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    Oct 30, 2012 12:32 AM GMT
    Hey everyone! I'm new to RJ and definitely liking it so far, already met a couple of interesting people. If anyone wants to get to know me or has a question feel free to message me or post something here.

    I also had a question.

    As much as i like meeting guys online (hooking-up and what not), I've been looking for something a little more serious lately. An actual relationship. Only problem is, I'm not out to everyone. I'd still like to find someone to date though. How should I go about meeting guys?
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    Oct 30, 2012 12:51 AM GMT
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    Oct 30, 2012 12:53 AM GMT
    Slim2010 said...
    As much as i like meeting guys online (hooking-up and what not), I've been looking for something a little more serious lately. An actual relationship. Only problem is, I'm not out to everyone.
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    Good luck with that. Most guys who have been "out" for a while have no intention of "raising" a newbie who doesn't even have the balls to tell society/family that he's gay.

    There's nothing worse than dating someone who won't introduce you to family.
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    Oct 30, 2012 6:22 AM GMT
    Trust me, I understand that; but, it's not like the first thing on a college students mind is introducing someone to their family. I'd be more focused on the relationship and I'd hope they would be too. If it gets more serious, then things would obviously need to change.
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    Oct 30, 2012 1:14 PM GMT
    Not gonna lie it's really hard to find another closeted man who is emotionally prepared for a LTR. I've tried dating a guy who was still
    In the closet when I started coming out, was a bit of a disaster. He was never comfortable doing anything together because slowly I started to come out to friends and family. We didn't last long because I wanted to get serious, and he got paranoid that people were going to figure us out.
    Lots of sneaking around which is fun at the beginning, but does get old.
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    Oct 31, 2012 1:34 AM GMT
    Yeah, that's how I would see it turning out. . . And you can't force the other person out either.
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    Oct 31, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Slim2010 said...
    As much as i like meeting guys online (hooking-up and what not), I've been looking for something a little more serious lately. An actual relationship. Only problem is, I'm not out to everyone.
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    Good luck with that. Most guys who have been "out" for a while have no intention of "raising" a newbie who doesn't even have the balls to tell society/family that he's gay.

    There's nothing worse than dating someone who won't introduce you to family.
    What if your family is homophobic and you don't want to introduce them to your boyfriend?