First time

  • DreamJock

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    Oct 31, 2012 10:51 PM GMT
    I'm 18, still a virgin, and in college. I've been lurking the forms here for almost a year now, reading almost every thread. I'm not out of the closet yet so it's hard for me to have sex. I've been browsing criagslist lately and see tons of ads for stuff of this matter but i'm a bit hesitant. I don't really trust anyone but I want to lose my v-card. Any advice would be very welcomed, mail or thread.
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    Nov 01, 2012 12:22 AM GMT
    There are TONS of guys on Craigslist looking for No Strings Attached sex, but I wouldn't trust very many of them. So be careful if you're looking on there. There's plenty of other dating sites that are "safer".

    I don't think you should be so anxious to lose your v-card though. Just my opinion.
  • MikeW

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    Nov 01, 2012 12:32 AM GMT
    Your OP seems a bit at odds with what you say in your profile:

    Relationship Status: Open Relationship (play together only)
    Looking for: Hookup
  • DreamJock

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    Nov 01, 2012 1:28 AM GMT
    I made this account over a year ago. I was in high school and I honestly just put whatever I felt, which at the time, I wanted a 'hook up" only experience.

    How about instead of trying to find something wrong with my post / question, post something helpful and insightful for me. I wasn't asking for speculation, nor criticism, thanks for your useless input.
  • MikeW

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    Nov 01, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
    DreamJock saidI made this account over a year ago. I was in high school and I honestly just put whatever I felt, which at the time, I wanted a 'hook up" only experience.

    How about instead of trying to find something wrong with my post / question, post something helpful and insightful for me. I wasn't asking for speculation, nor criticism, thanks for your useless input.


    Not meaning to be critical at all. It's about understanding where you're coming from, what your specific needs are. I looked at your profile hoping to learn more about who you are, what your situation is, what you're looking for and so on. When I read that, though, it didn't jibe and it set off my 'trust alarm' which is why I brought it here.

    It is difficult (for me at least) to be "insightful" without understanding more about *you*.

    In general I wouldn't recommend CL. Some of the hook-up aps, like Hornet, might serve you better. Being celibate I don't really know.

    It is doubly difficult if you're not out to anyone and have no gay friends. Is there a gay student organization on campus you'd feel comfortable going to a meeting or something? Something along those lines is how I'd recommend you begin. If you were in the SF Bay area I'd suggest you visit Pacific Center or some organization geared specifically to gay youth.

    I get that you're horny. Hell, what 18 yo boy isn't (regardless of his sexual orientation)! And that's great! But, at the same time, maybe you need to take care of yourself emotionally as well. You're going to have a lot of fun in your life -- probably beginning very soon -- but you might want to wade in, not jump in.

    But see, I don't really know you and your situation so maybe what I've just said is as useless as how you perceived my first reply. I want to be helpful, though. Just not sure how.

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    Nov 01, 2012 3:41 AM GMT
    If you're in college then you are around other guys who feel the same way. CL might be an option - you can go DL on lots of sites and apps. Be safe, have fun.
  • Koaa2

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    Nov 01, 2012 11:51 AM GMT
    Looks like you in the LA area, there are all kinds of gay support groups for guys coming out. Contact some of the gay organizations and see what they have to offer. And like somone said your college must have gay groups also. You will just have to put out the effort to get out and meet other gay guys. The world is full of non closeted men who are living full productive lives. You might also take a trip to one of the bathhouses in LA, see what is going on, but play safe. I think bathhouses are much safer when meeting guys for just sex as there are a lot of other people around. Enjoy.
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    Nov 05, 2012 10:07 PM GMT
    HEY, dreamjock dont be scared cuz im the same way. Im actually 22 and have never even touched another guy or brought it up to anybody before besides on RJ and skype. I want to meet a guy to just try out sex and be just friends if hes cool. I've been with women, but I feel attracted to guys too easily and when somebody hot walks by, i watch and totally try and see guys cocks in bathrooms. lol But, i really dont where else to go or what to do to make me finally find somebody. I am NOT out, and im also bi. I feel myself wanting to try it with anybody, just so i can try it and see where i go from there. Should i actually find the guy my age and see what we can do or just jump on whoever i can get cock from, old or young?
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    Nov 05, 2012 10:08 PM GMT
    ALSO, im live in south florida and attend college here so if any guys from soflo see this, let me know cuz you might just be the guy