Connecting with RJ-ers but not via 'Hot List' or 'Buddy' listing. Should RJ have another way?

  • shoelessj

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    Oct 30, 2012 5:33 PM GMT
    So every so often while looking at profiles here i'll see a guy who seems interesting or shares the same interests as i have, and i think hey, he'd be cool to chat with sometime or if not that, i wish there'd be a little box i could check on their profile page that would be something like 'hot list' but instead to signify that i liked reading what he had to say or that i think he gave good advice to someone on a post, etc.

    Is there a way that you guys let other guys here know that you like what they've said or their interests but you don't necessarily want to talk dirty or something like that?

    That being said, the buddy list feature confuses me. This would be something that you do after you've chatted with someone here, right?

    Apologies in advance if this is a stupid question.
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    Oct 30, 2012 5:36 PM GMT
    "Is there a way that you guys let other guys here know that you like what they've said or their interests.."

    I just use email and say what you said, in the way of offering a friendship. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 30, 2012 7:15 PM GMT
    I think what you're talking about is something like an "interested" button.

    The thing with these"buttons" is that people will take them different ways. There are rarely ever tons of buttons with specific designations to each. (such as "I think you're hot" and a "I like your profile" and a "not looking for sex" button).

    I rarely ever message guys, but I would if I ever found someone interesting enough to try to start a dialogue. I once messaged a guy just to say his profile was interesting.

    There is no real answer since not all people check their messages (trust me I know) and these "lists" mean different things to different people
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    Oct 30, 2012 7:37 PM GMT
    How about the "Send Email" link?
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    Oct 30, 2012 7:41 PM GMT
    Maybe RJ should have a "like" button... or not.

    Just send them a message about it. If it's something you'd like to talk to them more about, just message them. No harm in that.
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    Oct 30, 2012 8:19 PM GMT
    I think they should have mixers in all the major cities so you can meet guys realtime from RJ
  • MikemikeMike

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    Oct 30, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
    stupid question- send them an e-mail-be a man.icon_idea.gif
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    Oct 30, 2012 8:28 PM GMT
    Roguewave saidI think they should have mixers in all the major cities so you can meet guys realtime from RJ


    There are user-organized RealJock meet-ups. Granted a lot fizzle out in the planning since they're not site organized and only come to fruition in large cities like NY with a high concentration of RJers (and even then it's only relatively small handful turnout). But they're fun!
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    Oct 30, 2012 8:30 PM GMT
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    Roguewave saidI think they should have mixers in all the major cities so you can meet guys realtime from RJ


    There are user-organized RealJock meet-ups. Granted a lot fizzle out in the planning since they're not site organized and only come to fruition in large cities like NY with a high concentration of RJers (and even then it's only relatively small handful turnout). But they're fun!


    I'd go!
  • shoelessj

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    Nov 05, 2012 10:08 PM GMT
    Roguewave saidI think they should have mixers in all the major cities so you can meet guys realtime from RJ


    That would be awesome!
  • shoelessj

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    Nov 05, 2012 10:09 PM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidstupid question- send them an e-mail-be a man.icon_idea.gif


    stupid answer. #beadouche
  • shoelessj

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    Nov 05, 2012 10:10 PM GMT
    meninlove said "Is there a way that you guys let other guys here know that you like what they've said or their interests.."

    I just use email and say what you said, in the way of offering a friendship. icon_wink.gif


    Thank you. As long as i word it like you say, hopefully it wouldn't come off as though i'm looking for something else. thanks.
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    Nov 05, 2012 11:12 PM GMT
    If only there was a way to send some sort of electronic mail to tell people information.
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    Nov 05, 2012 11:23 PM GMT
    If You wanna connect with a Dude just send a check or a money order.

    If You can't buy friends then You maybe don't deserve them.
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    Nov 05, 2012 11:26 PM GMT
    I typically open with a photo comment or a message saying what I liked about the person. Sometimes that opens the door to conversation, sometimes I get no response at all.

    Everyone's different and has different expectations. You win some, you lose some.

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    Nov 05, 2012 11:26 PM GMT
    Cash saidIf You wanna connect with a Dude just send a check or a money order.

    If You can't buy friends then You maybe don't deserve them.


    BETCH, your check BOUNCED!!! icon_mad.gif
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    Nov 05, 2012 11:28 PM GMT
    I use Buddy list to remember someone, but only after an initial conversation and if I want to talk again in the future. For what you want to do, though, it would be best to simply write it down or take a note yourself... maybe use something like Evernote Web Clipper to save their profile pages.
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    Nov 05, 2012 11:37 PM GMT
    I remember faces, so that's my guide. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 05, 2012 11:37 PM GMT
    ConQuest saidI typically open with a photo comment or a message saying what I liked about the person. Sometimes that opens the door to conversation, sometimes I get no response at all.

    Everyone's different and has different expectations. You win some, you lose some.



    And then You buy them some jewelry or a nice vase and hope for the best, right????
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    Nov 05, 2012 11:38 PM GMT
    GigoloAssassin saidI remember faces, so that's my guide. icon_smile.gif


    Oh YEAH...like You ever look at the faces....

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    Nov 05, 2012 11:40 PM GMT
    shoelessj saidSo every so often while looking at profiles here i'll see a guy who seems interesting or shares the same interests as i have, and i think hey, he'd be cool to chat with sometime or if not that, i wish there'd be a little box i could check on their profile page that would be something like 'hot list' but instead to signify that i liked reading what he had to say or that i think he gave good advice to someone on a post, etc.

    Is there a way that you guys let other guys here know that you like what they've said or their interests but you don't necessarily want to talk dirty or something like that?

    That being said, the buddy list feature confuses me. This would be something that you do after you've chatted with someone here, right?

    Apologies in advance if this is a stupid question.



    Errr... it's pretty easy to send them a message and, if you're truly interested in what they have to say, surely it's worth taking the time to do so?
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    Nov 05, 2012 11:40 PM GMT
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    ConQuest saidI typically open with a photo comment or a message saying what I liked about the person. Sometimes that opens the door to conversation, sometimes I get no response at all.

    Everyone's different and has different expectations. You win some, you lose some.



    And then You buy them some jewelry or a nice vase and hope for the best, right????


    Jewelry is so 2010. I buy rechargeable money cards. That way people can buy what they want. Spends the same as "cash."

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    Nov 05, 2012 11:41 PM GMT
    Cash said
    GigoloAssassin saidI remember faces, so that's my guide. icon_smile.gif


    Oh YEAH...like You ever look at the faces....

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    I remember yours right?
    Now PAY ME!!!
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    Nov 05, 2012 11:43 PM GMT
    shoelessj saidApologies in advance if this is a stupid question.

    Never apologize for asking a question. Ever.
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    Nov 05, 2012 11:49 PM GMT
    vogue