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I was recently watching a show at my friends house about Mike Lucas and I was amazed that he had a lover. So could you or would you date a porn star? Do you think it is possible to do porn and have a regular life outside of porn.

Well those are two very different questions. I think that you CAN have a "normal" life outside of the porn industry. These people still have to pay bills, shop for groceries, have holiday dinners with their families, etc. Moreover, like pretty well everyone else, they want to be loved. They aren't suddenly ostracized and cast to the outskirts of society. They're still regular people...just people who get paid to have sex on camera. It's not like they're tossing puppies into a deep fryer or anything. Given that you have a finite camera presence (unless you reach some sort of "superstar" status), and assuming that you don't blow it on drugs or other stupid purchases, if you were to invest that money wisely you could use it once you "retired". Mind you, you probably couldn't RETIRE-retire, but you certainly could retire from porn and go back to school or start a small business, etc.

As for dating a porn star, I don't think I can personally answer that unless I found myself in that situation -- how much do I like this person? What are their plans for the future? I'd like to think that I could say yes (as I have found that the older I get the more liberal I have become sexually...at least in my ways of thinking).

if i am that lucky,ofcourse,yes

Honestly? I don't think I could. I'd have no problems being friends with a porn actor, but my hang-ups would keep me unhappy, comparing myself to the guys he has sex with for film.

Yes. Given that he has qualities other than just exhibitionism and being sexy. heh.

I probably wouldn't mind it being an 'open relationship' for the sake of shooting porn if I really trusted him. I still don't know if I'm really an open relationship or a monogamous type of guy anyway. Though I lean more towards monogamy.

So yeah, the universal answer. Depends on WHO it is, not what he does for a living.

A very, very close friend of mine spent some time doing porn. He has 12 movies with a major studio, several of which he was the featured star. He has a solo video, a calendar, and his picture is all over the internet. He generally played the muscled hairy leather daddy who gets flipped on occasion.

He also happens to be highly intelligent, loves to sing, loves fantasy and SciFi, collects Scooby Doo stuff, is involved with Historical Reenactments, and works in the computer industry.

He retired from the industry in order to please his lover.

6 requirements have to be met before I'll consider dating someone exclusively.
Being in or having been in porn is not one of them.

I wouldn't say that I don't want to date a chef because he cooks for other people, or because I like to cook. That's his job. It's not what he come's home to.

bgcat57 said6 requirements have to be met before I'll consider dating someone exclusively.
Being in or having been in porn is not one of them.

I wouldn't say that I don't want to date a chef because he cooks for other people, or because I like to cook. That's his job. It's not what he come's home to.

"Don't touch me, you slut! Your brussels sprouts have been on every plate in this town! I'm going out---for dinner!"

Love to try to Domesticate ZEB ATLAS

jprichva said
"Don't touch me, you slut! Your brussels sprouts have been on every plate in this town! I'm going out---for dinner!"

LOL - Exactly!

While this response isn't exactly on topic, I think it's close enough to be relevant:

Six months after I first signed up for training at my gym, I was assigned a new trainer. His name was Gregg. Although the gym is primarily straight (as straight as a gym in Fort Lauderdale can be), I soon found out that he was gay, that he and his partner had been in town a relatively short time and felt they were having trouble meeting and making friends. My partner and I were having a large, dinner party the following week and we had room for a couple more guests, so I invited Gregg and his boyfriend to join us. The following training session, Gregg advised me that they would love to come to the party. Super. That's that!

Literally minutes after Gregg accepted and my session was over, as I was leaving the gym, two neighbors stopped me to chat and asked "how do you like your new trainer?" I replied "Gregg's a sweet, shy really nice guy. I really like him. And he's quite knowledgeable about training." They looked surprised and said: "Oh! Is that the name he goes by here?"

It turned out that Gregg was better known to every gay person in the world, except me, as Matthew Rush.

My quandry was whether to uninvite the famous porn star from my party. But, upon reflection, I decided he was still the same sweet, shy, really nice guy he was before...why should it matter in the long run what his occupation was. He and his partner came to the party, were charming and friendly and a really nice addition to the party.

While having him to the party is not anywhere near the same as dating him, I think I had the same thought processes, and my answer was...his occupation made no difference.

rigsby saidWhile this response isn't exactly on topic, I think it's close enough to be relevant:

Six months after I first signed up for training at my gym, I was assigned a new trainer. His name was Gregg. Although the gym is primarily straight (as straight as a gym in Fort Lauderdale can be), I soon found out that he was gay, that he and his partner had been in town a relatively short time and felt they were having trouble meeting and making friends. My partner and I were having a large, dinner party the following week and we had room for a couple more guests, so I invited Gregg and his boyfriend to join us. The following training session, Gregg advised me that they would love to come to the party. Super. That's that!

Literally minutes after Gregg accepted and my session was over, as I was leaving the gym, two neighbors stopped me to chat and asked "how do you like your new trainer?" I replied "Gregg's a sweet, shy really nice guy. I really like him. And he's quite knowledgeable about training." They looked surprised and said: "Oh! Is that the name he goes by here?"

It turned out that Gregg was better known to every gay person in the world, except me, as Matthew Rush.

My quandry was whether to uninvite the famous porn star from my party. But, upon reflection, I decided he was still the same sweet, shy, really nice guy he was before...why should it matter in the long run what his occupation was. He and his partner came to the party, were charming and friendly and a really nice addition to the party.

While having him to the party is not anywhere near the same as dating him, I think I had the same thought processes, and my answer was...his occupation made no difference.

Sounds like the worlds biggest elephant in one hell of a tiny room.

I think I'd have a problem leading a normal life, sitting at a desk trying not to be jealous & thinking that my boyfriend is on set with another guy. The idea of sex as work would spoil it for fun

I'd be too curious not to look at the porn but I know I'd forever suffer from performance anxiety worrying I could never live up to what he has on set

Also I have parents who I spent 4 years out and out lying to, I couldn't have the I'm dating a porn star conversation, it's hard enough to get my farther to not refer to my boyfriend in disgust and they would eventually find out and if they found out in the wrong way, I'd never be welcome back home...

Isn't Matthew Rush's BF also in the Business?

Probably wouldn't but it depends on the type of porn. (For obvious reasons)

Beyond that, I don't let guys pasts' haunt them anymore than they already do. Life's hard enough...

I've dated actors, and you have to know that when they're kissing or having intimate scenes with whoever that it's not the same as when they're with you. Maybe with porn actors it seems like way more of a stretch, since they're having sex with other people, but if I found a guy I liked and he liked me back I would be more than willing to give it a try.

I probably would assuming we clicked. So long as they weren't just a pretty body/face and had some substance to them, I think I could date a porn star.

I wouldn't have a problem regarding self-image or jealously regarding a relationship with a porn star.

What I would have a problem with is thinking about the risk of disease and cross contamination of things like bacteria/fungus/virus/parasites from my partner to me from places like their clients/'actors' mouth, anus, rectum, skin, feet, etc. There is more to worry about than common std's that everyone usually thinks about and there is no such thing as 100% safe sex. Athletes have to think about such things in skin-to-skin contact sports, equipment contanimation for example or in the locker room, how much more so in intimate bodily contact or sexual activity!

For example, how many people know about E. histolytica? It's a parasite. Did you know that most people who have it don't have any symptoms yet they are contagious? It's like a problem waiting to happen. It can turn into an invasive infection where it attacks the lining of the intestine or worse, breaches it and spreads into other organs of the body (like the liver or brain), sometimes with fatal consequences.

So do porn stars and escorts get regularly tested for this parasite and with the right tests? It can be confused with another intestinal parasite that does not cause invasive infections.

My guess is they don't. People in open relationships probably don't either which isn't much different than dating a porn star or escort service person from a biological point of view.

Anto saidI wouldn't have a problem regarding self-image or jealously regarding a relationship with a porn star.

What I would have a problem with is thinking about the risk of disease and cross contamination of things like bacteria/fungus/virus/parasites from my partner to me from places like their clients/'actors' mouth, anus, rectum, skin, feet, etc. There is more to worry about than common std's that everyone usually thinks about and there is no such thing as 100% safe sex. Athletes have to think about such things in skin-to-skin contact sports, equipment contanimation for example or in the locker room, how much more so in intimate bodily contact or sexual activity!

For example, how many people know about E. histolytica? It's a parasite. Did you know that most people who have it don't have any symptoms yet they are contagious? It's like a problem waiting to happen. It can turn into an invasive infection where it attacks the lining of the intestine or worse, breaches it and spreads into other organs of the body (like the liver or brain), sometimes with fatal consequences.

So do porn stars and escorts get regularly tested for this parasite and with the right tests? It can be confused with another intestinal parasite that does not cause invasive infections.

My guess is they don't. People in open relationships probably don't either which isn't much different than dating a porn star or escort service person from a biological point of view.

You, my friend have seen far too 60 minute special reports

joeindallas saidIsn't Matthew Rush's BF also in the Business?

Gregg (Matthew Rush) was dating a Bowling Green State University (Ohio) cheerleader named Jim, who also did porn for Falcon under the name of Tyler Gunn.

As far as the whole topic goes, i can throw some insight from the other side for you. When I was 19, I paid for my college by doing porn videos for Citiboyz Video under the name of Ethan Masters. I did 7 videos for them in 4 years. It wasn't my life, it didn't change me in a negative way, if nothing else, it opened my eyes to the world outside of the cornfields of Ohio. I have traveled the world for conventions and shoots and have met some absolutely amazing people, who have the same interests, personalities, likes, and desires as anyone with any other hobby or profession.

As someone who used to do porn, I can't even count how many times I have been turned down as a dating prospective because of my history in porn. People used to label me as a slut, whore, tramp, etc because of the job I used to have. But in all reality, that is all it is... a job. When you are on the scene of a video shoot, it is not sex, it is a designed setup with actors performing a sequence of events for a job. Every few seconds there is a shift in lighting, angle, position, etc. Your entire focus is on where the camera is as to not block the shot, and all secondary focus goes into realism of the scene. Hell, we even stopped from time to time to have a cigarette break or grab a drink. The average action scene in porn is anywhere from 10 minutes to 25 minutes in length on the standard DVD. Many of those take over 4 hours to actually film. We go through the motions and act out the scene, we portray what people want to see. At the end of the shoot, I signed my paperwork, received my check, and went home to my boyfriend who was more than happy to see me, because he knew that he was the one in my heart, the one I loved. Being in porn is certainly not for everyone and dating someone with that on their file is not for everyone either. My current boyfriend had a big deal with it at first until he got to know me. He assumed that I was some sex-crazed pervert that was only interested in getting in his pants. On the contrary when he got to know me, he learned that I had several degrees, played several musical instruments, ran 3 different youth camps, had seen more countries than most people can even pronounce and on top of it all, he learned that I was a very relationship oriented, loving and affectionate guy who wanted nothing more from life than to be happy with the guy I love.

So the original question of possessing the ability to date a porn star is completely a variable syntax from person to person. I could easily date a porn star because I know that they are coming home to me every night because they want to, not because they are getting a check to. Others can't separate the job from the love and they would be the ones who can't find comfort in accepting their past or even present.

By the way, 90% of the models you find in the adult industry are very easy going, real, genuine guys. They are not genetically engineered to fuck for 4 hours without breaking a sweat, they are boys and guys who grew up in houses just like everyone else and loved and laughed and lived their lives just like what some would call the "normal" people. On the downside, with any statistic with a positive side, there are those that bring down the average, and hopefully none of you will have to deal with the drama, games or delusion that any of them would exhibit.

AMT87 saidYou, my friend have seen far too 60 minute special reports

Why do you say that?

joeindallas
Posts: 411 Sep 03, 2008 7:16 PMQuote Isn't Matthew Rush's BF also in the Business?

The person Matthew brought to our party was Clayton Lawrence. I don't know if that was his real name or his stage name. He was very attractive, very attentive to Matthew, and an extremely pleasant guest at our party.

Then again, there are sleazy porn studios that attract the worst guys. Like Cobra Videos. Barebackers and underage porn, definitely a no-no, especially with little known studios that do not ensure nor care about the health of their models.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bryan_Kocis

I've a few friends currently who are retired from the porn industry. they live their lives like the rest of us and have learned to invest the earnings they got from that former industry. I am currently dating a person who is in the industry who is a fairly big name. It took me a while to get over the jealousy factor ( 4 months ) but its turning out to be a real gem of a relationship. I do look forward to the future with a history and life with this man but how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time....so one day at a time with him.
All we ask is that were honest with each other and remember to be kind.

Sedative saidThen again, there are sleazy porn studios that attract the worst guys. Like Cobra Videos. Barebackers and underage porn, definitely a no-no, especially with little known studios that do not ensure nor care about the health of their models.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bryan_Kocis

Bryan Kocis from Cobra Videos produced bareback videos to cover a certain niche in the market, and his videos were some of the top selling videos in the industry for that particular niche. The underage incident, I can tell you first hand because of my relationship with all parties involved, that the situation was manipulated by the model providing false documents at the time of his first performance. He lied to do porn, he lied to sign into a contract to receive money, property and assets as an exclusive model to that studio. Bryan Kocis was later murdered by a rival in the industry for the sole motivation of the rival studio getting the before mentioned model out of his exclusive contract so he could work for the competing company. And saying that studios do not care about the health and well being of their models is ignorant in the least.It's an industry standard for us models to be tested far more frequently than those not in the business. Far more frequently as in every single month, including AT the shoots using portable 5 minute response tests. There is never a 100% way of eliminating this threat in bareback videos, but they DO everything they can short of chaining the model to a bed when he's not on camera. There are risks in every aspect of our lives, and the studios that produce bareback videos do everything they can to protect the safety of their models.

Bryan Kocis was a good business friend of mine in this industry and he is sadly missed. No one deserves the death that he had to experience and he certainly does not deserve people talking shit about him after his death. A little respect would be greatly appreciated before discussing people or situations that you are just making "assumptions" about!

Would I date a porn star...first it would depend on what type of porn he was doing. If he was performing bareback, no, I couldn't see myself dating him. In all actuality, if he was doing any that could put himself or me in danger, it would be an absolute no. Now if I were dating a porn star, I would have to get use to the fact that there would be thousands of individuals trying to get "a piece of him." Touching him, sending him letters, emails, gifts, etc.. Hell, I'm an equal oppurtunity homo here.

Nope

Fiveldsp said

Sedative saidThen again, there are sleazy porn studios that attract the worst guys. Like Cobra Videos. Barebackers and underage porn, definitely a no-no, especially with little known studios that do not ensure nor care about the health of their models.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bryan_Kocis

Bryan Kocis from Cobra Videos produced bareback videos to cover a certain niche in the market, and his videos were some of the top selling videos in the industry for that particular niche. The underage incident, I can tell you first hand because of my relationship with all parties involved, that the situation was manipulated by the model providing false documents at the time of his first performance. He lied to do porn, he lied to sign into a contract to receive money, property and assets as an exclusive model to that studio. Bryan Kocis was later murdered by a rival in the industry for the sole motivation of the rival studio getting the before mentioned model out of his exclusive contract so he could work for the competing company. And saying that studios do not care about the health and well being of their models is ignorant in the least.It's an industry standard for us models to be tested far more frequently than those not in the business. Far more frequently as in every single month, including AT the shoots using portable 5 minute response tests. There is never a 100% way of eliminating this threat in bareback videos, but they DO everything they can short of chaining the model to a bed when he's not on camera. There are risks in every aspect of our lives, and the studios that produce bareback videos do everything they can to protect the safety of their models.

Bryan Kocis was a good business friend of mine in this industry and he is sadly missed. No one deserves the death that he had to experience and he certainly does not deserve people talking shit about him after his death. A little respect would be greatly appreciated before discussing people or situations that you are just making "assumptions" about!

Sorry I was talking about 'Brent Corrigan' not Kocis. The link was to show how he murdered Kocis. You're right though, I don't know anything about the industry really. So apologies if I offended, shouldn't have used the term 'sleazy'. Heh. Just my normal assumption considering that it did devolve into a scandal after Kocis was murdered. I don't even like 'twink' porn (which is why I learned about it later and have never heard of Cobra videos before that), so yes I am ignorant.

That said, I've seen amateur studios where the models are really underage (often bareback) and I shiver to think how they treat their models or where they get them. If a prospective boyfriend is from any of those, I'd tell him to quit it or there'll never be a chance for sure.

In response to Fiveldsp's responses... I am also a close friend to the industry. While I have not been physically involved in the industry in over two years, I am still close friends with a lot of the people that I've met in the adult industry.

So... Would I date a porn star, knowing everything that I know about the industry? It totally depends on the person. I have done it before, and if I meet the right person and he happens to shoot porn... DEFINITELY.

As a matter of personal safety, I would not date somebody involved in unsafe practices in regards to porn. I feel that doing bareback porn, especially, puts people at an unreasonably high risk for contracting STDs. I'm not saying that people don't make mistakes, but I could not date somebody actively involved in filming bareback porn. I will not now or ever support the bareback porn industry.

To sum up... Adult entertainers are people too. We have normal lives as do you all. We go to school, we have other career goals, and we care about people in the same ways that any other person would. Why would you judge us for something that many of you take pleasure in watching?

If he could be faithful to me I believe I would. I would prefer to date someone who is involved with cinema movie production. I mean, Rated R is a little bit more than what I have in mind for my association with producers. I just have a couple of ideas I choose to have scripts written for. Any of you interested?

Thanks for all the replies. This makes for some interesting reading.

I my self do not think I could turn someone down for a date because they did porn. Like it was mentioned, an average length dvd takes along time to shoot. So it is not all sex. Once you learn how to detach yourself from the industry. I do not think it makes you this monster of a person.

Thanks again all.

I think that if you're going to date anyone in the entertainment industry you must be aware that this person may do things in the name of their "craft" that you disagree.

Judging by the kind of material we see on HBO, Showtime, Feature Films, etc. Is porn seriously that big of a leap from any of those? Look at a show like Queer as Folk or OZ, that's pretty graphic material too folks!

What i'm saying is, if you won't date someone because they make a living out of having sex with someone on camera with no romantic or genuine attachment, then by that logic, would you date an actor or performer who, say, has a romantic trist with another man in a film, or plays a pedophile in a TV series, or is an axe murderer in a play?

If performer's are judged by what they do in front of a screen or a camera, then they are all doomed to live single, alienated lives and that's a shame.

WHY NOT? I should be so lucky.

I could never date a slut.

redheadguy saidI could never date a slut.

because it would be like positive ends of two magnets repelling each other?

redheadguy saidI could never date a slut.

Please refer to my first post regarding "ignorance"!

Wow. I did no think this would create so much reaction. Thanks.

Caslon6000 said

If I was going to get an escort, I'd go for someone taller.

All and any porn stars are welcome to email me.
Basic everyday sluts (you know who you are) are welcome too.

Who said anything about being a slut.

I'm NOT implying that porn stars are sluts; I am merely fishing for dates with a larger net.

I think if you are comfortable in your relationship, and it was the only way to make a decent living, it would just be a job.

As long as he's not doing anything illegal, comes home to me at the end of the day, wants me at the end of the day (not necessarily in a sexual manner all the time), and doesnt do anything to put me, himself or our relationship in danger...i dont mind him doing porn.

I think if you both are secure enough in your relationship and neither has any emotional issues... Well go for it. Enjoy yourselves. Who knows what each party brings to the table I feel...

Only if he meets porn star's qualifications



I keep pleasure and work separate, and I would expect him too. So I wouldn't have a problem dating a porn star.

I would date a porn star. Like many people have mentioned it's his job...probably not a career since most adult film stars don't last in the biz that long. And rarely make large salaries. Not everyone gets to be a Falcon Exclusive.

For those of you who would be opposed to dating a porn star have you ever posted naked photos of yourself on a website even if they're locked and private or emailed naked photos to a guy you've been interested in?? Perhaps sent a cock shot from your cell phone.

Is that really that far from doing porn yourself? You didn't get paid for it.

mmm, yes...I would date him

NO

No.

Compatible value systems are essential to a relationship. At least that's what I've learned from experience. And mine would be incompatible with a porn star's.

luckydawg70 saidI would date a porn star. Like many people have mentioned it's his job...probably not a career since most adult film stars don't last in the biz that long. And rarely make large salaries. Not everyone gets to be a Falcon Exclusive.

For those of you who would be opposed to dating a porn star have you ever posted naked photos of yourself on a website even if they're locked and private or emailed naked photos to a guy you've been interested in?? Perhaps sent a cock shot from your cell phone.

Is that really that far from doing porn yourself? You didn't get paid for it.

Yes, it is far from doing porn. The reasons are obvious.

I went out with one, won't mention names, but quite possibly the biggest jerk, humiliated me in front of a large party, was mean and hteful , this after just a couple hours and for no apparent reason.
So the answer is no, that said with experience.
I think something about being that detatched from sex, and i certainly have been on occasion, makes one heartless.
I am a little jaded on the subject though...

BlkMuscleGent said

luckydawg70 saidI would date a porn star. Like many people have mentioned it's his job...probably not a career since most adult film stars don't last in the biz that long. And rarely make large salaries. Not everyone gets to be a Falcon Exclusive.

For those of you who would be opposed to dating a porn star have you ever posted naked photos of yourself on a website even if they're locked and private or emailed naked photos to a guy you've been interested in?? Perhaps sent a cock shot from your cell phone.

Is that really that far from doing porn yourself? You didn't get paid for it.

Yes, it is far from doing porn. The reasons are obvious.

Really? Enlighten me on how it's different than solo porn??

No..I echo what others have said..

Whether they view it as a job like any other one is irrelevant to me. They are still having sex with other people, they are still enjoying it and they are still out there for the world to see. Does it make them less of a human being? Not at all. I'm very open minded but when it comes to relationships I am very old fashioned and conservative to a point (monogamy).

I did, and I never will again.

In addition to doing porn he also lived in a place called the 'Boys Condo', a webcamed appartment with like, 6 other guys.

He cheated on me with his boss to get a better bed.

Ergo, no more dating porn stars. I'll still fuck'm though

I'd date a porn star if he's not doing porn anymore.

The non judgemental side of me would say, why not. It shouldn't really matter.

But the realistic side of me says hell no. Vanity is something I am not impressed by. Have a great body doesn't mean shit to me either. Take that away from a lot of these guys and what is left.

If by some chance I met some porn star who was really smart, funny, and genuinely a good person, then I think I could possibly date them.

Meh, why not?

As long as he has a decent personality/intelligence, and doesn't plan on doing it forever then it's just something that we can work through.

I'd date a porn star. I have little faith in monogamy anyway, and at least if my bf was doing porn I would know who he was having sex with on the side...

That is, of course, all assuming I find him attractive and he's got a decent head on his shoulders...

I knew the guy that started up the a webcam site years ago. He had done some porn but then focused on being one of the first guys to make the webcam sites popular. We started hanging out and actually became good friends. He moved out of CA and then I found out he met a guy that wanted him out of the business and he did get out of it. I have no clue what he is up to now. He was a good guy and I wish him the best.

I think that -- if I were dating -- I might consider it a "plus" if he were either a porn star or former porn star. I imagine that such a person would be pretty un-self-conscious, which is very appealing.

hmmm....that depends....how successful is he?

and what's in it for me?

haha. jk.

sure. i'd be down for it. just as long as he's a decent human being.

So could you or would you date a porn star?
Probably not.
Do you think it is possible to do porn and have a regular life outside of porn.
Sure.

Sure. People can be shallow petty and judgmental. I count within my circle of friends and acquaintances working and former porn stars and escorts. I'm not certain how I would feel if someone was performing or escorting while I was dating him, that's something I'd really have to think about. It touches on monogamy issues to be sure. But if it was in his past, it wouldn't even be a problem.

I really don't know if I could.

I don't know anyone in the porn industry (though I know people who have done a few things here and there) so I don't have a good sense of what life is like as an active porn actor. I also don't know, despite all my talk of couples being open with their needs, if I could emotionally handle those realities. It is something I would try out though without hesitation.

I had a roommate in the early '90's that was an escort. I was going to try it but I didn't have the nerve to start out with this (from what I was told) repulsive looking older man named Wesley, who wanted you to pee on him in his bath tub and do other things. I guess he was the tester.

I probably wont, i like guys for their looks and what they have in their brains, in other words a hot guy with a future in life, and...seriously if the best thing a guy could think of for his career was being a porn star then im gonna pass for that one.

Still that doesnt mean i would NEVER date a porn star, but theres a 98% of chances i wont for this reasons which are my own reasons and other ones pretty basic and straight forward that i dont really need to mention.

Would you really want to date someone who has shown his chocolate starfish to the world's gays?

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Isn't he straight?

issacd said

Isn't he straight? [/quote]

Yes, "Johnny Castle" is straight.

krush saidI was recently watching a show at my friends house about Mike Lucas and I was amazed that he had a lover. So could you or would you date a porn star? Do you think it is possible to do porn and have a regular life outside of porn.

Being that I want a monogamous relationship, no, I could not date an adult-performer (I hate the term "porn star").

But, if they're comfortable with an open relationship, I see no reason why they could have a perfectly good relationship.

When I first started exploring the M2M scene, I met two young men on different occasions who I found out later had been involved in porn films. (Names withheld)! They were both quite friendly, presentable, conversational and engaging. One was very intent on getting me in the sack after a short while, which didn't happen...(I felt a little "pushed" and wasn't comfortable with that happening so quickly), and the other I actually dated several times before "that happened". Truthfully, the sex was nothing to write home about, though he was a very nice and extremely sexy guy.

I later came across pictures of both of these young men...one in a Falcon ad, and the other on a well-known porn website featuring young college jocks.

I've dated (at least) two guys who had done porn in the past... one for VERY good reason... even if he had been underage when it was done... the other owns all rights to the stream, so i've never seen it... Have had many friends that have done it once or twice, no pro ones though...

Sure, and I could never bitch about it because I would have to accept all of the consequences knowing that I knew what I was getting into.

a better question is, have you or would you make your own porn?

To answer the question in the title... Yes

To answer the question above... Hell Yes

redheadguy saidI could never date a slut.

Hey kettle.....I'm seeing black all of the sudden...

LOL!!

onejock saida better question is, have you or would you make your own porn?

I did....

It used to be on xtube.

redheadguy saidWould you really want to date someone who has shown his chocolate starfish to the world's gays?

How is that any different than the "world's gays" beholding your fire glowing red pubes?

Well, at least the locals in London that use manhunt anyway.

In general no, but i might make an exception for Francesco D'macho from Hothouse. I would date him.

onejock saida better question is, have you or would you make your own porn?

Hell yeah I would, but I would keep it to myself!

As for the OP's question...no, I really don't think I could. Just my personal values I guess.

Have sex with one? Eh...maybe...if the chemistry was right.

II think I could, as long as it wasn't a relationship based on sex, aka not a relationship >.>

nope

I work in Excel all day long as part of my job. The last thing I'd want to do if I was seeing someone is make spreadsheets for them. You get where I'm going with this?

Fuck a porn star/escort - maybe yes. Date one - NO!

Why not? If thems good people what they do as their career is the least of my concerns. Now as far as extramarital affairs go, its one thing to have sex to make your money it's quite another to sleep with someone other than me for fun.


For me it's a non issue

Friends yes, lovers no. I don't like to share my men. I'm a jealous person when it comes to guys.

Total non-issue, I have a couple friends who are well known in porn and off screen they are completely different than what you would expect. Its a duality, the pornstar stays on set and the normal guy comes home, buys starbucks, walks the dog, calls his mother on weekends....The few that I know, totally great guys with huge hearts...its just a job, definately dateable.

After testing comes back clean and if they don't do bareback then yes!!!

I probably would. I'd be a bit more careful, but as long as we clicked, I couldn't deny how he or I felt just because he has lots of sex in a structured environment.

I can't say I'd marry them after 3 months though.

I'm not sure porn-actors are any more prone to cheating than any other good-looking guy. I would be open to dating one, but my concern around doing that would be more along the lines of how other people close to me might react or think. I would not want to be in a relationship where I would have to hide what my boyfriend does; nor would I want to be in a relationship where my boyfriend is ostracized for his occupation. Getting rid of my close friends and family wouldn't be an option. But I guess it's hard to tell what their reactions would be, too.

Two of my ex bf were escorts - both of them always worked safe, and were great in bed. Both were lovely lads who saw it just as work, although one of them had a crazy high sex drive and just liked being fucked literally constantly. One of them was 16 when I started seeing him, and there are not that many 16 year lads who are that experienced.

Love can be a tough thing to find. I wouldn't rule anybody out just because they were in "the business".

mmm would i date a hot guy who is confident, comfortable with his sexuality, and great in bed.... mmmm YEAH... There are no guarantees and lets face it life is too short to rule anyone out