Being a Virgin can actually be good!

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    Oct 29, 2012 3:35 AM GMT
    For some reason, it struck me today about the power of the v-card. I know I can lose my v-card at any moment because all I have to do is download grindr and say "Hey dtf here"

    However, holding my v-card makes me feel more independent and focused. It shows that I don't cave into peer pressure and even though people may disagree with me, it shows I stick to my values and belief. Also, it keeps me focus on school. I know I'm young and people probably expect me to go be that young twink at the club or something, but that isn't me. I don't feel the need to go out looking for sex because I find that making valuable friends and doing well in school trumps a 2 hour fuck sesh. Plus I don't want to do the walk of shame icon_razz.gif

    P.S: I'm probably sounding like I'm the author of Feminine Mystique.
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:05 AM GMT
    The downside is, far too many gays look down on you for being a virgin or won't even give you the time of day (especially if you're on the older side). It can be awkward to have to admit you're a virgin to people. It often catches people by surprise since it's uncommon.
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:16 AM GMT
    Don't rush it. I think your first time should be with someone you actually care about, and not with some random trick you met on Grindr or at some club.
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:21 AM GMT
    I agree, being a virgin definitely makes you think being a virgin is special.
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    One: Good for you; whatever it takes to keep you focused.

    Two: "Two hour"? good luck with that; most the power tops are taken.

    C: What is this "walk of shame"? Is it haunted? Are there stars with your name on them imprinted in it? Is it the opposite to the marks on my head board?

    D: No, "probably" about it.
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:30 AM GMT
    I love it when virgins profess about how being one makes them superior in some way, shape or form. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:33 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidI love it when virgins profess about how being one makes them superior in some way, shape or form. icon_lol.gif


    It's not their fault. They don't realize sex is basically playing basketball while progressively trying to turn on a light switch.
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:33 AM GMT
    I wasn't trying to profess how powerful I am. I have been thinking to myself about the benefits and etc. I have for being a virgin. I'm not trying to say I'm better than others, it is all just my own personal opinion.
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    Oct 29, 2012 4:40 AM GMT
    You can be powerful, independent, focused on school, make valuable friends AND have two-hour fuck sessions. The two aren't mutually exclusive. That's all I'm saying. All that being a virgin makes you is someone who has yet to have sex.
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    Oct 29, 2012 5:06 AM GMT
    I dunno. When I first joined A4A, when I was dumb about the gay world and thought there would be a place to find friends, I happened to mention it on my profile shamefully. The amount of messages I got before my pic was even up... I thought guys just liked the idea of taking someone's virginity. It doesn't make me feel any different about myself to be honest.
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    Oct 29, 2012 5:16 AM GMT
    We need virgins ... it's the only way to stop a volcano .... sacrifice!
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    Oct 29, 2012 5:30 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidWe need virgins ... it's the only way to stop a volcano .... sacrifice!


    I think we are thousands of years past that sir.
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    Oct 29, 2012 5:30 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidYou can be powerful, independent, focused on school, make valuable friends AND have two-hour fuck sessions. The two aren't mutually exclusive. That's all I'm saying. All that being a virgin makes you is someone who has yet to have sex.


    Good point. I applaud you on your analyzing skills
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    Oct 29, 2012 5:36 AM GMT
    sonicpower19 said
    AMoonHawk saidWe need virgins ... it's the only way to stop a volcano .... sacrifice!


    I think we are thousands of years past that sir.

    good point .. we are also thousands of years past pushing virginity on people ... People can make up their own mind when they are either ready to stop being a virgin or have sex with someone they love and don't need some holier then though moralist shoving their morality rules down others throats .
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    Oct 29, 2012 5:38 AM GMT
    and in ten years you gonna be just as fucked up as every other gay guy out there
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    Oct 29, 2012 5:43 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidand in ten years you gonna be just as fucked up as every other gay guy out there

    woooo partay!
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    Oct 29, 2012 5:44 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidand in ten years you gonna be just as fucked up as every other gay guy out there


    Ten years?
    What to you so long?

    cynical Tanker is sad for me.

    Bring back the Horny alter, now!
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    Oct 29, 2012 5:46 AM GMT
    So you can't have beliefs and values, focus on school, or any of those other things unless you're a virgin? I think you're confusing being sexually active with being a party animal. icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 29, 2012 5:58 AM GMT
    Being a virgin is not powerful. You are no more superior to the 'non-virgins' out there because you still hold the v-card. Having sex should not be looked down upon - it's a natural part of life. Be young and naive (and safe)! Having your virginity scares away most men anyway, but attracts nasty, old men who want to pop their young preys cherry. So when you do decide to hookup, leave that part out. Have fun icon_lol.gif!
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    Oct 29, 2012 5:59 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidSo you can't have beliefs and values, focus on school, or any of those other things unless you're a virgin? I think you're confusing being sexually active with being a party animal. icon_confused.gif


    No no no. I'm not generalizing. I'm just saying that this is w
    How its been for me. Usually if you look for sex you have to go through a process of finding someone and then finding a place. But I do see ur point and I am totally not trying to put down people who aren't virgins. I don't judge people who aren't. If you treat others with respect and etc. then we should get along fine.
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    Oct 29, 2012 6:12 AM GMT
    I haven't seen so much backpedaling since my first Intro to Spin class.
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    Oct 29, 2012 7:53 AM GMT
    You're a teenage boy with no sex drive.
    You really should see your doctor about that.
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    Oct 29, 2012 8:04 AM GMT
    Macaque saidYou're a teenage boy with no sex drive.
    You really should see your doctor about that.

    It can be perfectly normal....

    I don't understand this expectation we have that all guys will be horny sex machines.
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    Oct 29, 2012 8:30 AM GMT
    nevz saidIt can be perfectly normal....

    I don't understand this expectation we have that all guys will be horny sex machines.

    This from the man wearing his tighty whities and his butt in the air all out on display. It doesn't help present a strong argument.
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    Oct 29, 2012 10:40 AM GMT
    It's better to give away your virginity to a stranger on grindr than save it for "Mr. Right" only to have him dump you a few weeks later...which almost always happens.