How come the guys I want don't want me yet the ones I don't want, do? what's up with that?

  • chris_hasting...

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    Nov 02, 2012 9:22 PM GMT
    I can't seem to attract the guys i'm interested in or at least it always seems to fizzle or something, yet if I don't want the guy it's like i'm meth to their addiction or something. Only one of the guys I've been with did I actually want at all, the rest I stooped for... or was just really horny and they were there.
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    Nov 02, 2012 9:35 PM GMT
    I have a feeling you're talking about appearance here.... icon_confused.gif

    For dates, branch out a little and at least give people a try.

    For hook-ups, listen to someone else.
  • chris_hasting...

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    Nov 02, 2012 10:55 PM GMT
    talking about both and no its not just appearance its personality, i tend to attract really femme skanky guys or fat guys or old weirdos. the one i actually liked was masculine (a marine), fairly fit and a bottom so like... perfect. but he took a job out of state and now i've just had the same string of twinky boys liking me. like on a4a i've talked to a few guys that were my type but they either end up deleting their accts or other shit like that.
  • mindblank

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    Nov 02, 2012 10:57 PM GMT
    This is life. I have the same problem. I eventually gave up on that shit. It could be that guys often get turned off by another guy being too enthusiastic or desperate, so just treat them all like you're not interested, and it might help to iron out the playing field for you.

    Stupid advice but just a thought.
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    Nov 02, 2012 11:14 PM GMT
    chris_hastings1 saidtalking about both and no its not just appearance its personality, i tend to attract really femme skanky guys or fat guys or old weirdos. the one i actually liked was masculine (a marine), fairly fit and a bottom so like... perfect. but he took a job out of state and now i've just had the same string of twinky boys liking me. like on a4a i've talked to a few guys that were my type but they either end up deleting their accts or other shit like that.


    Now I see and know what you mean. icon_smile.gif
    I would say the key element here is that you need to be the one to initiate a conversation. When they get to know you more, they may like you. Alot of guys find confidence attractive, try working on that.
    Just don't give up. I'm sure you'll find someone for you eventually, just keep trying.
  • chris_hasting...

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    Nov 02, 2012 11:31 PM GMT
    mindblank saidThis is life. I have the same problem. I eventually gave up on that shit. It could be that guys often get turned off by another guy being too enthusiastic or desperate, so just treat them all like you're not interested, and it might help to iron out the playing field for you.

    Stupid advice but just a thought.


    see this is what i suspected, i know humans for the most part are retardedly attracted to whats aloof/disinterested, so i've tried to play it cool.... but like... most of the ones i'm into seem to have terrible conversation skills, so i'm always leading but i still try to control myself so i don't come off overly excited.

    not sure why terrible social skills are rewarded with sexy bitches.
  • chris_hasting...

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    Nov 02, 2012 11:33 PM GMT
    WaytoDawn said
    chris_hastings1 saidtalking about both and no its not just appearance its personality, i tend to attract really femme skanky guys or fat guys or old weirdos. the one i actually liked was masculine (a marine), fairly fit and a bottom so like... perfect. but he took a job out of state and now i've just had the same string of twinky boys liking me. like on a4a i've talked to a few guys that were my type but they either end up deleting their accts or other shit like that.


    Now I see and know what you mean. icon_smile.gif
    I would say the key element here is that you need to be the one to initiate a conversation. When they get to know you more, they may like you. Alot of guys find confidence attractive, try working on that.
    Just don't give up. I'm sure you'll find someone for you eventually, just keep trying.


    yeah i've done that lol. i'm always the one initiating and leading and not being a creep or anything.... it's like their mostly retarded or something.

    http://imgur.com/gallery/mV0TY

    mhmmm
  • popobtc

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    Nov 03, 2012 12:02 AM GMT
    Same thing happens to me bro. My problem is there apparently aren't many guys my type around me. I'm picky, this is also a problem.
  • chris_hasting...

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    Nov 03, 2012 12:03 AM GMT
    popobtc saidSame thing happens to me bro. My problem is there apparently aren't many guys my type around me. I'm picky, this is also a problem.


    i think thats probably my biggest problem, i'm stranded in a corn field surrounded by nothing but fat people... and all the guys that are my type like tacos instead :/

    .... but how you durrin'? lol
  • popobtc

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    Nov 03, 2012 1:01 AM GMT
    lol, Doing great...Thx for asking
  • unhooligan

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    Nov 03, 2012 1:09 AM GMT
    I feel the same. People who reach out to me tend to be the opposite of what my shallow expectations are. Then you can't help but think the same right before you message someone you find attractive. Lol
  • chris_hasting...

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    Nov 03, 2012 1:23 AM GMT
    unhooligan saidI feel the same. People who reach out to me tend to be the opposite of what my shallow expectations are. Then you can't help but think the same right before you message someone you find attractive. Lol


    yeeeah. but honestly I KNOW... what i look like... and i'm ok with the twinky guy's level of attractiveness... its just the personality... put a similar personality to mine in one of the twinky boys and I can be really happy.... but why do all the twinky boys gotta be queeny?

    ain't nobody got time fo dat!
  • unhooligan

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    Nov 03, 2012 1:33 AM GMT
    Queens = limp doodle
    Good luck on that. I have yet to meet a twink who isn't fabulous or a prick.
    Not that all twinks are like that I'm sure. Lol cautious disclaimer
  • Kagse

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    Nov 03, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    unhooligan saidQueens = limp doodle
    Good luck on that. I have yet to meet a twink who isn't fabulous or a prick.
    Not that all twinks are like that I'm sure. Lol cautious disclaimer


    Haha funny.

    I have found that its kinda the "name of the game". I feel we are always more attracted to what we can't have, so much has gotta be right for two guys to hit it off. Just don't let it get you down, confidence is such a great turn on for guys.
  • mindblank

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    Nov 03, 2012 2:06 PM GMT
    chris_hastings1 said
    mindblank saidThis is life. I have the same problem. I eventually gave up on that shit. It could be that guys often get turned off by another guy being too enthusiastic or desperate, so just treat them all like you're not interested, and it might help to iron out the playing field for you.

    Stupid advice but just a thought.


    see this is what i suspected, i know humans for the most part are retardedly attracted to whats aloof/disinterested, so i've tried to play it cool.... but like... most of the ones i'm into seem to have terrible conversation skills, so i'm always leading but i still try to control myself so i don't come off overly excited.

    not sure why terrible social skills are rewarded with sexy bitches.


    I am one of those guys with poor conversation skills, but when I put myself out the other guy never wants to know. So guys always come to me first, and I also focus on becoming happy with myself. The guys who contact me frequently, I always feel are too different from me and I never find myself very attracted to them.

    If you like guys with no social skills (really?) then back off even more. The guy with no social skills needs to feel like it's his game as well and he'll feel good about himself if you let him take the lead. Let him come to you by always being happy that he contacted you/takes he lead. If he doesn't come to you then it confirms he is not into you, sorry. That's me anyway.

    I think, that you need to both be playing on the same - or close - levels or it doesn't feel right. Either you back down to his level of indifference or try and find other shall we say "enthusiastic" guys.

    chris_hastings1 saidwhy do all the twinky boys gotta be queeny?


    Where do you obtain this supply of queeny twinks? You have to know where to find them, and I would suspect that bars are not a reliable place to find non queeny guys - of any description. Try bumping into people from other areas, whether it be

    chatting online
    social/interest/sports clubs
    by being open to people in your everyday life
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    Nov 03, 2012 2:30 PM GMT
    You get back what you put out there- perhaps re examine your approach and behaviors? Everyone is looking for something different...it's not uncommon to run into a one sided attraction
  • chris_hasting...

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    Nov 03, 2012 5:26 PM GMT
    [quote] I am one of those guys with poor conversation skills, but when I put myself out the other guy never wants to know. So guys always come to me first, and I also focus on becoming happy with myself. The guys who contact me frequently, I always feel are too different from me and I never find myself very attracted to them.

    If you like guys with no social skills (really?) then back off even more. The guy with no social skills needs to feel like it's his game as well and he'll feel good about himself if you let him take the lead. Let him come to you by always being happy that he contacted you/takes he lead. If he doesn't come to you then it confirms he is not into you, sorry. That's me anyway.

    I think, that you need to both be playing on the same - or close - levels or it doesn't feel right. Either you back down to his level of indifference or try and find other shall we say "enthusiastic" guys.

    chris_hastings1 saidwhy do all the twinky boys gotta be queeny?


    Where do you obtain this supply of queeny twinks? You have to know where to find them, and I would suspect that bars are not a reliable place to find non queeny guys - of any description. Try bumping into people from other areas, whether it be

    chatting online
    social/interest/sports clubs
    by being open to people in your everyday life[/quote]

    yeah, I know that most non queeny guys aren't exactly the types to go to the club, but thats what id on't understand, how dot hey meet other non queeny guys? you'd have to rely on shear luck lol. unless its a club outside military bases... those have more non queeny guys. but still. it's like needle in the haystack. though i've been talking to a guy on here thats really cool... but hes like 5 states away :/
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    Nov 03, 2012 5:37 PM GMT
    the fuck did I just read
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    Nov 03, 2012 5:41 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidthe fuck did I just read

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    Nov 03, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    He's saying he's stranded in a corn field surrounded by taco-loving guys...sheesh, Miguel........icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 03, 2012 5:43 PM GMT
    Anywho.....

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    Nov 03, 2012 5:45 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidHe's saying he's stranded in a corn field surrounded by taco-loving guys...sheesh, Miguel........icon_rolleyes.gif


    Oh ok. The bitchy queen complaining about only attracting other bitchy queens is the part that was throwing me off.
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    Nov 03, 2012 5:50 PM GMT
    Oh, that's right, there were some bitchy, queeny twinks in there as well...
  • chris_hasting...

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    Nov 03, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    Ariodante said
    turbobilly saidHe's saying he's stranded in a corn field surrounded by taco-loving guys...sheesh, Miguel........icon_rolleyes.gif


    Oh ok. The bitchy queen complaining about only attracting other bitchy queens is the part that was throwing me off.


    lol fuck you
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    Nov 03, 2012 5:53 PM GMT
    I don't think those language converting sites are all they are cracked up to be....
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