Seasonal draw towards relationship?

  • dancedancekj

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    Oct 31, 2012 5:25 AM GMT
    Every year during the summer, I find it easy to be single. Having fun, running outside, meeting new people, making plans and crossing things off my bucket list.
    Then every year around this time, I usually start getting the urge to start being romantic again. Suddenly the nights feel a bit more lonely, and the idea of being in love or at least infatuated with someone seems very appealing again.

    Anybody else experience this? I've come up with all sorts of hypotheses, from the change in daylight to a drop in Vitamin D production to a pre-holiday subconscious preparation to the change in body temp, but haven't found much to support any of my theories...


  • Narco

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    Oct 31, 2012 7:00 PM GMT
    While I haven't found a change in myself, I have noticed that many more guys suddenly want more than sex all of a sudden.

    That said, I wonder if it has anything to do with the drastic influx of social interaction which occurred this time of year for 13+ years. August and September rolled around and we were forced back into the classroom, where gaining a significant other this time of year was crucial and most likely.

    Just a thought.
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    Nov 01, 2012 12:36 AM GMT
    I think its part of our human nature. The way birds migrate and bears hibernate for the winter; I believe that we naturally go from being free roaming sexual creatures, to romantic monogamous people in need of another person in our lives. Not that we have to be solely subject to our biological drives, since our intelligence gives the ability to reason our way passed them, but still should be taken note of. All in all, I'd rather be with someone for the long term. I'm getting too old, and tired of reindeer games.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Nov 01, 2012 12:41 AM GMT
    It's genetic, just like being gay is. The ancestors who ran around like silly asses in the winter froze to death and didn't pass on the stay-in-the-cave gene in their DNA. Ask me about the gay gene if you haven't discovered it yet.
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    Nov 01, 2012 1:08 AM GMT
    I would rather have someone all year. The feeling is more intense in the fall and winter months.
  • TennisJock10

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    Nov 01, 2012 1:11 AM GMT
    I've felt more inclined to be with someone but that's just because my sex drive is insane right now and I'm basically craving sex nearly 24/7

    But I have noticed that a lot of my friends are breaking up all of a sudden. I thought this was cuddling weather. icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 02, 2012 1:25 AM GMT
    I could see something to this. In the summer you're out in the sun more, shirts are off, you could be feeling more flirty.
    When the weather cools down you want to be cuddling with someone. Plus you probably want to spend the holidays with someone special.
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    Nov 02, 2012 1:46 AM GMT
    So if someone wants anything serious with me during winter I'll make him wait until summer to see if he means it. icon_lol.gif
  • Medjai

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    Nov 02, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidIt's genetic, just like being gay is. The ancestors who ran around like silly asses in the winter froze to death and didn't pass on the stay-in-the-cave gene in their DNA. Ask me about the gay gene if you haven't discovered it yet.


    Oh come off it. There is no gay gene.
  • Kriss

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    Nov 03, 2012 12:15 AM GMT
    oh god this weather so perfect for cuddling....

    too bad I'm forever alone icon_sad.gif LOL
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    Nov 03, 2012 12:22 AM GMT
    Yeah I think it has to do with "spring awakening" when our hormones all of a sudden want to make proverbial babies, and in the fall/winter we tend to be indoors and isolated more often. I, however, would always prefer having a relationship so we could make proverbial babies year round ;-) .