Not a fan of gay sex :s

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    Nov 06, 2012 7:34 PM GMT
    Ok so this is ironic cos I'm pretty sure I'm gay but for some reason I just don't enjoy full on gay sex, meaning penetration. I've tried being a bottom and didn't it like then I tried being a top and didn't like that much either.
    I do enjoy foreplay and oral sex though, so I don't know.
    Anyone identifies with this? or maybe I just haven't met the right guy?
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    Nov 06, 2012 8:06 PM GMT
    Um, you don't have to like anal to be gay. Plenty of guys who don't.
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    Nov 06, 2012 8:17 PM GMT
    showme saidUm, you don't have to like anal to be gay. Plenty of guys who don't.


    Thanks man, I just thought that penetration was sort of the essence of gay sex or appartenly most of my sexual partners/ex-boyfriends thought so. But I was like fuck if I don't like, I won't do it, you can just leave. Anyway, thanks man (:.
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    Nov 06, 2012 9:09 PM GMT
    showme saidUm, you don't have to like anal to be gay. Plenty of guys who don't.


    What showme said. There are many gay men that don't enjoy penetrative gay sex. They just get into oral or other sensual activities. Whatever floats your boat and you get comfortable with go and pursue it.
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    Nov 06, 2012 9:16 PM GMT
    PR_GMR said
    showme saidUm, you don't have to like anal to be gay. Plenty of guys who don't.


    What showme said. There are many gay men that don't enjoy penetrative gay sex. They just get into oral or other sensual activities. Whatever floats your boat and you get comfortable with go and pursue it.


    Out of all the men I dated prior to Bill, and that was about 130 (over 14 years) I'd say only half were determined about penetrative anal sex. The rest could take it or leave it, and a large number didn't like it.
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    Nov 06, 2012 10:06 PM GMT
    Thanks guys, I always felt kinda odd about it (:. Didn't know there were many guys who didn't like it either.
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    Nov 06, 2012 10:16 PM GMT
    i wouldn't let people make rules for me if i were you

    you like what you like, period. you should only do what you feel comfortable doing, period. if people can't respect that, they don't respect you and are no good for you. having said all that, over time, with someone you respect and vice versa, your tastes may evolve and include things that they do not know. which is not to say that you will ever like everything.

    you have a right to your own desires, regardless of anyone trying to assert identity politics onto you to make you fit their ideas
  • HottJoe

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    Nov 06, 2012 10:17 PM GMT
    Give it time....


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    Nov 06, 2012 10:19 PM GMT

    I think you have watched to many porn movies, where gay equals fucking. Like the others have said, there is lots of gay sex that does not include fucking. If you are turned on by men, you are gay (or perhaps bi) whether or not you like anal sex.
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    Nov 06, 2012 10:23 PM GMT
    A_X91 saidOk so this is ironic cos I'm pretty sure I'm gay but for some reason I just don't enjoy full on gay sex, meaning penetration. I've tried being a bottom and didn't it like then I tried being a top and didn't like that much either.
    I do enjoy foreplay and oral sex though, so I don't know.
    Anyone identifies with this? or maybe I just haven't met the right guy?


    You just need to find the right guy, not everyone is into penetration and a lot of guys are understanding of that. If not then, eh their not for you. I say try not to label yourself one way or another so if you do get that desire of feeling with a special guy in the future there won't be any mental hesitations just because of how you'd identified.
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    Nov 06, 2012 10:25 PM GMT
    Yeah actually I haven't done that anymore, which I think was the reason for me breaking up with the last guy I dated. He told me it was very important to him and I just told him that I just didn't like it and if it was so important then we should both move on, which was what we did.
  • hawkeye7

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    Nov 06, 2012 10:31 PM GMT
    be your self
    I like it but I haven't done it in a while so I actually am scared it is gonna hurt.
    It sounds like you already know the answer. Funny thing is someday the right man may make you feel very different. Just do what feels right.
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    Nov 06, 2012 10:33 PM GMT
    Just focus on foreplay, and oral. Maybe try again in a couple of years and see if you feel any different. Just be open if someone you really like wants to try penetration. Maybe the intimacy will make it better for you.
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    Nov 06, 2012 10:37 PM GMT
    Good for you for posting!
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    Nov 06, 2012 10:39 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    Kissing, body contact, hugging and squeezing, some good massage, oral.....yeah that all works for me just fine. icon_smile.gif


    Preach man! .. I reckon that's the greatest part of having sex with a guy to be honest.
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    Nov 06, 2012 10:47 PM GMT
    I identify as gay because I connect physically and emotionally with guys...not because I wanna put my peter in their pooter. icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 06, 2012 10:51 PM GMT
    Although I feel an attraction to other men (or else I wouldn't be here) I have never done anal sex, either aggressive or passive
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    Nov 06, 2012 10:54 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI identify as gay because I connect physically and emotionally with guys...not because I wanna put my peter in their pooter. icon_razz.gif


    Hahahahahaha
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    Nov 06, 2012 10:55 PM GMT
    Don't feel odd about it - I'm usually not comfortable with anal sex either for a number of reasons... though willing to try with the right guy over time. That said, I've almost never enjoyed it as a receiver and not much as a giver either. Everyone's wired differently.

    And if that's the reason someone will leave a relationship, then I'd say that's someone not worth being with. Sounds ass-inine to me... icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 06, 2012 10:59 PM GMT
    To each his own. I say, so what? I never understood leather, Madonna or the need to drive a BMW.
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    Nov 06, 2012 11:02 PM GMT
    just do what makes you have an orgasm
  • imbrad

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    Nov 06, 2012 11:13 PM GMT
    i love it when it's good but definitely don't like it most of the time. The difference has always either been intimacy or alcohol. When i was with my boyfriend we were very close and learned to enjoy each other in many ways. It's not just about anal. Heck, anymore i'd love to just find a guy that can enjoy a nice meal without annoying me! ;)
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    Nov 06, 2012 11:24 PM GMT
    manboynyc said
    And if that's the reason someone will leave a relationship, then I'd say that's someone not worth being with. Sounds ass-inine to me... icon_wink.gif


    Thanks!... Yeah, I mean I think there's just way more than having sex and if he coulnd't see tht well not worth it like u say...
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    Nov 06, 2012 11:29 PM GMT
    Don't sweat it man. I was the same way; worse when, because of the way you look and represent yourself It's assumed, you'll pound all night.
    Funny how meeting the right guy, can make all the assumptions fact.
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    Nov 06, 2012 11:36 PM GMT
    A_X91 saidOk so this is ironic cos I'm pretty sure I'm gay but for some reason I just don't enjoy full on gay sex, meaning penetration. I've tried being a bottom and didn't it like then I tried being a top and didn't like that much either.
    I do enjoy foreplay and oral sex though, so I don't know.
    Anyone identifies with this? or maybe I just haven't met the right guy?


    lots of gaybros don't like anal or anything, just cuddling and BJs