Attracting the Wrong Guys

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    Oct 30, 2012 6:16 AM GMT
    I have noticed that those who are interested in me are usually not my "type". Does anyone else have this issue? #HomoProblems
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    Oct 30, 2012 6:20 AM GMT
    EVERYONE has this problem. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 30, 2012 6:20 AM GMT
    xrichx saidEVERYONE has this problem. icon_lol.gif


    I suspect you are right, probably why most of us are single icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 30, 2012 3:14 PM GMT
    xrichx saidEVERYONE has this problem. icon_lol.gif


    So true
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    Oct 30, 2012 3:16 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
    xrichx saidEVERYONE has this problem. icon_lol.gif
    Yep. Except I don't have a "type." I just feel like a dick when I don't like a guy back.


    That's because you have empathy, which I admire.
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    Oct 30, 2012 3:16 PM GMT
    Pretty much the same for me.
  • drypin

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    Oct 30, 2012 3:18 PM GMT
    It happens now and then, but I find that there are plenty in my broad range of "types" that have expressed interest throughout my life.
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    Oct 30, 2012 3:20 PM GMT
    All the time,
    Is it a crime?
    That I am not fine,
    With this guy without a sign,
    He's not the one I had in mind.
    To call him mine,
    Is a lie,
    As sweet...
    As sweet as Red Wine.

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    But in all seriousness, yeah, happens all the time but then there are those who are just too far away from me. icon_neutral.gif You guys know who youse are on here. icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 30, 2012 3:28 PM GMT
    Well, I am glad that I am not the only one! Haha!
  • mooore23

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    Oct 30, 2012 3:29 PM GMT
    handshake with you : )
    Ahh, me too.Someone is really into me, and then I choose to be loved. At the same time, I am trying to find anything good that he is attracting me, though mostly is not from his beautiful look or sexy body. I am trying to find some inner beauty inside of him.

    On another hand, if everyone has the issue as you (and me) have, then maybe the one that you are interested in will probably not interested in you.
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    Oct 30, 2012 3:31 PM GMT
    World24 saidWell, I am glad that I am not the only one! Haha!


    lol, well it's not my intent to scare you, but in 14 years I dated over 130 men and had a few several-months - 1 year relationships.

    Then I met Bill.
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    Oct 30, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    World24 saidWell, I am glad that I am not the only one! Haha!


    lol, well it's not my intent to scare you, but in 14 years I dated over 130 men and had a few several-months - 1 year relationships.

    Then I met Bill.


    I guess I just need to keep testing waters. I want to find a Bill of my own! You guys are amazing, congrats!
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Oct 30, 2012 3:37 PM GMT
    I go up to guys that I like, I don't mind being rejected because I believe everyone does have their own preferences and I respect that. It doesn't take away from me as a person because I do believe that beauty is in fact in the eye of the beholder. I find that many guys are too shy when it comes to breaking the ice and to make an effort to connect, so I'll make be the first one to make a connection.
    I used to not understand why some guys would just look at me and not say anything. I had found out that some of the guys found me to be intimidating. Now I just take the initiative to just approach people and this way I have no problems attracting the guys that I like because I'm the one who went up to them.
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    Oct 30, 2012 3:41 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    World24 saidWell, I am glad that I am not the only one! Haha!


    lol, well it's not my intent to scare you, but in 14 years I dated over 130 men and had a few several-months - 1 year relationships.

    Then I met Bill.


    I believe this is life. Precious things deserve much longer time for people to get.
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    Oct 30, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
    Same issue with me.
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    Oct 30, 2012 3:45 PM GMT
    Mixleanmachine saidI go up to guys that I like, I don't mind being rejected because I believe everyone does have their own preferences and I respect that. It doesn't take away from me as a person because I do believe that beauty is in fact in the eye of the beholder. I find that many guys are too shy when it comes to breaking the ice and to make an effort to connect, so I'll make be the first one to make a connection.
    I used to not understand why some guys would just look at me and not say anything. I had found out that some of the guys found me to be intimidating. Now I just take the initiative to just approach people and this way I have no problems attracting the guys that I like because I'm the one who went up to them.


    I would have to agree. In my situation, I just can't be any shyer when I first meet someone. I need to learn to make the first move and not be afraid of rejection.
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    Oct 30, 2012 3:54 PM GMT
    World24 said
    Mixleanmachine saidI go up to guys that I like, I don't mind being rejected because I believe everyone does have their own preferences and I respect that. It doesn't take away from me as a person because I do believe that beauty is in fact in the eye of the beholder. I find that many guys are too shy when it comes to breaking the ice and to make an effort to connect, so I'll make be the first one to make a connection.
    I used to not understand why some guys would just look at me and not say anything. I had found out that some of the guys found me to be intimidating. Now I just take the initiative to just approach people and this way I have no problems attracting the guys that I like because I'm the one who went up to them.


    I would have to agree. In my situation, I just can't be any shyer when I first meet somebody. I need to learn to make the first move and not be afraid of rejection.


    It takes practice, the more that you do it the better you will get at it believe me. Being social is a skill it can be worked on. Every time that you go out, make an effort to connect with at least one person. That person that you connect with doesn't even have to be a person that you're attracted to, it's just to help you get out of your comfort zone. If you do this every time that you go out your comfort zone will expand because you are used to doing it. When you do get good, you may still have problems going up to the guy that you like and if this is the case make sure you go up to him right away because your nerves will build up.
    Make sure you have something interesting to say and if the guy is hot then don't compliment him on his hotness, everyone probably tells him that... You need to say something like, there's something about you and I just can't place it or you're quite different than I thought you would be. Appeal to their vanity in other ways besides their looks for hot guys.
    The reason why I like to go out on my own a lot is because I am forced to go out and talk to people.
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    Oct 30, 2012 3:55 PM GMT
    World24 said
    Mixleanmachine saidI go up to guys that I like, I don't mind being rejected because I believe everyone does have their own preferences and I respect that. It doesn't take away from me as a person because I do believe that beauty is in fact in the eye of the beholder. I find that many guys are too shy when it comes to breaking the ice and to make an effort to connect, so I'll make be the first one to make a connection.
    I used to not understand why some guys would just look at me and not say anything. I had found out that some of the guys found me to be intimidating. Now I just take the initiative to just approach people and this way I have no problems attracting the guys that I like because I'm the one who went up to them.


    I would have to agree. In my situation, I just can't be any shyer when I first meet someone. I need to learn to make the first move and not be afraid of rejection.

    Perhaps we're all like you in this respect too?
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    Oct 30, 2012 3:55 PM GMT
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    Oct 30, 2012 4:03 PM GMT
    Yup. Everyone that's been interested in me, I wasn't interested in them. And the one's I like, don't like me.

    I feel kinda bad, because I seem to be ridiculously picky (and not really in a position to be so), but I'm just generally not attracted to most guys I meet. In fact, I find far more girls I meet attractive then the guys.
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    Oct 30, 2012 4:03 PM GMT
    So, it's not just me? icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 30, 2012 4:31 PM GMT
    Yeah, happens to me too. And hate when I can not reciprocate when he's a really good guy too icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 30, 2012 7:16 PM GMT
    The other gay guy told me one day that I look too straight and this is the main reason why guys stay away from me!!! I was like what? I am not gonna act differently for any old guy to think that he has a chance with me.icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 30, 2012 7:44 PM GMT
    The one you like, doesn't like you. And the one you aren't interested in, is after you - this song and dance plays everywhere no matter what the venue.

    *story of my life!*
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    Oct 30, 2012 7:45 PM GMT
    I think I have the opposite of the problem. I don't attract guys icon_neutral.gif