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    Nov 05, 2012 1:11 AM GMT
    I would like to publicly confess that I am a bad person.

    I have cheated on my exboyfriend (we were together at the time). I have sucked another guy. I was desperate and felt lonely.

    Now I have to suffer the consequences of my actions. Which I think one of them is the fact that he has met someone else and broke up with me. My punishment is losing the one I love the most on the whole planet.

    Part of my punishment is to publicly admit my fault and be judged for it. Go ahead.
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    Nov 05, 2012 1:20 AM GMT



    Did you tell your BF what you did?

    Did he meet another guy after you told him, or did he meet another guy and you didn't know?
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    Nov 05, 2012 1:36 AM GMT
    I did tell him after he told me that there's someone else.
    He managed to broke up with me before he has done anything with the guy (like 2 days before).
    But he met him before he knew.
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    Nov 05, 2012 2:46 AM GMT
    klobasnik saidI did tell him after he told me that there's someone else.
    He managed to broke up with me before he has done anything with the guy (like 2 days before).
    But he met him before he knew.


    Oh ugh. Both of you have been a little dishonest, you a bit more than him.

    BUT,

    He did not fall for someone else because you fooled around,

    Tell me, why were you lonely and desperate?
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    Nov 05, 2012 2:49 AM GMT
    the best thing to do is to forgive yourself and move on, it was a learning experience for u. you are not a bad personicon_smile.gif
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    Nov 05, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    archon saidthe best thing to do is to forgive yourself and move on, it was a learning experience for u. you are not a bad personicon_smile.gif


    Totally agree with this. You are not a bad person. You both made mistakes. But mistakes are a natural part of life. Now what you have to do is learn from your mistake and apply it to future relationships. But to do that you gotta stop being hard on yourself and move forward. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 05, 2012 5:45 AM GMT
    I think that what you did to your bf is horrible. I'm not going to sugar coat that. I don't know the full extent to why you did it other than you were desperate and lonely, but the good thing is that you're taking responsibility for your actions and learning from it =]
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    Nov 05, 2012 5:50 AM GMT
    You can take a nail out of a wall, but you can't take the hole out.
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    Nov 05, 2012 5:51 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidYou can take a nail out of a wall, but you can't take the hole out.


    +1
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    Nov 05, 2012 5:51 AM GMT
    Now deposit 100$ in my bank account and you shall be free icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 05, 2012 5:55 AM GMT
    Learn from your mistakes and strive to be a better person. At least you show regret from the lack of respecting your partner while in a relationship.
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    Nov 05, 2012 5:59 AM GMT
    Nobody is in the position to judge you. I admire you admitting and taking responsibility for your actions.
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    Nov 05, 2012 9:36 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    klobasnik saidI did tell him after he told me that there's someone else.
    He managed to broke up with me before he has done anything with the guy (like 2 days before).
    But he met him before he knew.


    Oh ugh. Both of you have been a little dishonest, you a bit more than him.

    BUT,

    He did not fall for someone else because you fooled around,

    Tell me, why were you lonely and desperate?


    We had a long distance relationship and I needed to feel a human touch. The whole time with the other guy I was thinking of my exbf.

    I felt more guilty towards the other guy because I used him. I went there not because of him, but because of my boyfriend. I have never done a worse thing in my life.
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    Nov 05, 2012 9:37 AM GMT
    Thank you guys that you read it. That's all I wanted at the moment.

    And special thanks to you guys who gave me some advice. I will try to get forgiveness from him, myself and God.
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    Nov 05, 2012 10:06 AM GMT
    you're young, you're allowed to make mistakes !! icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 05, 2012 11:45 AM GMT
    klobasnik said I am a bad person.


    Probably NOT.

    Bad people tend not to think of themselves as 'BAD'.
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    Nov 05, 2012 11:54 AM GMT
    Even the best people make bad choices at times.
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    Nov 05, 2012 12:31 PM GMT
    slut!


    but base of sexual urges on a gay men were highly get arouse compare to other sexual orientation because were confident that we wouldn't get pregnant and were gentle/optimist, that is why most gay relationship end up open.

    ops i plan to do a thread like that a minute ago with the same title but im not ready to correct my doings at the moment because were young we need experiences and experiment to know what we really wants..
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    Nov 05, 2012 12:39 PM GMT
    klobasnik saidThank you guys that you read it. That's all I wanted at the moment.

    And special thanks to you guys who gave me some advice. I will try to get forgiveness from him, myself and God.


    Welcome to the human race, we're a flawed, weak and sometimes stupid bunch.

    Start with forgiving yourself - I'm sure that whatever need you had at the time you sought an intimate moment was very real, and that you did what you needed to do.

    Its not as if he were there and able to provide you the intimacy you needed at the time - not his fault, not yours, but thats the way it was... get over it.

    Some things that happen in life, aren't good, aren't bad, just "Are". You cant keep beating yourself up over it.

    Your ex BF probably forgives you, probably understands too.

    God knows we're weak, and God knows that we learn from our mistakes and try to be better people.

    God doesn't expect us to be perfect, but to try not to hurt each other as we go about our lives.
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    Nov 05, 2012 1:33 PM GMT
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    klobasnik saidThank you guys that you read it. That's all I wanted at the moment.

    And special thanks to you guys who gave me some advice. I will try to get forgiveness from him, myself and God.


    Welcome to the human race, we're a flawed, weak and sometimes stupid bunch.

    Start with forgiving yourself - I'm sure that whatever need you had at the time you sought an intimate moment was very real, and that you did what you needed to do.

    Its not as if he were there and able to provide you the intimacy you needed at the time - not his fault, not yours, but thats the way it was... get over it.

    Some things that happen in life, aren't good, aren't bad, just "Are". You cant keep beating yourself up over it.

    Your ex BF probably forgives you, probably understands too.

    God knows we're weak, and God knows that we learn from our mistakes and try to be better people.

    God doesn't expect us to be perfect, but to try not to hurt each other as we go about our lives.


    Thanks. Forgiving yourself is the hardest part, isn't it? ...
    I wish we will stay friends with the guy.
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    Nov 05, 2012 2:20 PM GMT
    klobasnik saidWe had a long distance relationship and I needed to feel a human touch.


    I have no problem with a long distance relationship if both parties are emotionally and intellectually loyal to each other.

    I have no problem with monogamous relationships if both parties completely satisfy each other sexually.

    But I would never combine into one relationship monogamy and long distance. That makes as much sense to me as people who torture themselves by not having any sex at all for years at a time.

    They might as well be wearing one of these...
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    Of course you felt the need for human touch. Skin is only our largest organ and every bit of it is sensitive to touch. Touch is hugely important. Only monks and fools deny themselves that.
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    Nov 05, 2012 2:36 PM GMT
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    meninlove said
    klobasnik saidI did tell him after he told me that there's someone else.
    He managed to broke up with me before he has done anything with the guy (like 2 days before).
    But he met him before he knew.


    Oh ugh. Both of you have been a little dishonest, you a bit more than him.

    BUT,

    He did not fall for someone else because you fooled around,

    Tell me, why were you lonely and desperate?


    We had a long distance relationship and I needed to feel a human touch. The whole time with the other guy I was thinking of my exbf.

    I felt more guilty towards the other guy because I used him. I went there not because of him, but because of my boyfriend. I have never done a worse thing in my life.


    Well then, two things here. First, you made a mistake. Second, he made the same mistake. Should only feel guilty and horrible that you never told him FIRST that you could not make this relationship work with so much distance, and THEN decide to open your relationship together.
    His mistake, now you have told me more, is worse. He fell for another man.
    Instead of asking forgiveness of god etc, LEARN so this does not happen again.


    I want you to think of this:
    If you did NOT fool around, your BF would still fall for another guy, because he did that and he didn't know you had sex with someone else.

    Is this making sense?

    -Doug
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    Nov 05, 2012 3:55 PM GMT
    Congratulations! You both cheated on each other. You did something with another guy. You probably felt lonely because he was emotionally with another guy instead of you. Seems pretty equal to me. It sounds like it wasn't going to work out anyway. Next time if a guy isn't giving you what you want I'd suggest talking to him about it.
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    Nov 05, 2012 6:19 PM GMT
    Pontifex saidCongratulations! You both cheated on each other. You did something with another guy. You probably felt lonely because he was emotionally with another guy instead of you. Seems pretty equal to me. It sounds like it wasn't going to work out anyway. Next time if a guy isn't giving you what you want I'd suggest talking to him about it.


    Well we were in the long distance relationship so it would be pretty mean to tell him I need him to satisfy me... I mean, it was kind of my fault because he was telling me how much he misses me but I thought he can make it few more weeks. I should went there at the time few weeks ago. It wouldn't happen than.
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    Nov 05, 2012 6:20 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    klobasnik said
    meninlove said
    klobasnik saidI did tell him after he told me that there's someone else.
    He managed to broke up with me before he has done anything with the guy (like 2 days before).
    But he met him before he knew.


    Oh ugh. Both of you have been a little dishonest, you a bit more than him.

    BUT,

    He did not fall for someone else because you fooled around,

    Tell me, why were you lonely and desperate?


    We had a long distance relationship and I needed to feel a human touch. The whole time with the other guy I was thinking of my exbf.

    I felt more guilty towards the other guy because I used him. I went there not because of him, but because of my boyfriend. I have never done a worse thing in my life.


    Well then, two things here. First, you made a mistake. Second, he made the same mistake. Should only feel guilty and horrible that you never told him FIRST that you could not make this relationship work with so much distance, and THEN decide to open your relationship together.
    His mistake, now you have told me more, is worse. He fell for another man.
    Instead of asking forgiveness of god etc, LEARN so this does not happen again.


    I want you to think of this:
    If you did NOT fool around, your BF would still fall for another guy, because he did that and he didn't know you had sex with someone else.

    Is this making sense?

    -Doug


    Yes it is. But I still believe it is my punishment for what I have done.