Why Am I Scared To Have Anal Sex.

  • Ajoel12

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    Nov 04, 2012 4:53 AM GMT
    I watch porn and i like it. never been with a guy I'm afraid to and i don't really know why?
    Does anyone else know why this is? I like guys and I would rather be with a well endowed guy rather then one with a small one but I'm still scared.
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    Nov 04, 2012 4:57 AM GMT
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    Nov 04, 2012 4:57 AM GMT
    Because it hurts.
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    Nov 04, 2012 5:15 AM GMT
    ConfederateGhost saidBecause it hurts.
    only if ur doing it wrong
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    Nov 04, 2012 5:16 AM GMT
    I just think you're afraid because you might crap yourself.
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    Nov 04, 2012 5:18 AM GMT
    That's the same thing I've heard everyone say but guess what, even if you take all these pre-cautions, sometimes it just plain fucking hurts. After 9 months with my boyfriend...it still hurts sometimes.

    "Not if you do it right" was the biggest fucking bullshit lie I ever heard.


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    Nov 04, 2012 5:19 AM GMT
    Practice sitting on a greased baseball bat.

    Both ends.
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    Nov 04, 2012 5:24 AM GMT
    Don't be afraid. It's just like someone stabbing you in the anus. What could there possibly be to fear?
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    Nov 04, 2012 5:24 AM GMT
    i think ur more of an oral type of guy
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    Nov 04, 2012 5:25 AM GMT
    If my plumbing isn't cleaned, there is no way I'm getting 'plunged' icon_lol.gif

    Apart from that, yes I have days where the guy simply can't penetrate me and when he does, it hurts.

    Try to relax yourself and maybe use your finger to ease your sphincter muscles.
  • Kriss

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    Nov 04, 2012 6:29 PM GMT
    its because you are spreading yourself for another man and leaving yourself vunerable! Opening your legs and what not just inviting him to come in and have his way. That is your deep fear! jk

    but um I have no idea....perhaps reading up bit more and making yourself comfortable with the idea of anal? (not talking about watching porn people THATS NOT READING)
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    Nov 04, 2012 8:53 PM GMT
    I think you may be scared because it is so different for you.

    Technically speaking, nothing was ever supposed to ever go up the butt, just out. Just try sticking in a finger or a smal thin object and give yourself some time to explore all the sensations that come with it. And make sure to relax and try it several times.

    Some people just aren't bottoms, but you'll know if you are either a versatile or bottom after trying it for real. Just practice and take it slow.
  • kevmoran

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    Nov 04, 2012 9:07 PM GMT
    And if you do try it, don't be discouraged by your first attempt. The first two guys I was with treated it like cold murder, and I found out later that they were just terrible. It may take time to find the right guy!
  • BlueMoose

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    Nov 04, 2012 9:43 PM GMT
    Honestly you just need to relax and not let fear stray u from doing it. I say go for it and just ask the top to loosen u up with foreplay/rimming. That helps a lot. Use lots of lube and go slow and you'll be fine. Once its in your set.
  • Koaa2

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    Nov 04, 2012 9:50 PM GMT
    I was in a sling last night, felt so good. Learn to enjoy it, you won't regret it.
  • maax223

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    Nov 12, 2012 3:50 AM GMT
    I've had my first experiences with a guy not long ago.

    I won't lie, it does hurt a bit the first few times, but it's really not that bad. Just make sure the guy knows it's your first time so he's gentle on you..

    Tips:
    Practice with your fingers
    Make sure you're clean before anal sex. it's very important..

    Take your time, make sure you're comfortable and you'll have a whole lot of fun ;)
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    Nov 13, 2012 1:50 AM GMT
    Embrace the fact that you're a size queen and go for it. It's like going to the dentist...you know it's going to hurt a little, but in the end it'll be good for you.
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    Nov 13, 2012 4:24 AM GMT
    whats anal
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    Nov 16, 2012 3:54 AM GMT
    New to the scene, so I have never been with a guy before...I've seen movies, read books, so I know how it's done...but I have to admit, I'm kind of freaked out. In some movies, the guys are totally okay taking it, but in others, I've seen guys wince and push the guys away (they don't make it obvious) and sometimes when they scream, it doesn't sound like they're in the throes of passion, but pain. So truthfully, does it hurt the first time? Is there a way to prep so that it doesn't hurt as much, I mean besides using lube? I'd really have to trust a guy to let him try it on me or in me, I should say.
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    Nov 16, 2012 4:09 AM GMT
    Smalltownguyca saidNew to the scene, so I have never been with a guy before...I've seen movies, read books, so I know how it's done...but I have to admit, I'm kind of freaked out. In some movies, the guys are totally okay taking it, but in others, I've seen guys wince and push the guys away (they don't make it obvious) and sometimes when they scream, it doesn't sound like they're in the throes of passion, but pain. So truthfully, does it hurt the first time? Is there a way to prep so that it doesn't hurt as much, I mean besides using lube? I'd really have to trust a guy to let him try it on me or in me, I should say.

    Already making a mistake. You aren't relaxed. If you aren't relaxed, the muscles in your bum won't relax enough for a guy to get in there comfortably. That's step one. Thats a step before you see a guy. icon_razz.gif

    The second is foreplay. Your partner has to get your bum even more relaxed and spread it. He's got to prep it by fingering, licking it, whatever have you. It also makes you WANT it.

    Then third comes lube.

    It's going to be uncomfortable at first. Depends on the guy. Theres always small butt plugs and dildos that you can practice on too. Since thats what you see when you see the guys getting totally pleasure - they have had lots of practice. I don't think anybody goes into being a bottom confident, open and a perfect one.
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    Nov 16, 2012 12:22 PM GMT
    It's kinda like the fear you have about riding a bike for the first time. Except that there's this huge, throbbing piece of meat being repeatedly shoved up your ass.

    So maybe that's not the best analogy. icon_redface.gif
  • Ajoel12

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    Jan 08, 2013 10:34 AM GMT
    LOL your guys are great, thanks guys a lot of tips im going to try some, maybe gain some confidence.
    HOPEFULLY!icon_neutral.gif
  • ESL_Asian

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    Jan 08, 2013 11:36 AM GMT
    Worry for anal prolapse, tooicon_sad.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 08, 2013 2:30 PM GMT
    ESL_Asian saidWorry for anal prolapse, tooicon_sad.gif


    You're watching too much fisting porn!icon_eek.gif
  • ESL_Asian

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    Jan 08, 2013 2:37 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    ESL_Asian saidWorry for anal prolapse, tooicon_sad.gif


    You're watching too much fisting porn!icon_eek.gif

    Are they?
    I just see the photos and shock.
    The sphincter never heal if it get hurticon_sad.gif