Damaged goods: do u think ur baggage gets in the way of ever meeting the right one?

  • TannerMasseur

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    Oct 24, 2012 5:47 PM GMT
    Do u think because of all ur past hurts & trauma u find it hard to ever get into another serious relationship where u can be free & hold nothing back & be present & live in the moment?
  • AMoonHawk

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    Oct 24, 2012 5:52 PM GMT
    I suppose you can consider work, as baggage
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    Oct 24, 2012 5:55 PM GMT
    Not at all, when i saw his profile i msg'd him and its been real good ever since.... I dont have baggage, i'v made a few mistakes but NO BAGGAGE.
  • Import

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    Oct 24, 2012 5:56 PM GMT
    I charge a baggage fee of $30 per bag.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Oct 24, 2012 5:58 PM GMT
    Import or export lol icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 24, 2012 7:46 PM GMT
    EVERYONE has baggage, and sooner or later, we all trip over it in our lifetimes; and if you are lucky to live long enough you hopefully learn how to place the baggage on the checkin counter before you book your flight....
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    Oct 24, 2012 8:21 PM GMT
    Almost everyday...
    I've come to realize my ego is my baggage. If I choose to be a victim or the self-righteous one I choose to be special and different. That's the ego. It keeps me dishonest. It keeps me in the past or the future.

    If I learn to let go of that then I can hold on to a relationship with another human. Relationships are nothing more than that-- holding on and letting go.

    The truth will set you free.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Oct 24, 2012 9:06 PM GMT
    I'm a proponent of travelin' lite icon_smile.gif Anything more than a carry-on is a superfluous burden. icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 24, 2012 9:07 PM GMT
    it will if you let it!
  • TannerMasseur

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    Oct 24, 2012 9:38 PM GMT
    If it doesnt fit in the overhead, u've brought too much! icon_smile.gif
  • TannerMasseur

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    Nov 04, 2012 7:37 PM GMT
    Our thought can be our own roadblocks.....
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    Nov 04, 2012 7:50 PM GMT
    I actually wonder this about myself. I had a great relationship in the past and learned a great deal from it. So in some ways, it has greatly narrowed down and helped pinpoint what I need from a relationship (and what I want to contribute to), but that has also made my mind much more closed. I wouldn't say there's any sort of emotional baggage though (even though I can be quite reserved at times!).
  • TannerMasseur

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    Nov 06, 2012 8:58 AM GMT
    Every stress u face is just a thought. U need to take a moment to just breathe & detach urself from that thought. U don't have to let ur thoughts rule u.
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    Nov 06, 2012 6:07 PM GMT
    oh I love some of the responses in this thread about "no baggage"

    Seriously go live life. Stop living behind a computer where you observe others experiences and think you know better.

    Baggage comes with life, it's part of how it all works.

    And no my baggage doesn't prevent me from meeting the right guy. It keeps the wrong ones at a distance for me though.

    Cause if some guy wants me, he's getting everything and he'd better be mature enough and experienced in life to be able to handle everything about me.
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    Nov 06, 2012 6:14 PM GMT
    spgem saidIf it doesnt fit in the overhead, u've brought too much! icon_smile.gif


    In my line of work , you are our BEST FRIEND !!!!icon_biggrin.gif
  • Medjai

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    Nov 06, 2012 6:16 PM GMT
    It didn't get in the way for me. My boyfriend has heard most of it, and seems to have gotten past it, and same for me. We're more interested in who we are than who we were.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Nov 06, 2012 6:31 PM GMT
    To lilTanker: Aren't we all behind computers?! That's why we're on here.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Nov 06, 2012 6:33 PM GMT
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    Nov 06, 2012 6:42 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidoh I love some of the responses in this thread about "no baggage"

    Seriously go live life. Stop living behind a computer where you observe others experiences and think you know better.

    Baggage comes with life, it's part of how it all works.

    And no my baggage doesn't prevent me from meeting the right guy. It keeps the wrong ones at a distance for me though.

    Cause if some guy wants me, he's getting everything and he'd better be mature enough and experienced in life to be able to handle everything about me.


    Bingo, yet here I sit online ha
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    Nov 06, 2012 7:13 PM GMT
    cuerpoymente saidI actually wonder this about myself. I had a great relationship in the past and learned a great deal from it. So in some ways, it has greatly narrowed down and helped pinpoint what I need from a relationship (and what I want to contribute to), but that has also made my mind much more closed. I wouldn't say there's any sort of emotional baggage though (even though I can be quite reserved at times!).


    I feel the same way. It's good to know what I want now, but just gets frustrating that's its soo hard to come by :/
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    Nov 06, 2012 7:15 PM GMT
    Nope.

    My baggage is high-end.

    And it smells good.

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    Nov 06, 2012 7:18 PM GMT
    Cash saidNope.

    My baggage is high-end.

    And it smells good.

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    That's my Man.
    If you're gonna carry baggage, they better be designer. icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 06, 2012 7:19 PM GMT



    (dusting off my vintage Gucci luggage)
  • Suetonius

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    Nov 06, 2012 7:22 PM GMT
    Travel light; leave the bags behind.
  • vintovka

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    Nov 06, 2012 7:22 PM GMT
    spgem saidDo u think because of all ur past hurts & trauma u find it hard to ever get into another serious relationship where u can be free & hold nothing back & be present & live in the moment?


    I think lot's of us have baggage like this, but the bigger problem becomes not so much that it prevents s from "finding" something or someone, so much as it prevents us from recognizing the things/people that are tight in front of us.

    So it's not an issue, in my mind, of "meeting the right one" but instead recognizing the options inherent in everyday life, if we can't do that it doesn't matter how many people we meet.