I honestly don't know why we are friends

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    Oct 25, 2012 12:52 AM GMT
    I met this woman randomly one day. We talked about things and it was one of those moments where you know you found someone special, I guess. Anyway, over the last few months I've learned who she really is.

    I love her to death but she and I differ on so much. She is racist, judgemental towards people who look or dress a certain way, focuses a lot on what others think, elitist and *shudder* republican. She has a big heart, but she comes across as negative at times. She has kids and normally its just not something I feel comfortable around. If I knew these things about her right away I probably wouldn't associate with her.

    I got to know her and what she went through and her life and mine seem similar, even though our life details are completely different of course. What I like about her is that even though she is rough around the edges, she has some kind of spirit inside that I just....understand

    She is open minded with gay and social issues which is part of why we clicked, but I sometimes ask myself how can I be friends with someone so different from me? I feel like I'm condoning/overlooking the aspects I would otherwise dispise in a person. Maybe it's just accepting her for who she is? I have no intention of leaving her, just an anecdote. Any similar stories?
  • kevmoran

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    Oct 25, 2012 12:57 AM GMT
    It depends on what kind of friend you want her to be. If you really differ that much, maybe she can be your once a week hangout buddy. But it's hard to have a best friend that you don't see eye to eye with.
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    Oct 25, 2012 1:14 AM GMT
    I guess you could say I have a similar story. One of my really good friends right now is like this pot-head, and normally I wouldn't really seek out that type of company because I'm not interested in smoking in any way. But when we first met in class, we just hit it off on everything. Most of the time I'm supporting with whatever problems arise in their life but it's OK, because we have each others' backs just most problems stem from their side. Anyway, that's the one issue (the smoking) that I have a problem with and well I sometimes bring it up but I don't really want to cause a change if that's who she is.

    So to relate to you, I maybe would not have decided to hang around with her if I knew about the smoking beforehand... but even though I know about it now, I still don't really care even though normally I'd be against that sort of behaviour.

    PS: Loved your coming out video, you need to have that somewhere I can watch it again.
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    Oct 25, 2012 1:16 AM GMT
    She's just playing Princess Charming to get your trust so she can gather info on you to use against you later.

    Typical republican... icon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 25, 2012 5:21 PM GMT
    OneSongGlory saidI guess you could say I have a similar story. One of my really good friends right now is like this pot-head, and normally I wouldn't really seek out that type of company because I'm not interested in smoking in any way. But when we first met in class, we just hit it off on everything. Most of the time I'm supporting with whatever problems arise in their life but it's OK, because we have each others' backs just most problems stem from their side. Anyway, that's the one issue (the smoking) that I have a problem with and well I sometimes bring it up but I don't really want to cause a change if that's who she is.

    So to relate to you, I maybe would not have decided to hang around with her if I knew about the smoking beforehand... but even though I know about it now, I still don't really care even though normally I'd be against that sort of behaviour.

    PS: Loved your coming out video, you need to have that somewhere I can watch it again.


    Thanks for your story! and I put it on my profile, just for you ;)
  • Karl

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    Oct 25, 2012 5:29 PM GMT
    If you feel like she's a really good friend to you , go on hanging out with her.
    Everybody got a dark side , she can be racist , she can be a republican , but she's good to you (in a good way) , so keep developing this friendship and accept who she is.

    I dont have a similar story but I think I'll be nice with whoever that I feel I can get on with .

    Differences sometimes is fascinating icon_smile.gif