Body Odour - How to tell someone...

  • huwdavies76

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    Oct 31, 2012 8:41 PM GMT
    Ok, so I have a delicate situation where I need to talk to someone about their body odour, It's a strong smell and I guess they don't know it!?

    So how would you like to be told?

    If it was me, I'd be a bt uncomfortable talking about it but would act upon it... However this person has been told a number of times over the years...

    They work in a open office environment and people are talking about it and don't want to be near them...

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  • chris_hasting...

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    Oct 31, 2012 8:51 PM GMT
    anonymous email? thats what i ddi for this morbidly obese sack of shit that smelled of garbage, literally would stink up a 100x100' room. of course then he found out who sent it and it was a bit awkward but he did finally change... a bit. or you could just talk about what you do to stay smellin good, or ask him if you think he smells or something...
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    Nov 01, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    Be honest. Take the person aside, and let them know.

    "I need to talk to you about something. You've been warned numerous times before about your body odor. People are really starting to complain and it's disrupting everyone in the office.."
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    Nov 01, 2012 3:39 AM GMT
    Play this video for him

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    Nov 01, 2012 4:07 AM GMT
    Leave deodorant at his/her desk discreetly. Nobody needs to know or discuss it. Allow the person to save face. Everybody can act like nothing happened. That's what I would do.
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:08 AM GMT
    I just walk away... why talk to someone if you're not liking what you're seeing, hearing, or smelling. In real life, I cut right to the chase, and leave no misconceptions. You will know where you stand... in all cases outside of interacting with me at work. icon_cool.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:12 AM GMT
    Since Christmas is coming, take up a collection and buy a gift basket with soap, shampoo, toothpaste and a toothbrush and leave it on their desk, and have everyone sign the card.


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    Nov 01, 2012 4:15 AM GMT
    Maybe s/he has sinusitis. It disables all sense of smell. I know someone with it.

    If your eyelashes aligning on the floor in his/her presence goes unnoticed ...

    ... make it about you. Say something like "Man, when I eat that curry chicken, my sweat smells stronger than usual. Do you ever experience that?" If s/he has no chronic stuffy nose and refutes your above question/claim, spray Airwick in his/her spot whenever there.

    Reminds me of this MadTV sketch.


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    Nov 01, 2012 4:17 AM GMT
    Make it simple, make it clean, make it spontaneous.

    Nobody likes to get told, "The whole office has been talking about your BO behind your back for months."

    A simple, "Wow! Did you step in a pile of garbage today?" or some such should work. Make it about the instance. You never noticed it before, and it's so offensive you need to talk about it. At the same time, you are just talking about it because you are bowled over by it.

    If the person doesn't get the hint, catch him the next time and say the same thing. Then "remember" you already said that. Ask if he lives near a dump site. If he doesn't get it then, well...
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:17 AM GMT
    hey i smelt this awesome cologne n i want u to try it....trust me,its a dude magnet icon_biggrin.gif thats the way lol
  • LJay

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    Nov 01, 2012 4:22 AM GMT
    "Hey, I don't know what kind of stuff you use for BO, but you oughta try (xxx) 'cause it would probably work better. Sorry to have to say this, but people are talking."
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:25 AM GMT
    Write Dear Abby or whoever gives advice now.
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:30 AM GMT
    Gather a group of people and conspicuously whisper while looking at this person where they can see you. Do this for months. After establishing this pattern of passive aggressive abuse for an extended period cap it off with a large, horribly insulting and humiliating prank, preferably at a large office social gathering where everyone can see, laugh and point at. Just make sure this person doesn't have vengeful telekinetic powers that could kill all of you in a horrible fire. Otherwise you're good to go.
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidGather a group of people and conspicuously whisper while looking at this person where they can see you. Do this for months. After establishing this pattern of passive aggressive abuse for an extended period cap it off with a large, horribly insulting and humiliating prank, preferably at a large office social gathering where everyone can see, laugh and point at. Just make sure this person doesn't have vengeful telekinetic powers that could kill all of you in a horrible fire. Otherwise you're good to go.

    Haaah! Had you not existed, someone would have had to invent you.
  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Nov 01, 2012 4:36 AM GMT
    Deodorant, cologne, something. Put it on his desk.
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:37 AM GMT
    If there's an office policy about grooming (if not make one up), have the boss send an office wide e-mail citing this policy without pointing fingers. If he doesn't get the clue, leave an anonymous note on his desk.
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    also



    relevant bit starts at 0:58
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Nov 01, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    There is no nice way of telling someone "You Stink" icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 01, 2012 5:02 AM GMT
    EW!!! SERIOUSLY!!! SO GROSS!!!! icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 01, 2012 5:38 AM GMT
    All good points, and one more is that they might be under certain medication(s) that could cause the issue as well....so the need to be tactful and respectful. I recall at one workplace we had a co-worker with this situation; she had a mental condition. Eventually, it was up to the supervisor to take action since it was very disruptive in the office, but we learned that they were trying to control her medication.
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    Nov 01, 2012 6:36 AM GMT
    1) Bring a descented pet skunk into the office, put a sign on his cage saying "I'M DEODORIZED. ARE YOU?"

    2) Recite a poem to him:

    Roses are red
    Violets are blue.
    The trash got dumped
    But we still have you.

    3) Leave a really stinky cheese in his desk over the weekend. When he complains, tell him that now he understands how you feel.

    4) You could have human resources or management send out an e-mail/newsletter stressing the importance of good hygiene. That way he's not singled out but still receives the message.

    5) Tape lavender scented dryer sheets all over the interior of his car, that way he can help contribute to a relaxing, tranquil office environment.


    Only one of these is an appropriate response, but appropriate, and diplomatic sometimes aren't that effective.
  • pharmstudent

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    Nov 01, 2012 7:22 AM GMT
    OMG same situation here and it sounds like its usually the big ones. Where I work, everyone is very hygienic except for this guy. The whole office is talking about him and I feel so bad for him. That's not the only part, when he returns back from lunch, you get a swift of fried food from him and you would be asking, man did he help out in kitchen or did AXE came up with a new body spray?

    But this girl reported him to our director but he appointed me to tell him. Wtf? I didn't even complain or gossiped about him. And I know for fact people don't like fault finders, "Kill the Messenger"
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    Nov 01, 2012 7:28 AM GMT
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    Nov 01, 2012 8:04 AM GMT
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    Nov 01, 2012 8:43 AM GMT
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