Oct 29, 2012 1:15 AM GMT
...I'm going to share with you some straight world issues.
We have 'kids' both gay and straight. They are not biologically ours nor adopted kids. They're young adults that need fairy god-fathers, lol.
Carol, 25, is sweet as the day is long, and all kinds of pretty (dynamite pretty).
A little over a year ago one of her friends of a few years ended his high school begun romance with his GF . He began courting Carol. Slowly at first then persistently. Renot and Carol began dating, and over the course of a few months it got very serious and pretty wonderful.
Then, at one point, it stalled. She couldn't meet his family, most of his friends, visit him at work, or go to his place. His ex GF, he explained, knew them all and he 'didn't want her to feel bad'. The visits to Carol became fewer, sometimes once in 2 weeks.
One day he told her he was going skydiving with a buddy. She wasn't allowed to come along because if anything bad happened he didn't want her to witness a horrible accident.
Most recently, he decided to go on a trip away to another country for 10 days. She wasn't invited. Instead, he told he that he loved her and was in love with her but needed his space. He said he'd never been single and thought he should for awhile.
Not to sleep with or date anyone else, he said. Carol asked him what she was to feel and do. He said he didn't know. She asked him how he'd feel if she'd said all that he said to her. He said he'd be upset.
She asked if they were ending things. He said he didn't know. He left for 10 days. No contact til just before he returned. Emails that asked no questions, but said he missed her constantly and thought about her constantly and hoped she was well.
Then he returned... no calls. So after a few days, watching her in her grief, I told her to email him with two words, "...call me."
He did. He told her again that he loved her deeply and was also deeply in love with her but wanted to be single so he could see what it was like, and to sort himself out. He said he had no idea how long that would be but wanted her to wait for him.
She told him she wanted him to at least tell her that in person, and could he come over. No, he said, he had a party to go to.
Today was an agony for her. She called him again and he agreed to see her (to say to her face what he'd said on the phone) by taking her to a restaurant. He told her not to look nice because that could make him change his mind about being single.