Equality vs Complementarity

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    Oct 31, 2012 8:43 PM GMT
    I was thinking about relationships, and the question of equality versus complementarity occured to me. I would personally prefer to be in a relationship with someone who is similar to me.
    If I saw someone like him:
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    with someone like him:

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    I would find it strange. I would find it to be a little like an opposite sex relationship.
    Your thoughts.
    (Please don't troll.)
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    Nov 01, 2012 11:48 PM GMT
    I personally hate when guys choose to dress like females, and would never be able to bring myself to date someone like that.

    If your a man then act like it, taking femininity that far isn't attractive in a man.
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    Nov 01, 2012 11:56 PM GMT
    Slim2010 saidI personally hate when guys choose to dress like females, and would never be able to bring myself to date someone like that.

    If your a man then act like it, taking femininity that far isn't attractive in a man.


    You're a beacon of tolerance.
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    Nov 01, 2012 11:58 PM GMT
    Stuttershock said
    Slim2010 saidI personally hate when guys choose to dress like females, and would never be able to bring myself to date someone like that.

    If your a man then act like it, taking femininity that far isn't attractive in a man.


    You're a beacon of tolerance.


    Voicing a personal preference is intolerance? Shit, I guess I'm sexist, racist, ageist, and every other -ist you can think of...!
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    Nov 01, 2012 11:59 PM GMT
    ah, another femme vs. macho guy thread.......anybody wanna order in?

    complimentarity???? websters collegiate dict. may help.....sorry didn't mean to be petty.
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    Nov 02, 2012 12:05 AM GMT
    Relationship wise I definitely look for guys who are similar to me.

    It's really superficial to say but personally I would be uncomfortable dating a guy who makes me look/feel like shit LOL. It's just not going to happen. I'm too self aware.

    You can say 'oh well fuck whatever people think' and yeah you can keep that front up for x amount of time but in the end it would get to me. Perhaps I'm not evolved enough as a human being but that's the way I feel.
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    Nov 02, 2012 12:08 AM GMT
    Medjai said
    Stuttershock said
    Slim2010 saidI personally hate when guys choose to dress like females, and would never be able to bring myself to date someone like that.

    If your a man then act like it, taking femininity that far isn't attractive in a man.


    You're a beacon of tolerance.


    Voicing a personal preference is intolerance? Shit, I guess I'm sexist, racist, ageist, and every other -ist you can think of...!


    Having a preference does not make you intolerant.
    But he is not just saying he wouldn't date someone that was feminine.
    He is also saying that men shouldn't act that way full stop.

    Unless I read it wrong, but it comes across like that is what he is saying.
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    Nov 02, 2012 12:16 AM GMT
    Stuttershock said
    Medjai said
    Stuttershock said
    Slim2010 saidI personally hate when guys choose to dress like females, and would never be able to bring myself to date someone like that.

    If your a man then act like it, taking femininity that far isn't attractive in a man.


    You're a beacon of tolerance.


    Voicing a personal preference is intolerance? Shit, I guess I'm sexist, racist, ageist, and every other -ist you can think of...!


    Having a preference does not make you intolerant.
    But he is not just saying he wouldn't date someone that was feminine.
    He is also saying that men shouldn't act that way full stop.

    Unless I read it wrong, but it comes across like that is what he is saying.


    That is what I said. Not meaning to be intolerant just voicing my opinion.

    The OP stated he would want a relationship with someone similar to him.
    I stated the same thing.
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    Nov 02, 2012 12:16 AM GMT
    I'm looking for an Equal but slightly opposite myself. So far, I'm a wild card, so Boy Next Door types, and Bad Boy types have qualities that are opposite to my own. Then again, its up to the person to person chemistry in my mind; and aside from each person's personal preference; it has less to do with how they appear on the outside. IMHO*
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    Nov 02, 2012 2:08 AM GMT
    Meh never question another mans taste lol
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    Nov 02, 2012 2:28 AM GMT
    Complementarity = completeness.

    Doppelganger Equality = redundancy.
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    Nov 02, 2012 4:25 AM GMT
    Prefer guys who are different and can do different things to me

    Why would I need another me in my life? I'd have absolutely no use for him

    and to the question. I really wouldn't give a shit who am I to judge anyone elses relationship?

    And Aress, not intending on trolling but, your 19, your single.... WTF do you know what makes a good relationship?? cause I can tell you it's not the physical that makes it a good healthy relationship
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    Nov 02, 2012 4:46 AM GMT
    I prefer to go for guys who are a bit opposite of me....icon_biggrin.gif
































    If they like it or not!!!icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 02, 2012 7:19 PM GMT
    pH7teddy saidComplementarity = completeness.

    Doppelganger Equality = redundancy.


    excuse me all to hell, i stand corrected.....this must be one of those new 'made up' words of the last decade......and i won the 3rd grade prize for grammar and spelling...
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    Nov 02, 2012 7:28 PM GMT

    Conversely,

    I've seen very disparate appearing couples and the first thing I've thought is how wonderful and powerful this is, that physical or behavioural differences are
    insignificant before the mightiness of true love.
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    Nov 02, 2012 7:36 PM GMT
    I like observing the differentness of couples. Not exactly masc. vs. fem. but just stylistic differences and behaviors. I tend to make up stories in my head as to how to couple got together. I thought about this recently while watching "The New Normal" because the most interesting thing about that couple is their differences.
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    Nov 02, 2012 7:40 PM GMT
    Not_Superman said
    Slim2010 said
    Stuttershock said
    Medjai said
    Stuttershock said
    Slim2010 saidI personally hate when guys choose to dress like females, and would never be able to bring myself to date someone like that.

    If your a man then act like it, taking femininity that far isn't attractive in a man.


    You're a beacon of tolerance.


    Voicing a personal preference is intolerance? Shit, I guess I'm sexist, racist, ageist, and every other -ist you can think of...!


    Having a preference does not make you intolerant.
    But he is not just saying he wouldn't date someone that was feminine.
    He is also saying that men shouldn't act that way full stop.

    Unless I read it wrong, but it comes across like that is what he is saying.


    That is what I said. Not meaning to be intolerant just voicing my opinion.

    The OP stated he would want a relationship with someone similar to him.
    I stated the same thing.

    Why do Americans think they can voice a hateful opinion without seeming intolerant?


    To paraphrase Love Story,

    "Because freedom of speech means never having to say you're sorry, or take responsibility and accept consequences for what you say"
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    Nov 02, 2012 7:44 PM GMT
    Keith51 saidexcuse me all to hell, i stand corrected.....this must be one of those new 'made up' words of the last decade......and i won the 3rd grade prize for grammar and spelling...

    Merriam Websters was the first place I went when I saw the thread title... I just did it before I posted. haha! ;)
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    Nov 02, 2012 7:47 PM GMT
    rudolphe saidMeh never question another mans taste lol

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    Nov 02, 2012 7:48 PM GMT
    EasilyDistracted said
    Keith51 saidexcuse me all to hell, i stand corrected.....this must be one of those new 'made up' words of the last decade......and i won the 3rd grade prize for grammar and spelling...

    Merriam Websters was the first place I went when I saw the thread title... I just did it before I posted. haha! ;)


    ooh you sly little thang....
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    Nov 02, 2012 7:51 PM GMT
    Not_Superman said
    Why do Americans think they can voice a hateful opinion without seeming intolerant?
    That is your opportunity to tell them they are a bigoted mother fucker and have the intellect of a crab louse and can suck your cock till their sinuses cave in just before you shit down their throat.
    ...or simply ignoring them or telling them to fuck themselves would do.
    (FYI: assholes come from all nationalities)
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    Nov 02, 2012 7:52 PM GMT
    Keith51 said
    EasilyDistracted said
    Keith51 saidexcuse me all to hell, i stand corrected.....this must be one of those new 'made up' words of the last decade......and i won the 3rd grade prize for grammar and spelling...

    Merriam Websters was the first place I went when I saw the thread title... I just did it before I posted. haha! ;)


    ooh you sly little thang....
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    Nov 02, 2012 7:55 PM GMT
    EasilyDistracted said
    Not_Superman said
    Why do Americans think they can voice a hateful opinion without seeming intolerant?
    That is your opportunity to tell them they are a bigoted mother fucker and have the intellect of a crab louse and can suck your cock till their sinuses cave in just before you shit down their throat.
    ...or simply ignoring them or telling them to fuck themselves would do.
    (FYI: assholes come from all nationalities)


    lol, very true! I think NS simply forgot to use the word 'some' in front of Americans. icon_wink.gif

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    Nov 02, 2012 8:03 PM GMT
    Slim2010 saidThat is what I said. Not meaning to be intolerant just voicing my opinion.

    The OP stated he would want a relationship with someone similar to him.
    I stated the same thing.

    No you didn't.
    Aress said he wants to be with someone similar to himself. He said he finds it strange when couples greatly contrast each other. Which, from a psychological standpoint, makes sense.
    You, however, said you despise femininity.
    Wanting similar traits =/= Putting down traits
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    Nov 02, 2012 8:12 PM GMT
    I personally have a preference for equality, rather than complementary, in a relationship. I just feel like it would be easier for myself to find things in common with other men who share similar interests. For most relationships, both homosexual and even heterosexual, opposites do not attract. It's psychologically proven that we seek for similarities in a mate. I also think it's perfectly fine for a butch, gay man to have a soft spot for twinks. icon_wink.gif