Are gays drama?

  • demasi

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    Oct 30, 2012 10:23 AM GMT
    I constantly feel my friendships with gay guys are always on thin ice.
    I am relaxed and pretty care free, with straight guys I never have a problem and have a good friendships.

    However I feel like gays are just drama.
    For example, a gay friend blew up about me not writing back to a text message to hanging out the next day. At the time he knew i was out with friends.
    Why not just call or text me the following day in question to see what i was up to? Wouldn't that be the logical scenario if the situation was that desperate? Rather than have a huge bitch fit about it.

    My response was uhh that's really silly to even try to argue about. Peace
    Likely, the friendship will be over lol.
    But really people??

    What are your experiences?

    Hmmm ?

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    Oct 30, 2012 10:54 AM GMT
    You could have also answered him after you had finished with your mates.

    I find that in friendships where we both work together the best..

    He asked you the day before..

    You'd prefer on the day..

    I see no problems with either of these.

    Now personally, my friends know that if I am out with people no hope in hell of me replying until later and they accept that and I've set that line in the sand and it applies to everyone. So that expectation is already set that yes I'll reply as soon as I can.

    So I generally don't experience things like that.

    However I find a lot of gay guys agonize of what I consider to be pointless.

    But then so do straight guys..

    In the end Straight or Gay, they are all drama queens, it's just about what your used too.
  • demasi

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    Oct 30, 2012 11:09 AM GMT
    yeah but why even make it an issue, it's a whole lot of nothing for me. I wouldn't have even thought into it in the same position
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    Oct 30, 2012 12:29 PM GMT
    Sounds like your "gay friend" has no life, and is lonely in his own little world.

    The funny part is I'm brutally honest enough to tell him that if here were my friend and acted the same way. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 30, 2012 12:48 PM GMT
    Most neurotic shallow people are all about drama, but that does not limit them to gay or straight or male or female. Try having more friends, you will find plenty of straight people are messy neurotics too. Work it out, but steer clear of need and shallow boring idiots.
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    Oct 30, 2012 1:40 PM GMT
    I personally avoid gay men who always say things like "gays are full of drama, my straight friends are so much better, I have such good time with straight friends etc. etc.". I am sorry but I find hard to deal with such gay men, and I almost always find it that they try way too hard to appear masculine.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Oct 30, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    Straight people and gay people can be dramatic. It really does depend on the individual.
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    Oct 30, 2012 3:47 PM GMT

    lilTanker said, "You could have also answered him after you had finished with your mates."

    Yep. This. Otherwise you might be considered guilty of creating a situation for what you call gay drama. (which it isn't; it's people drama) icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 30, 2012 4:04 PM GMT
    Yep, we're all on the other side of receiving line. Best be careful what you, and read between the lines.
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    Oct 30, 2012 4:05 PM GMT
    Hey OP lol I totally feel you.
    Thankfully my friends know I'm pretty lousy with replying back sometimes, but I see them so often so they have no problems waiting til we next meet up to ask me.
    They are a pretty chill group so we don't really get angry about that kind of stuff. If someone is invited somewhere and they don't get back, we just assume they can't/don't want to come, leave it at that and go without them.

    My main excuse is that I'm with Vodacrap and I get absolutely no reception so often I don't receive things on time, and partly because I only got my first phone when I was 20 or so, and so most of my life I've not ever bothered using one and am still kind of accustomed to that lifestyle.
    It's literally existing for work purposes.

    I had this one friend who was so high maintenance, he literally wanted to meet up every second day out in the city or picnic somewhere and I tried explaining how some people have to work 5 days a week and aren't made of money. Then he'd get annoyed if I didn't call or answer his call the days we weren't hanging out that he eventually sent everyone in the group a hate email saying everyone was a waste of time.
    How everyone responded?
    We just threw it over our shoulders and continued on with life. We're pretty chill like that so I count myself blessed with easy going friends.

    I think in time what you'll find is that you'll be picky with who you classify as friends and who you classify as acquaintances.
  • ATXnative

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    Oct 30, 2012 4:10 PM GMT
    This question is a generalization of a very diverse population. No one here is going to actually answer it for you.
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    Oct 30, 2012 5:57 PM GMT
    Gay guys ARE Drama.
    We bring it on ourselves.


    Don't want drama? Don't give in to it.
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    Oct 30, 2012 6:13 PM GMT
    Yes....it's just to what degree
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    Oct 30, 2012 9:10 PM GMT
    demasiado saidyeah but why even make it an issue, it's a whole lot of nothing for me. I wouldn't have even thought into it in the same position

    You consider it a whole lot of nothing. He doesn't.
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    Oct 30, 2012 9:15 PM GMT
    Girls tend to be drama for me. I have a really good friend who I feel like I'm constantly walking on eggshells for example.
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    Oct 30, 2012 9:23 PM GMT
    It's not exclusive to gays. I know plenty of women who are overly dramatic about everything. I know straight guys who get butthurt over the littlest things too, but they usually express it by sulking or something like that.

    Having to walk on egg shells is one of my pet peeves. I can't stand doing it. If I have to do it too much for someone, our friendship probably isn't going to last.
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    Oct 30, 2012 9:24 PM GMT
    Bullwinklemoos saidGirls tend to be drama for me. I have a really good friend who I feel like I'm constantly walking on eggshells for example.
    God is it "really a good friend" if you feel like your constantly walking on eggshells when your around them?
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    Oct 30, 2012 9:26 PM GMT
    walleyedjack said
    Bullwinklemoos saidGirls tend to be drama for me. I have a really good friend who I feel like I'm constantly walking on eggshells for example.
    God is it "really a good friend" if you feel like your constantly walking on eggshells when your around them?


    I opened my eyes recently. With that said, I'll replace "good" with "close" and let the statement stand otherwise.
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    Oct 30, 2012 9:28 PM GMT
    I've known people, both gay and straight, who thrive on drama. They just aren't happy unless they're stirring the drama pot. I'm not sure why that is, but I absolutely detest it and I'll definitely do everything I can to steer clear of them. In my experience, it's not just a gay thing. It just takes way too much energy to put up with it.
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    Oct 30, 2012 9:32 PM GMT
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    Hmmmmm. I don't really hang out with anyone like that. If anything, my friends are much more nerdy than dramatic. Feel like these two somehow cancel each other out.
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    Oct 30, 2012 9:41 PM GMT
    hate drama. If there's drama I walk away simple as that. Don't like all that extra baggage.
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    Oct 30, 2012 9:41 PM GMT
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    Hmmmmm. I don't really hang out with anyone like that. If anything, my friends are much more nerdy than dramatic. Feel like these two somehow cancel each other out.
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    Oct 30, 2012 10:59 PM GMT
    Not all gay guys are catty and about drama. I've really met some down to earth gay men, and yes, they were out. It's all about the individual.
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    Oct 30, 2012 11:08 PM GMT
    Can't sign up for a drama class and blame attendance for perfecting their craft, can you? Drama stems from no sexual identity. It's inbuilt within the person. But then, what you call drama is passion in certain cultures — the absence of which makes you weirder than a vegetarian snake. Maybe it's astrological? Aries, Leo, Scorpio and Cancer are the most intense/combustive. Generally.
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    Oct 30, 2012 11:12 PM GMT