

    For every hot guy out there, there is someone else who is tired of dealing with their bullshit. Remember that....

    What jmusc is trying to say here is that he wants to sleep with me.


    gills are totally fetch this season
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    Oct 21, 2012 1:33 PM GMT
    Charm stems from confidence. From your post, it sounds like confidence is an issue.
    Remember that you are you and not somebody else, find out what it is that sets you apart and set it free....
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Oct 21, 2012 1:49 PM GMT
    Define yourself and then the world will have to deal with you, rather than dealing with a world determined to define you in turn. Western culture, in particular, is a delusional pit of pretenses that have nothing to do with character. Rise above the desire to model yourself on something outside of yourself and instead become self-actualized, self-made, and in good time you'll be sexually and socially attractive: independent confident singularity that stands out in a crowd.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 21, 2012 2:46 PM GMT
    I think you are getting some good advice. You are letting others define what you think is attractive.. not what you, in your own uniqueness should hold as important and strong. You can't be everything to everybody, so be whats important to you.. and others will pick up on that strength.

    Good luck to you, define goals that you can achieve with your fitness.. achieve those goals. Nobody can do better than that.
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    Oct 21, 2012 2:54 PM GMT
    all good advice. strength comes from the soul not the body. Whenever you feel you have been dealt a shitty hand, take a look around you......there is always someone that will make you understand just how blessed you are. Love starts from within and grows outwardly, not the other way around...hang in there little brother.

    Keith
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    Oct 21, 2012 3:38 PM GMT


    Crazy_raj84, there is only one you-sized jigsaw puzzle piece in the box.

    Be who YOU are and you'll find you can change your shape a little, change your perceptions and attitudes, too, because..........





    warmly,

    -Doug
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    Oct 21, 2012 4:24 PM GMT
    I don't really understand what your goal is. Is it popularity? Do you want to be a model? The only thing in your description of these guys is that they are hunks and that they "spread charm around them". This sounds like a commercial for cologne.

    If you want to be popular, you have to connect with people. Go to them, deal with their flaws, make them feel great about themselves, show them something that they don't already know. Its more than just being hunky and charming.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Oct 22, 2012 12:25 AM GMT
    Dude. The hottest gay men on the planet just replied to your question. Wher are you?
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    Oct 22, 2012 12:32 AM GMT
    Being attractive or popular is not all that it is cracked up to be. Just be yourself. Remember everyone is not perfect although it may seem so on the outside.