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JustinAndChri... Posts: 25
Sep 03, 2008 2:42 AM GMT
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We're very excited right now and just have to share with everyone. Were here in San Diego for a few days and went and paid a visit to the San Diego County Admin. Center and are now a legally Married Couple. It was a bit of a scary process, but wow the feeling after words is so so nice. Now we have to start planning an actual Wedding Ceremony back home for Feb. or March of 2009. So with all that said if any of you are considering getting married we highly suggest you go though with it, no one there will judge you or look at you weird or any thing crazy like that. It was a great experience all the way around. Now on the serious side of it, really think it through and make sure its what you want to do, we have been together 2 and a half years, and new its what we wanted. Sorry I just had to tell as many people as possible how happy I am.
VinBaltimore Posts: 225
Sep 03, 2008 2:43 AM GMT
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Cheers!
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Sep 03, 2008 3:10 AM GMT
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congrats!
Caslon8000 Posts: 8510
Sep 03, 2008 3:29 AM GMT
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Is this what it was like when he proposed....

funny pictures ... congratulations!
lilmann Posts: 544
Sep 03, 2008 3:33 AM GMT
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Congratulations!
LaxJock73 Posts: 35
Sep 03, 2008 3:42 AM GMT
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Congratulations and wishing you the best -- health, wealth and happiness for many years ahead.

Bill
PSCalif Posts: 219
Sep 03, 2008 3:43 AM GMT
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CONGRATS TO THE NEWLYWEDS!!!
brolyn Posts: 24
Sep 03, 2008 3:45 AM GMT
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fantastic news!
congratulations!
meninlove Posts: 1831
Sep 03, 2008 3:49 AM GMT
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Both Bill and I extend Heartfelt Congratulations on your special day!!

We wear plain gold bands, which are "comfort fit". They're curved on the inside, so they feel as though they float. We recommend 'em.

Hope your ceremony is a blast!

-us

Thanks for sharing this!
eb925guy Posts: 991
Sep 03, 2008 4:12 AM GMT
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Congratulations guys! I'm very happy for you. May you find many years of happiness and always keep the lines of communications open. Blessings to you!
AshLeon Posts: 148
Sep 03, 2008 4:22 AM GMT
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ˇˇˇFELICIDADES!!!

=D
JustinAndChri... Posts: 25
Sep 03, 2008 4:29 AM GMT
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Holy Crap...WoW. I didn't expect so many replies. Thanks to each and everyone of you. Although we don't know any of you, your comments and best wishes mean a lot to us. In response to the "rings" we actually have Irish Wedding Rings. There the ones that have the two hands, a heart, and a crown on them, standing for friendship (hands), love (heart), and loyalty (crown). We didn't pick these out for this occasion, we actually were out and about, shopping, and the jeweler was telling us about these rings, and we decided as a couple just after our first year of being together that these were some damn cool rings. So anyway, we've had them for awhile, but just got them polished up.
EricLA Posts: 1348
Sep 03, 2008 4:31 AM GMT
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Congrats!!! Hope you two got married in your Superman undies!
samerphx Posts: 2081
Sep 03, 2008 4:31 AM GMT
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Yay!!!! Congratulation! Are you going to invite me to your wedding party?
uiucguy1983 Posts: 18
Sep 03, 2008 5:25 AM GMT
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Congrats guys!!!
looknrnd Posts: 780
Sep 03, 2008 5:28 AM GMT
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EricLA saidCongrats!!! Hope you two got married in your Superman undies!


I was going to suggest the same exact thing, except the full outfit. Well, maybe just the "bride" should have the cape - mix things up a bit.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!
skotjockmi Posts: 126
Sep 03, 2008 5:41 AM GMT
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Congratulations guys!
muchmorethanm... Posts: 2850
Sep 03, 2008 5:52 AM GMT
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So just curious. Now that you are legally married will you two still feel like you will keep the possibility of inviting other sex partners to your boudoir as your profile describes?

Not meaning to sound disrespectful but I don't understand that level of commitment toward each other. It doesn't sound like a ceremony that focuses on commitment toward one another but rather partaking in a legal ceremony that allows one another total access to the other one's estate should one of you pass.

Call me old fashion but you've expressed the likelihood of indulging in a swapping/swingers" style of sex for married couples by what your profile reads. You just got married. At least enjoy the honeymoon before advertising the possibility of inviting others to your bedroom.
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Sep 03, 2008 5:54 AM GMT
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dcarm Posts: 291
Sep 03, 2008 8:14 AM GMT
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Congratulations guys!

Well done!
Gemini Posts: 57
Sep 03, 2008 8:28 AM GMT
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Wow, congratulations! =)
lsutiger08 Posts: 5
Sep 03, 2008 8:55 AM GMT
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Congrats!
metta8 Posts: 335
Sep 03, 2008 9:08 AM GMT
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CONGRATULATIONS!!!

You two are so cute together.






I wish both of you a lifetime of happiness and love!



MuslDrew Posts: 432
Sep 03, 2008 11:08 AM GMT
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Best wishes guys!
gymguy1 Posts: 1088
Sep 03, 2008 11:31 AM GMT
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Congrats guys. Where is the honeymoon?
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Sep 03, 2008 11:33 AM GMT
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THATS AWESOME!!!! SO HAPPY FOR YOU BOTH!!!!
danielryan Posts: 602
Sep 03, 2008 1:33 PM GMT
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good luck and congrats!
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Sep 03, 2008 1:41 PM GMT
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Congrats from Justin and Doug!
SAHEM62896 Posts: 1377
Sep 03, 2008 1:41 PM GMT
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Congrats from Todd and Adam!
Ducky44 Posts: 1123
Sep 03, 2008 1:43 PM GMT
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YIPPEEE!
swlaman82 Posts: 54
Sep 03, 2008 1:53 PM GMT
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CONGRATULATIONS! You two make a very good looking couple and it is great to hear that it went so well for y'all.

I hope you have many years of health and happiness together.
Chizzad Posts: 687
Sep 03, 2008 2:00 PM GMT
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Here's wishing you both a long and happy life together, may you always be with eachother. We are also considering this step in the near future and it's nice to know that it can happen now.

-Chizzad
Squarejaw Posts: 915
Sep 03, 2008 2:33 PM GMT
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REALJOCK ADMINISTRATORS: I think it might be time to add a new option to the "Relationship Status" field: MARRIED
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Sep 03, 2008 2:42 PM GMT
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That is so awesome, and congratulations! I see in your profile that you have an "Open Relationship (play together)". HA! So much for the "sanctity of marriage". And we wonder why the straight world isn't jumping on this "gay marriage" thing. Let us know when divorce proceedings begin.
Koaa2 Posts: 630
Sep 03, 2008 2:54 PM GMT
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Congratulations guys. I think you should be proud of your relationship. All relationships are different and whatever works for each one of them should be respected.
HighVoltageGu... Posts: 1543
Sep 03, 2008 2:54 PM GMT
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Congrats to you both...and your Super Man underoos!
Chizzad Posts: 687
Sep 03, 2008 3:24 PM GMT
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JockMyka saidThat is so awesome, and congratulations! I see in your profile that you have an "Open Relationship (play together)". HA! So much for the "sanctity of marriage". And we wonder why the straight world isn't jumping on this "gay marriage" thing. Let us know when divorce proceedings begin.


Ouch, that's gonna leave a mark LOL j/k
coolarmydude Posts: 1195
Sep 03, 2008 4:08 PM GMT
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Congratulations!!!


Have your mothers begun to pressure you for a grandchild yet? j/k

coolarmydude Posts: 1195
Sep 03, 2008 4:11 PM GMT
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JockMyka said, "That is so awesome, and congratulations! I see in your profile that you have an "Open Relationship (play together)". HA! So much for the "sanctity of marriage". And we wonder why the straight world isn't jumping on this "gay marriage" thing. Let us know when divorce proceedings begin."


If you can't be nice on their special occasion, don't say anything at all. What works for one couple doesn't necessarily work for another couple, hetero or homo. No relationship, married or otherwise, should ever be judged on an outsider's expectations.
Guy101 Posts: 941
Sep 03, 2008 4:21 PM GMT
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Congrats to the newly weds. Best of wishes and may all your future dreams become present.

Jockmyka: That's hilarious.
Koaa2 Posts: 630
Sep 03, 2008 7:48 PM GMT
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Ya kinda of get tired of these sanctamonius queers who think they have all the answers.

I think it is usually the ones who are beating the bandwagon the most regarding monogamy, that are the ones who are usually violating it the most and projecting it onto others to make themselves feel good. Don't forget our good pal Larry Craig, exactly what he was up to!

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Sep 03, 2008 8:03 PM GMT
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That is awesome guys, Congratulations! We are very happy for you both. We are thinking about it next year. After 20 years I guess its time.
Sedative Posts: 6113
Sep 03, 2008 8:55 PM GMT
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*me pours rice over the newlyweds* XD
jonboy320 Posts: 90
Sep 03, 2008 9:11 PM GMT
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Congratulations guys!!! Best of luck!
DinGdoNg Posts: 293
Sep 03, 2008 9:15 PM GMT
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notsoomuch23 Posts: 108
Sep 03, 2008 9:16 PM GMT
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in response to the one who is basically saying that a divorce is coming up in their future because they are married and in open relationship, saying that "no wonder hetero dont want to support gay marriage".. last time I checked it was not only homosexual couples that enjoy some outside fun every now and then. One of my straight girl friends (well more like bi) was introduced to a married hetero couple, and they liked her so much she lives with them and sometimes has fun with them. Though right now I dont personally want to be in open relationship, if it works for anyone then that is what works. So don't bash against it or else you are just as close-minded as those non-conformist heteros that don't approve of gay marriage.

oh and PS CONGRATULATIONS!!! So Awesome to hear! :-)
explorer Posts: 46
Sep 04, 2008 3:31 AM GMT
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Excellent! I'm happy for you both. A Sincere congratulations to both of you and Best Wishes for your life together! We're in the same boat. I think about the fact that we'll be some of the first gay guys in American History that will be able to do this. ( of course there have been many more before us but the numbers are still small relatively) So ...... Enjoy your truly unique journey.
muchmorethanm... Posts: 2850
Sep 04, 2008 6:32 AM GMT
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Koaa2 saidYa kinda of get tired of these sanctamonius queers who think they have all the answers.

I think it is usually the ones who are beating the bandwagon the most regarding monogamy, that are the ones who are usually violating it the most and projecting it onto others to make themselves feel good. Don't forget our good pal Larry Craig, exactly what he was up to!


Not sure if this comment was partially directed toward me as I know another person left a more abrasive comment. But I think I expressed my questions in a respectful tone. I don't know where you get the rationalization that those who past judgments on others for lack of monogamy are total hypocrites.

I know males that went to Canada to get married because at the time it was the only option. And the ones that have an open relationship are not honest with their spouse. Dishonesty is simply the culmination of what results when you allow the possibility of sex outside the marriage to be allowable. People lie, jealousy results and all I can say is that it's not something I want in my life.

And 3 way type of relationship don't last very long. I know of a few examples that ended. I know that there is no guarantee in any relationship but it just doesn't work.

Maybe perhaps some of you hold different people to different standards. I know for myself that I'm glad that my parents didn't tell the world about getting married yet advertise before and after the wedding (through a medium like a website) that they were open to the possibility of sex with others.

Most of you are turning a blind eye by saying "Congratulations!" when I've seen a couple of you criticizing other members for leaving a post that contradicts what their profile states. As I reread the profile, which by the way has been slightly reworded, I just don't get why we need to know your sexual roles in the bedroom if you really are indeed not looking for other sex mates as your profile confusingly asserts in the newly revised version.

I wish you the best and hope it works but let me finish by saying this. One of the two of you is going to grow old a lot more gracefully than the other. Assuming that you survive marriage until that time (and I'm aware that a large percentage of hetero married couples divorce, so the odds for gay men may be just as good if not hopefully better) just imagine the complications this will create if you both expect to keep on having sex with the occasionally invited 3rd partner but one of you continually gets rejected? It creates a lot of insecurity, resentment, jealousy. Relationships are a lot of work just one on one. I can't imagine throwing these extra unnecessary obstacles into the mix.

Maybe you both will grow out of the urge to have side dishes now and then. Maybe you'll be a success no matter what and stay by each other "until death." But from what I've seen in scenarios such as this; one of the partners is a lot more hyperactive sexually and dishonest while the other one has to continually turn a blind eye to it all while living a life of complacency.
ChrisInLDN Posts: 99
Sep 04, 2008 9:07 AM GMT
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muchmorethanmuscle said
Not sure if this comment was partially directed toward me as I know another person left a more abrasive comment. But I think I expressed my questions in a respectful tone. I don't know where you get the rationalization that those who past judgments on others for lack of monogamy are total hypocrites.

I know males that went to Canada to get married because at the time it was the only option. And the ones that have an open relationship are not honest with their spouse. Dishonesty is simply the culmination of what results when you allow the possibility of sex outside the marriage to be allowable. People lie, jealousy results and all I can say is that it's not something I want in my life.

And 3 way type of relationship don't last very long. I know of a few examples that ended. I know that there is no guarantee in any relationship but it just doesn't work.

I wish you the best and hope it works but let me finish by saying this. One of the two of you is going to grow old a lot more gracefully than the other. Assuming that you survive marriage until that time (and I'm aware that a large percentage of hetero married couples divorce, so the odds for gay men may be just as good if not hopefully better) just imagine the complications this will create if you both expect to keep on having sex with the occasionally invited 3rd partner but one of you continually gets rejected? It creates a lot of insecurity, resentment, jealousy. Relationships are a lot of work just one on one. I can't imagine throwing these extra unnecessary obstacles into the mix.

Maybe you both will grow out of the urge to have side dishes now and then. Maybe you'll be a success no matter what and stay by each other "until death." But from what I've seen in scenarios such as this; one of the partners is a lot more hyperactive sexually and dishonest while the other one has to continually turn a blind eye to it all while living a life of complacency.


Man you have no idea what you are talking about, I have been in a relationship for over 12 years and know of plenty of other long lasting relationships where 3somes do no harm to the relationship . Fine that 3somes may not be for you but I don't think it's acceptable for you to piss on their wedding parade because you aren't interested in 3somes. It's pretty sanctimonious of you. The thread was to celebrate the marriage of these guys, you original post didn't even say congratulations, it just launched into a judgemental attack.

Relationships fail for all sorts of reasons and to imply that 3somes will place a strain on their relationship any more than other factors (like money for example) is just plain silly. They have obviously discussed what they want from each other and their sexlives and for you to snipe from the sidelines just comes accross as unnecessary and bitter. ( 'One of you will grow old more gracefully than the other' WTF? What else do you see in your crystal ball?)


Congratulation boys - I hope you're very happy together
muchmorethanm... Posts: 2850
Sep 04, 2008 9:46 AM GMT
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Screw you, Chris. I'm entitled to my opinion just as you are to yours.

And I know what I'm talking about from my personal observations.
And if you want to use five dollar words like "sanctimonious" you should at least use the terms correctly because that doesn't apply to me. I'm not a hypocrite. I never said I was better than anyone here. And I'm not criticizing someone while I shamelessly do the same thing.

I wasn't trying to piss on them. But I must admit that announcing to the whole world that you've recently married while simultaneously advertising to the world you entertain the thought of inviting others to the bedroom is just ....odd to me.

If I were to get married it's because I'm so in love with that person. I am not into three way sex anyway regardless of my affection for someone or lack thereof. However, I do find it disturbingly curious that making mention of a recent marriage while the person's profile entertains the "thought" of multiple sex partners is just so incredibly foreign to me.

And I did wish them the best but you failed to read my post that you chose to quote in your response to me. Probably because you took my comments as a personal attack toward you. I'm not here to attack anyone.

I'm not going to apologize for my unorthodox response to this subject. Multiple sex partners in marriage is unorthodox to me so why is it expected of me to partake in all the congratulatory bullshit? I'm expected to respond in a certain positive way? Well, that's very interesting as I have expectations as to what taking wedding vows should be. But God forbid if I were to push that on someone like you and flaunt my beliefs. But feel free to push yours. It's not like you'd be called a hypocrite or anything.

So are you married to your partner of 12 years? Just curious, Chris.
ChrisInLDN Posts: 99
Sep 04, 2008 10:08 AM GMT
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muchmorethanmuscle saidSo just curious. Now that you are legally married will you two still feel like you will keep the possibility of inviting other sex partners to your boudoir as your profile describes?

Not meaning to sound disrespectful but I don't understand that level of commitment toward each other. It doesn't sound like a ceremony that focuses on commitment toward one another but rather partaking in a legal ceremony that allows one another total access to the other one's estate should one of you pass.

Call me old fashion but you've expressed the likelihood of indulging in a swapping/swingers" style of sex for married couples by what your profile reads. You just got married. At least enjoy the honeymoon before advertising the possibility of inviting others to your bedroom.


This is your first post- you do not congratulate them nor do you wish them 'all the best' . You need a reality check. You wished them all the best after people had said your original point of view was uncalled for (and even that was halfway through a post telling thei relationship was doomed to failure).

Fine if you don't agree with the fact they engage in 3somes, but that's not what the thread was discussing and I find it hard to believe anyone with any level of social skills would think your comments appropriate in a celebratory thread.

muchmorethanm... Posts: 2850
Sep 04, 2008 4:55 PM GMT
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Yes, I see what you're saying. In my first post I did not. Trust me when I say that I really wanted to but then something in the back of my mind told me to read the profile first and after having read it I responded differently.
meninlove Posts: 1831
Sep 04, 2008 5:17 PM GMT
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There are as many types of marriage as there are stars in the sky.
Peace everyone!!

Congratulations are in order... please take this kind of thing to another thread. All of you making debates here can edit your posts to something more uplifting and fitting of this history making example of progress, not to mention love!

-us
cu_man4fun Posts: 12
Sep 04, 2008 5:17 PM GMT
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Congratulations,

Partnered for 14 years and we live in Champaign Illinois. We had our wedding ceremony and reception 9 June 2001...157 guests in attendance. We are going to Palm Springs, California in October to pick up the license. And for us it is all about the license that is to say, Equal rights no more and no less! I guess if the voters in California resend marriage rights in November we will head to the east coast and get a new licence in Boston Massachusetts.

You GO Boyz!
Guy101 Posts: 941
Sep 04, 2008 5:18 PM GMT
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I see both points of this lovely debate but a simply congrats or even a not replying at all would've been as fine.

What's good for the goose ain't always good fro the gander and observation will always be beat out by experience not matter what the situation.

If what you observe isn't to your liking then trying it would be a waste of time I say but some people have experienced the the whoel open relationship thing and it seem to work for them. I know couples who are in open relationships. One of them are long time friends of the family who even have kids and have lasted over 20 years. That should say something right there. The other couple are people whom I've been associated myself with for over 5 years now with a kid on the way.

I would say having any kind of relationship be it open or secluded is very possible as longas you have trust, respect, rules, and most importantly communication.

I myself am not down with the concept of an open relationship. It doesn't suit me and my personality but I say kudos to the people who can make it work. I openly admit that I was always shocked about open relationships but the more I got to know my friends the more I realized that they have something that seems to work and makes them happy with the situation they are in.

Muchmore, I can see where you are coming from since it's a bit perplexing but nonetheless it's their choice of life and it seems to make them happy. Your comment wasn't even that harsh but it does have a certain tone to it that would make anyone raise an eyebrow since you threw a comment that sorta questions their commitment level. iIt's all good though and I know you meant it in the nicest way.

Just congratulate them and let them be. Their happiness or lack of it should something happen will not effect you in any way.
JustinAndChri... Posts: 25
Sep 05, 2008 9:46 AM GMT
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Wow, we step away for a short while and have missed so much apparently. First off, no one has offended us with anything they have posted. After I went back and read our profile to see what may have been misunderstood I can say that I don't understand what may have upset anyone. We are a young couple and have experimented and acted out some of our fantasies. Some may feel that it's not appropriate, we however talked it over time and time again and then decided to proceed with some of the sexual activities we were interested in. We've not participated in a lot, and have found that the act is not as "hot" as we all may fantasize. We're happy we have learned this early on in life, and enjoy each other that much more. The key thing with us is that we discuss everything in life and remain completely open minded to everything without forming an opinion towards anyone who does something we dont find ourselves into. Our communication level is unreal, ask anyone that personally knows us. I crack up at the thought of what you would think about my saying this is my (justin) first relationship ever, and other than the very few people i may have fooled around with, this being the first person (chris) I had real gay sex with Life can be short, or it can be long, fortunately we live our life day to day, and will continue to do so. As far as "growing old" and bodies changing, it's not a concern of ours at all. We are fortunate that we are now recognized as a couple to the state, regardless of what activities or fetishes we may have. Oh, and I have to say you're so right about the one will age better. I envy Chris for his skin type and aging gene. His parents look absolutely amazing, at over 50+ they look maybe late 30's.....as for me, i only pray & wish that a miracle happens for me in the near future that takes care of the skin that will be hanging off my face. Upside, i wont have to wear mask at halloween when the young whipper snappers knock on the door trick or treating. Ha! Good night all, i appreciate everyones input and i do respect everyones opinion and was truly not offended by anyone. To each their own, just enjoy what it is you have or may want to be, and live with it in the loudest and proudest way.
meninlove Posts: 1831
Sep 05, 2008 12:37 PM GMT
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Thanks guys, we do and will. At times like these, all is right with the world.....
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