Trouble with stretch marks.

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    Nov 05, 2012 1:08 PM GMT
    So Since I was about 14 I have had about 6 stretch marks on the sides of my stomach. The are the result of a massive growth spurt in my early teens.

    I'm really self-conscious about them to the point where I don't ever want to take my shirt off in front of people or have my picture taken at the beach. The truth is, they are very minor. Most people don't even notice them until I point them out (or at least pretend not to........)

    I would like to get rid of them somehow but the only solution I have been able to find was lasering and I'm afraid of that causing hyperpigmentation.

    They're really not a big to anyone but me. No one ever comments on them but they make me feel so insecure, and the insecurity is far more noticeable and far more unattractive than the actual stretch marks. My mom says that everyone has them, which is ironic because she doesn't have any and she's a girl!

    I know it might sound dumb to many of you but it really really makes me feel like shit sometimes. Even if a guy tells me I'm good-looking I always wonder what he would think if he saw them. No guy has ever really cared but for some reason the fear is still there.

    My friends all think I'm crazy when I try to talk to them about it. They say it's not a big deal, but for me it makes me never want to show my stomach to anyone! icon_sad.gif

    Is anyone else going through this?
  • MikeW

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    Nov 05, 2012 1:51 PM GMT
    I don't know anything about stretch marks but I do know a little about overcoming self-image issues.

    I think most guys, especially gay guys, have self-image issues about some part of their body or other. Some things you can change (short of surgery) some things you can't -- or perhaps choose not to.

    I started losing my hair when I was in my mid 20s and that was a big blow to my physical self-image, which had never been that strong to begin with. Short of hair transplants, weavings or topee, there wasn't much I could do about it. I'm too much of a 'naturalist'. I didn't even like wearing hats. So, I had to accept 'I am what I am and I look the way I look' and get over my anxiety and negative self-consciousness about my appearance.

    It took time.

    You're a very handsome young man and from what I can tell, you have a sweet, cool, personality. So, I suggest you concentrate on your assets. In other words, pay more attention to bringing out your best qualities--whether these are your appearance or personality or both or what. You might also want to begin to desensitize yourself to the stretch marks. By that I mean, deliberately start going shirtless when it is appropriate. If you don't have any, take photographs of yourself shirtless. You don't have to share them yet. But, little by little, try and just let it go. You look the way you look and if someone isn't going to relate to you based totally on your stretch marks, then that tells you everything you need to know about that guy.

    Also, keep in mind that *everyone* has "warts" of some kind, whether you can see them or not. No body is perfect, least of all those who think they are.

  • Bicuriouscool

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    Nov 05, 2012 1:52 PM GMT
    Ignore them. Nobody cares about the strech marks except ladies after delivery, just think of them as scars and roam naked like a boss.
  • RaggedyMan

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    Nov 05, 2012 2:03 PM GMT
    I know what you mean. I lost a bunch of weight and I have a bunch of stretch marks. Its visually displeasing and frustrating because I can't seem to get rid of them. Obviously there's worse things in life but it still never escapes my mind. I've started using strivectin and I don't know if its working or not. Ill keep you updated icon_smile.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Nov 05, 2012 3:59 PM GMT
    You could try using vitamin A topically. This is going to sound crazy, but you can use canned pumpkin on your skin. It's messy so you have to sit in a tub. Then rinse and rub some olive oil and vitamin E lotion on your skin.
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    Nov 05, 2012 4:47 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidThis is going to sound crazy, but you can use canned pumpkin on your skin. It's messy so you have to sit in a tub. Then rinse and rub some olive oil and vitamin E lotion on your skin.


    Am I wrong for getting turned on by thinking of Deki doing this? icon_eek.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Nov 05, 2012 4:50 PM GMT
    showme said
    HottJoe saidThis is going to sound crazy, but you can use canned pumpkin on your skin. It's messy so you have to sit in a tub. Then rinse and rub some olive oil and vitamin E lotion on your skin.


    Am I wrong for getting turned on by thinking of Dedi doing this? icon_eek.gif


    Let's hope he takes pics.icon_razz.gif
  • camfer

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    Nov 05, 2012 5:58 PM GMT
    It's probably easier to change your thinking than remove scars. Many people think the images they see in the media are what people really look like. It's not. It's makeup and photoshop. If you internalize these images as real, then you've set yourself up to an impossible standard.

    When I meet a guy with scars, I think of him as someone who has really lived life. He's had accidents or surgery and recovered from it. To me it looks like an outward sign of resiliency, of risk taking and associated rewards. It makes me think he's got character.

    When I meet someone who's perfectly coiffed, flawless skin, brand new clothes, no signs of getting down in the dirt and really living, I might find him pretty but my first impression is he's lived life in a safe bubble.

    Neither of these first impressions may ultimately turn out to be true.

    Wear your scars with pride. You're inhabiting a body that is imperfect. Enjoy it.
  • Medjai

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    Nov 05, 2012 6:36 PM GMT
    Apparently biotin gel (I think it is) can minimize visibility. My sister used it after her plastic surgery. Did wonders. Might work on stretch marks as well.

    It was really expensive though. $60 or something for a small tube.
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    Nov 05, 2012 6:44 PM GMT
    Many people have stretch marks on their stomach, so don't sweat the small stuff. I have them, caused by my obesity days! Oh well. No Biggie!
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    Nov 05, 2012 9:59 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]HottJoe said[/cite]You could try using vitamin A topically. This is going to sound crazy, but you can use canned pumpkin on your skin. It's messy so you have to sit in a tub. Then rinse and rub some olive oil and vitamin E lotion on your skin.[/quote

    of course! pumpkin enzymes and retinoids!

    You are so smart. That's why I'm gonna marry you.
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    Nov 05, 2012 10:04 PM GMT
    Tell folks they are old war wounds that you carry on your body in the fight for marriage equality and an end to bullying.

    P.S. If you do the pumpkin and olive oil thing, video it and post it for us.
  • Montague

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    Nov 05, 2012 10:05 PM GMT
    I've been using Apple Cider Vinegar on my skin and it works wonders in a short time; though you will smell like a salad for like a week! hah
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    Nov 05, 2012 10:17 PM GMT
    I have a few stretch marks on my sides and arms myself. I've had them since I was 17 or so. Over the years I tried just about every remedy, lotion, and oil imaginable that claims to reduce their visibility. All bullshit. I just learned to finally get over my insecurity of them. They really don't bother me much anymore. I figure if a guy is going to lose interest over me having some stretch marks, then he probably saved me the trouble of pursuing him. Stretch marks on another guy don't bother me at all.
  • Montague

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    Nov 05, 2012 11:23 PM GMT
    nicodegallo saidI have a few stretch marks on my sides and arms myself. I've had them since I was 17 or so. Over the years I tried just about every remedy, lotion, and oil imaginable that claims to reduce their visibility. All bullshit. I just learned to finally get over my insecurity of them. They really don't bother me much anymore. I figure if a guy is going to lose interest over me having some stretch marks, then he probably saved me the trouble of pursuing him. Stretch marks on another guy don't bother me at all.


    Yeah once they settle in they are pretty much permanent unless you go get some extreme surgery on them! icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 05, 2012 11:27 PM GMT
    I have them on my hip area. Does this mean I have baby birthing hips? Lol
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    Nov 06, 2012 3:05 AM GMT
    Montague said
    nicodegallo saidI have a few stretch marks on my sides and arms myself. I've had them since I was 17 or so. Over the years I tried just about every remedy, lotion, and oil imaginable that claims to reduce their visibility. All bullshit. I just learned to finally get over my insecurity of them. They really don't bother me much anymore. I figure if a guy is going to lose interest over me having some stretch marks, then he probably saved me the trouble of pursuing him. Stretch marks on another guy don't bother me at all.


    Yeah once they settle in they are pretty much permanent unless you go get some extreme surgery on them! icon_eek.gif


    Even then, I can't see laser surgery as a better option since that can still leave scaring!
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    Dec 23, 2012 2:12 AM GMT
    I have some stretch marks on my big ole booty icon_redface.gif
  • FRE0

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    Dec 23, 2012 2:22 AM GMT
    On my last two public profile photos, you can see rather conspicuous lumps on my back. They are benign lipomas, totally harmless, and cause no problems. However, I don't like the way they look and because they are benign, my medical insurance will not pay to have them removed; it is considered simply cosmetic. I've also been told that if I had them removed, there probably would be scaring.

    I do not like the lumps even though I've had them for more than 20 years. However, the most reasonable thing seems to be to ignore them.

    Of course at my advanced age, there are other cosmetic problems that I just have to accept.
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    Dec 24, 2012 12:42 AM GMT
    Stretch marks, or striae, are permanent, just like any scar, but usually they become less noticable with time, especially when they occur as a teenager. Usually, they start as bright red marks (striae rubra), and then gradually fade to a white mark (striae alba). The red marks can sometimes respond to medications, but not much can be done about white marks.

    The best treatment is intensive moisturization and vitamin C, and there are a lot of good creams with these things in them. There are prescription creams called retinoids, most commonly tretinoin (the same thing used for acne), that can improve stretch marks. There are also procedures that can help, like pulsed dye lasers or pulsed light, or a series of pretreated exfoliation treatments. Again, all these treatments are for red marks, not white marks.

    I'd suggest seeing a cosmetic dermatologist. He may suggest some topical treatments or a procedure, or he may feel it's too old to respond to therapy. In the end, it's just like a birth mark; the only person that cares about it is you, but if it makes you feel more confident to treat it, it's worth it.