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    Oct 29, 2012 3:20 AM GMT
    We live in very different times than our parents and grandparents- cellphones, computers, t.v.... we live in a very digital world. I cant remember the exact statistic but apparently most couples now meet online. With this said, often times I wonder about the effect that websites and phone apps have taken on good old fashioned dating, I've noticed that people seem to be losing social and communication skills.

    At the mall I see kids huddled in a circle on cellphones, people at dinner on cellphones, I have friends who are shy in person yet will keep me up until 2 am typing away on skype or aim. I've met guys who seem outgoing and interesting online yet they are painfully awkward in the real world.

    I've also noticed that people don't really seem to date anymore- apps and websites turn the process into "whos closer, and who has the better body". There is a certain anonymity thats attractive- I understand as being attractive as a gay guy you don't want to hit on a guy thats straight and offend.. but is this an excuse to forgo dating altogether and justify random and anonymous hookups?

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  • unhooligan

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    Oct 29, 2012 3:29 AM GMT
    I'm guilty of being outgoing online but shy in person. :/
    world changes, and life goes on. It also makes finding those old fashioned people much more satisfying.
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    Oct 29, 2012 3:32 AM GMT
    I think I heard 1/5 people meet online.

    People have definitely lost conversational skills due to technology. Being able to write is certainly easier for some people. And technology has made random hook-ups very easy.

    At the same time though those who look for love have a better chance of finding it. And those who may be better at online conversation do fine with in-person interaction once they are comfortable enough.

    I think the technology is really just what we make it to be. Some people want sex, others want love, so they find what they are looking for. Some people want secrecy others are okay with putting themselves out there. Again, its all what we make it to be.
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    Oct 29, 2012 3:46 AM GMT
    OP: I loved your insight. I feel the same way about some things. Even though I'm only 19, I have noticed the change with the younger generation. Gosh I even feel old when I tell my little cousins "When I was your age I didn't grow up with Ipads or handheld video games. I only had VHS tapes and tape recorders." Lol
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    Oct 29, 2012 3:53 AM GMT
    It definitely seems like people are losing conversational skills. Another way I don't fit in with kids my age is that when I'm with a group of people I don't want to be on the phone. I enjoy human interaction. On multiple occasions I have been in a room with my friends and received a text from one of them...really?

    Plus when I go out to eat with a friend, I hate when they're on their phone while talking to me or just don't talk and sit on their phone the whole time. Personally I think it's so disrespectful to not put the phone down and have a real face to face conversation. It just rubs me the wrong way
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:01 AM GMT
    PittBull_21 saidIt definitely seems like people are losing conversational skills. Another way I don't fit in with kids my age is that when I'm with a group of people I don't want to be on the phone. I enjoy human interaction. On multiple occasions I have been in a room with my friends and received a text from one of them...really?

    Plus when I go out to eat with a friend, I hate when they're on their phone while talking to me or just don't talk and sit on their phone the whole time. Personally I think it's so disrespectful to not put the phone down and have a real face to face conversation. It just rubs me the wrong way


    amen.

    I seem to have mostly older friends because they can actually keep a conversation while my friends closer to my own age are more concerned taking pictures of themselves "having a good time" to post on facebook
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:03 AM GMT
    sonicpower19 saidOP: I loved your insight. I feel the same way about some things. Even though I'm only 19, I have noticed the change with the younger generation. Gosh I even feel old when I tell my little cousins "When I was your age I didn't grow up with Ipads or handheld video games. I only had VHS tapes and tape recorders." Lol


    remember casettes tapes? i remember making mix tapes and using white out and markers and making them for people... those were the days
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:09 AM GMT
    Posting about this on an internet forum? At least irony is still alive and well.
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    Oct 29, 2012 12:32 PM GMT
    catchy_screen_name said
    sonicpower19 saidOP: I loved your insight. I feel the same way about some things. Even though I'm only 19, I have noticed the change with the younger generation. Gosh I even feel old when I tell my little cousins "When I was your age I didn't grow up with Ipads or handheld video games. I only had VHS tapes and tape recorders." Lol


    remember casettes tapes? i remember making mix tapes and using white out and markers and making them for people... those were the days


    Oh I remember those days. Some of the best days back then. Nintendo 64 was amazing, using VHS tapes to record shows, big boxy white computers, etc.
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    Oct 29, 2012 1:26 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Just_Tim said[/cite]Posting about this on an internet forum? At least irony is still alive and well.[/quote

    thanks for your contribution captain obvious. *high fucking five*icon_biggrin.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Oct 29, 2012 2:03 PM GMT
    Some people feel more at home on the internet than in real life. The 21st century is becoming a hive where more of human activity--socializing, business, etc--is done on the intellectual playing field of writing, photos and videos. In the 20th century that was called scrap booking.icon_lol.gif
  • WhoDey

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    Oct 29, 2012 2:17 PM GMT
    catchy_screen_name said-apps and websites turn the process into "whos closer, and who has the better body".


    Yet you write the guys you want to meet has to "be fit" in your profile...The irony continues.
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    Oct 29, 2012 2:23 PM GMT
    My father's in his 80s but has finally given up on trying to get me on facebook with him. Though he's fine in person, he does not like talking on the phone, cuts conversations short there, but prefers email.

    I grew up without internet but the internet grew up with me. I've been on this thing since bulletin boards, we had string telephones when I was a kid and now cell phones. I met my 2nd best bud, a 10-year relationship, online way back in the early 90s. He lived 3000 miles away. We wouldn't have met any other way.

    So it isn't quite true that older generations don't live in the digital age too. I even had to correct a college professor about this in an aging studies class who was trying to tell us how older people are at a disadvantage because they aren't computer savvy. Right, those of us here since pre-app dos prompts aren't computer savvy. Might wanna rethink that.

    But I think you are right on the communication skills between the generations. But even the older generations seem to be slipping there. More and more I see them with their eyes glued to their palms. Between texting and masterbating the palm has never before known such prominence. And some of the rudeness is outrageous. I can't believe how many times I've clicked people on ignore, and not just online. I don't recall at all people behaving so badly from when I was a kid.

    The communication skills are so bad among some young that I can hardly even understand when they talk. My own nephew is annoying as hell to try to listen to. He's so used to just typing his thoughts that he often fails to pronounce properly. He does this rapid fire mumbling shit with no filter between his brain and his mouth so all ya hear is neurons poppin'. He can't say three sentences without me saying "what" four times. It's so stupid. And it's a shame because he's a smart kid. Mom wrote in my baby book that by 18 months I was singing songs; you're almost 18 years, learn the fuck to talk already.

    I think one of the problems with the kid is my sil allowed him to wear those ear pods all the time. At the fuckin' dinner table. My mother would have ripped those things out of my ears. Life is going to do everything it can to isolate you without you helping it along. You're going to move around and lose friends along the way. People you love are going to die on you. People will betray you.

    It's not like you need to do anything to isolate yourself to help life along. By the time you're in your 60s or 80s, most of the people you know will be dead. You're not gonna have anyone left to text. Take the fucking phone out of your face already. You won't know what you're missing till its gone and then you're finally gonna realize, holy crap, you never even had it. You fuckin' blew that deal. Oh well, it was only life.

    Can I have a redo? I was busy texting.
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    Oct 29, 2012 2:49 PM GMT
    Oh.. I thought this was gonna be a thread about me. :s

    Oh well. I guess it's not. icon_smile.gif

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    Oct 29, 2012 3:13 PM GMT
    I agree with the OP....we have spawned a generation and future of people who are electronically adept, but socially crippled. People have a hard time interacting face to face with each other because it appears that is not a skill that needs to be honed.

    I drive by a school bus stop and see ten kids standing, arms bent up at the elbows, head down at their hands, and thumbs moving furiously. Ear buds complete the scenario, and not ONE of those kids is interacting with the other......sad imho.....
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    Oct 29, 2012 3:19 PM GMT

    lol, some people are going to find intimacy in bed somewhat curtailed, when they have to text each other while in bed together because they've lost the ability to connect their thoughts to their voice instead of their hands on a keyboard. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 29, 2012 3:37 PM GMT
    I agree it is a sad state that kids mostly communicate electronically. However eventually they will have to enter the workforce where communication is an important skill. They will very quickly learn that you cant text your boss your response when you are in conversation with him/her. Thats when they will painfully learn how to communicate verbally. Those with the sharpest communication skills who know what to say, when to say it and how to say it, along with appropriate body language, will benefit most.
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    Oct 29, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
    Yup, I agree with OP.
    Bitches need to chill with their cell phone for real. icon_rolleyes.gif

    I was at a concert with 4 friends a few nights ago.... when I looked to my side all 4 of them were down staring at their phones, rather then enjoying the concernt. So, I took out my cell, snapped a pic of all 4 of them and send it to all 4 of them.....We had a good laugh and put down our phones after that. .

    So annoying though. Wtf are people looking at this is so interesting? Another "friend" of mine..... we were hanging out just yesterday. We were watching a movie and I kid u not... the entire time he had his phone in his hand...and just staring at it for 2 hours straight.

    Like, I get when a txt comes through and u wanna respond real quick, but sitting on ur phone for 2 hours? Damn bro, u have a problem. Like, honestly, just leave, I could be doing so many better things right now that looking at ur lit-up ugly face staring at ur cell phone. You're boring me and I would rather u not, so u can just leave..... so that I may go do other things....like clean my bathroom, which id rather do then watch u on ur cell.
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:02 PM GMT
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    meninlove said
    lol, some people are going to find intimacy in bed somewhat curtailed, when they have to text each other while in bed together because they've lost the ability to connect their thoughts to their voice instead of their hands on a keyboard. icon_wink.gif
    Hey. Don't judge me.

    I'll admit that I use my phone a lot. It's easier to keep track of everything and everyone. If I miss something important then I usually have to pay for it later. However, when I'm with someone whom I'm emotionally, professionally, or intimately attached the phone goes away.

    But it still is easier for me to type than it is to speak. Like I've said before: all of my closest gay friends I've met on here.


    rofl, I'm not referring to you. icon_wink.gif

    (I'm replying to Keith51's post about school kids, just above mine)
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:12 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    lol, some people are going to find intimacy in bed somewhat curtailed, when they have to text each other while in bed together because they've lost the ability to connect their thoughts to their voice instead of their hands on a keyboard. icon_wink.gif

    Nightmare! icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:15 PM GMT

    I thought it was me...icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:30 PM GMT
    WhoDey said
    catchy_screen_name said-apps and websites turn the process into "whos closer, and who has the better body".


    Yet you write the guys you want to meet has to "be fit" in your profile...The irony continues.


    how dumb do you look:

    fit┬Ěness (ftns)
    n.
    1. The state or condition of being fit; suitability or appropriateness.
    2. Good health or physical condition, especially as the result of exercise and proper nutrition.
    3. Biology The extent to which an organism is adapted to or able to produce offspring in a particular environment.


    Being Big or muscular does not mean you are fit- I know plenty jacked guys that are basically slowly dying on the inside.

    go drink another glass of hater aide.
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:32 PM GMT
    ParadiseLost saidOh.. I thought this was gonna be a thread about me. :s

    Oh well. I guess it's not. icon_smile.gif

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    you're not awkward you're just special. icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:32 PM GMT
    ugh if only us dudes could have our own country or better yet an Island.Then from there its all about game
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:39 PM GMT
    sonicpower19 saidOP: I loved your insight. I feel the same way about some things. Even though I'm only 19, I have noticed the change with the younger generation. Gosh I even feel old when I tell my little cousins "When I was your age I didn't grow up with Ipads or handheld video games. I only had VHS tapes and tape recorders." Lol


    ...And a Tamagotchi, don't forget those bastards. ;P