I need some help figuring this guy out..

  • raen

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    Nov 02, 2012 2:18 AM GMT
    I've known this guy for a little over a year and after some of the things he's done, he's starting to make me think that he's gay. I know there aren't certain characteristics that all gay guys share but there definitely are some things that show up on people's gaydar. I'm just wondering if my gaydar is broken or if this guy is very complicated. It's hard to tell because I know that I want him to be gay (he's extremely attractive and has a great personality) so I'm not sure if my desire is clouding my judgement.

    Some of the things he's done that make me think he's gay are:
    Loves to dance.. And he doesn't dance like any straight guy that I've ever seen
    His favorite singer is Britney Spears (Not necessarily gay but whatever)
    Facebook "Interested In" is blank
    He's made some weird comments about my ass
    He's made a couple comments about spanking me
    Gotten out of his bathing suit two or three times in front of me (wears a speedo underneath.. and damn... icon_razz.gif)

    But he's kind of odd.. I've passed some of the things off because he acts weird some times. He made out with a girl at a party but it was his first time drinking and he was white girl wasted. The next time he drank he told me he really liked someone but wouldn't go into anymore details but he was pretty drunk again. Then recently he told me that he had a "lady friend" that went to college but wouldn't go into anymore details. I just need to know what you guys think based off of what I've told you.
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    Nov 02, 2012 3:16 AM GMT
    First off wrong place to keep this thread in

    Secondly, you can always figure out if he's into by being close to him or having some hand to body contact (ie hand to shoulder etc) and see if he's comfortable in having a close proximity with you.

    The result may give you an answer however I would be more prepared if he dismisses it.
  • raen

    Posts: 16

    Nov 02, 2012 3:36 AM GMT
    My bad. Where should it have gone? I didn't really consider this Dating/Relationship or Sex so I just decided to put it in the General all things gay.
    I'll try a little bit of body contact and see what happens. I know the odds of him being gay are pretty slim so I'm not getting my hopes up too high.
  • ChrisBGood

    Posts: 103

    Nov 02, 2012 3:54 AM GMT
    I had this guy at work that I thought was "not so straight". He is very cute and I would love to date him. Even gives me a little look when he walks by my desk. Turns out he is straight. But not just straight... Recently engaged. I just blamed it on my very very bad gaydar. But in the end, I always looked at the glass half empty, as in he might be straight. That way My feelings were not hurt when I found out he is straight. If I would have looked at the glass half full, I may have been crushed.
  • MikeW

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    Nov 02, 2012 4:13 AM GMT
    Why not just ask him?

    Also, fwiw, sexual preferences among a lot of guys are ambiguous at best. Some of us (yours truly) figure this out long before they're in their teens. Others, not till they're married with kids. icon_neutral.gif
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    Nov 03, 2012 3:15 AM GMT
    Ask him on a date (read coffee) and have a one on one talk and tell him that you think he is a great person and that you think he is attractive and see what happens.
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    Nov 03, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    It's kinda hard to tell. Based on your facts, he sounds gay/interested in you. Based on kissing a girl and the "lady friend" its kinda hard to tell.

    I would say just keep waiting and see where it goes. Try patting him on the shoulder and see how he reacts. Watch his eyes hen your with him. If he looks at girls, then he's probably straight and just weird. If he looks at you and other hot guys alot, then he's probably gay.
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    Nov 03, 2012 5:56 AM GMT
    Have a three way with him and a girl. See if he switch hits during the encounter. It might be what he needs to make the transition to becoming a balls deep fag.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Nov 03, 2012 5:59 AM GMT
    Just tell him you have a slight man crush on him and was wondering if he would ever date a guy icon_smile.gif