Hiv Status On Profiles?

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    Oct 30, 2012 7:22 PM GMT
    Does anyone else find this offensive? If you like someone, you like them. This is a private conversation that should be between two people who want to be intimate. It is a major issue that has, in recent years, divided the "gay community". It used to be an issue that GALVANIZED gay people to speak out to find a cure. Poz guys, many of them, live healthier lifestyles than many guys out there. There are many couples who are neg and poz, and never transfer the disease.
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    Oct 30, 2012 7:24 PM GMT
    It's there but you don't have to fill it out if you want to. Some guys who are positive will put it there I guess so that if it's a turn-off to potential guys, they won't have to put up with someone messaging them then getting all bitchy about "why didn't you say something about that before I started to like you!!!"
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    Oct 30, 2012 7:26 PM GMT
    I say then tell the guy once you start a conversation, and learn early. HIV does not scare me, and it should not scare anyone else from falling in love. If you are gay, hopefully you get informed about the HIV.
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    Oct 30, 2012 7:33 PM GMT
    I'm not saying that it's an instant turn-off for me. But as you should be well aware, this is the internet. Some guys will bitch over something like this, so putting it in the profile will just avoid it... especially when it's not even the HIV positive person's fault and they'll be getting all the bitching. It's better for them to just let the guys who skim their profile know beforehand. Now if it were real life and the guys were meeting for the first time in person, without meeting online, then it's up to the positive guy to really decide when to tell the other guy.
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    Oct 30, 2012 7:36 PM GMT
    Why limit disclosure to HIV? How about other STDs such as Hep C, Herpes, and Syphilis?
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    Oct 30, 2012 7:38 PM GMT
    It seems like most guys either 1. leave it blank, which means they are poz or just don't think it's the place to have the discussion or 2. they put neg on there to deter people who are poz. I think people miss out if they rule out someone simply because of that....and I think it can make poz people feel like pariahs. I think it is more of a disconcerting issue that RJ feels the need to put that distinction on their choices. Why put Herpes on as a choice?
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    Oct 30, 2012 7:39 PM GMT
    I figure any out gay man over the age of 20 is positive.
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    Oct 30, 2012 7:39 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidWhy limit disclosure to HIV? How about other STDs such as Hep C, Herpes, and Syphilis?


    EXACTLY!!!!
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    Oct 30, 2012 7:41 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidI figure any out gay man over the age of 20 is positive.


    and if one is going to mess around on one night stands, they should think that way to protect themselves. Hell, guys say they are neg, but, they could have seroconverted in the past months, after the tested neg, and be at their most infectious. OR they could be lying. Guys who have been meds and been undetectable for years have almost a nil chance of passing it on....it has been well documented by a latest study in Switzerland