break up and two weeks break from any communication

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    Oct 30, 2012 4:07 PM GMT
    Hey guys!
    Last wednesday my boyfriend (probably exBF now) skyped me that he needs to take a break from our relationship (long distance one) because he is not sure if this is what he wants. That he wants some more experience until then he cant truly honestly say that he loves me. We were both crying and stuff, I was angry. And we also agreed upon taking a 2 week from any communication.

    1) do you think that there is any chance we ever get together?

    2) was it a good idea to take a communication break right after the break up?
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    Oct 30, 2012 5:07 PM GMT
    When people take "breaks" from their relationships, things usually don't end well. Some people think of it as an opportunity to go hook-up with someone without any consequences, which shouldn't be true.

    Hopefully you get back together, but, I don't think that you needed to take a "communication break" also. That seems a little much.
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    Oct 30, 2012 6:42 PM GMT
    Hmmm. It's a hard one. I recently took a break from my boyfriend at his instigation. I think he was getting too overwhelmed with the relationship at the time. It doesn't mean you're going to break up. This two weeks of no communication is a bit extreme though. You shouldn't be afraid to talk to each other. While I didn't speak every day to my man on the break we did communicate (which is important!). It's been almost two months and we are seeing each other regularly again and also I can feel that he's back in the relationship with me, whereas before I could feel some distance. Don't stress out too much and remember if you two do go separate ways, then it just wasn't meant to be (hard to hear I know!). As long as you are both mature about this break and both are willing to work things out and give each other time then I definitely think you can pull through it!
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    Oct 30, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    It kinda depends on how long you dated. If you have dated more than a couple months then a two week comm break seems a little too much. If there is no communication then I don't think the relationship will happen.
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    Oct 30, 2012 7:18 PM GMT
    hmm, we were together for 1 and 1/2 year
    two weeks is maybe a little too much, ii worry that he forgets about me too much and we will be very alienated then, but on the other hand i was hoping that he would realize what he is loosing and maybe change his mind icon_cry.gif
    he was my everything, my whole world, and i know I should get over that and be prepared to not have him anymore, but I wish so much that i can do something about it
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    Oct 30, 2012 9:09 PM GMT
    Every relationship has ups/downs. I can understand taking a break but no communication sounds like he wants to move on. Maybe it will help him realize what he has lost... Sounds like you are ready to handle the chance that he is gone. :/
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    Oct 30, 2012 10:35 PM GMT
    well that two damn weeks was my idea :/
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    Oct 30, 2012 11:27 PM GMT
    I did something similar to this for different reasons, we wernt officially broke up a break and no communication too, it's also long distance and was a month of no talking, TODAY the month is over and we are together still ((:

    and also he bought me lots of presents! lol
    so if you are strong you can make it, but the no communication is hell -___-
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    Oct 30, 2012 11:42 PM GMT
    we had few days without comm. before and it kinda helped, sometimes when we are too far away from each other we start to get crazy, hes depressed and nervous and I write him like a message each 20 minutes
    this time it started similarly, but it never has escalated to such level + he stated that he wants to find out if he didn't miss anything which nobody knows how long its gonna take... icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 30, 2012 11:50 PM GMT
    To answer your questions:
    1. Yes there is a chance that you could get back together. Sometimes distance from one another can help one realize how much they really need that other person in their life and the same could happen to y'all

    2. I think it was a good idea to take a break of communication because it will enable both of you to settle your mind and assess what you really want. It create fresh perspective and in some, hopefully your case, a stronger and more committed relationship.

    Just gotta stay strong and wait to see what happens. Best of luck dude. icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 31, 2012 12:14 AM GMT
    I never understood this "taking a break" thing, but I was in the same situation, it was hard as fuck to let go and it made me sick for weeks...then he came back, apologized and wanted to try again but it was for the worse, never kept his word.
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    Oct 31, 2012 9:56 AM GMT
    ohboy saidI never understood this "taking a break" thing, but I was in the same situation, it was hard as fuck to let go and it made me sick for weeks...then he came back, apologized and wanted to try again but it was for the worse, never kept his word.


    I'm afraid that I wouldn't be able to take him back after how much this hurt me.

    I wonder what happens when we meet before Christmas. I would like to be a friend to him if we won't be able to get together, but I might punch him the first second I see him... icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 31, 2012 3:23 PM GMT
    Just have an open relationship, that way you never have a need to "take a break" and pretend you do not have a BF.
    I have seen way too many nice relationships fall apart because one or the other wanted to try something new with someone else, just sex with someone different, and it ruined everything. Had they had an open understanding, some of these wonderful relationships would have sailed right thru, instead, these nice men become scared and cynical.
    Open your relationship and be mature about it.
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    Nov 01, 2012 2:28 AM GMT
    smartmoney saidJust have an open relationship, that way you never have a need to "take a break" and pretend you do not have a BF.
    I have seen way too many nice relationships fall apart because one or the other wanted to try something new with someone else, just sex with someone different, and it ruined everything. Had they had an open understanding, some of these wonderful relationships would have sailed right thru, instead, these nice men become scared and cynical.
    Open your relationship and be mature about it.


    TBH I don't care that much about him being with others, but he doesn't want it. He said that he's not sure if he loves me, and that is what he wants to find out. I'm pretty confused of him :/