International Relationships? How do you do those?

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    Nov 06, 2012 8:21 PM GMT
    I'm a guy from the UK. Let's say I find a man in the US on here and he steals my heart away, we're madly infatuated with each other and just want to be together, as a life arrangement. If I'm over here, and he's over there; how does one go about it?

    Green card marriage is a big thing in itself and because same-sex marriage is an affair in the hands of the federal state and not nationally, same-sex marriage, even in one of the few, permitting states, will not certify a green card.

    I suppose I'm just considering this from the perspective of being the one who moves to the states for the sake of determining a more specific solution.

    I guess this could apply to anyone really, someone going on holiday, meeting someone, mutually wanting to be together and yada yada, but how does one follow it through is what I was hoping you guys could share your ideas and knowledge on. Specifically in the case I've discussed above.

    Thanks in advance for all serious contr
  • Fable

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    Nov 06, 2012 10:27 PM GMT
    It's not gonna happen mate.
  • zdravo

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    Nov 07, 2012 12:02 AM GMT
    Couldnt the guy move with you in the UK and get permission to work with your civil union laws? It seems like an option unless you have an in demand skill that you could get work authorization in the USA for.
  • ohioguy12

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    Nov 07, 2012 12:11 AM GMT
    I know how you feel man. I met the greatest guy in my life in Spain. If he was here, I know we'd be together. We're very much into each other, the problem is he has a great job in Spain, so it would be foolish if he left, but it would be very tough for me to find a job there. We are both very reasonable people, and decided to remain great friends for now, and we'll figure out the rest later. It's sad, I think about him day and night, and he tells me he thinks about me all the time. We talk on Whatsapp, Viber, and Skype constantly, but it kills me, I probably won't see him until at least next summer
  • Medjai

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    Nov 07, 2012 12:20 AM GMT
    My sister did it for a year with her boyfriend. It lacks the same difficulties as a gay relationships, but she's now happy in Spain, going to school and working on a career. It can happen.
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    Nov 07, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    only legal ways to come to the United States permently, would be on a student visa ( and at this time, it is difficult to get permission to stay in the US after the educational study is over), a green card issued to you because you have skills that are in high demand that cannot be found in workers in the US, or by marrying a US Citizen (a woman) and living with her in the US long enough for Immigration to be satisfied that it is a real marriage. It is possible, but not likely, that the government might grant immigrant rights to same sex marriages. Either the Republicans in Congress would have to agree, or the Supreme Court would have to make a ruling to that effect. Neither action is likely to occur in the next few years. It seems like you could marry any man who is a citizen of an EU country, and then either of you could move to the other's country.
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    Nov 07, 2012 8:46 AM GMT
    Brapbrapbrap saidI same-sex marriage, even in one of the few, permitting states, will not certify a green card.

    Lol marriage equality at its finest.

    I think It would be best if you go over there for a while, If it doesn't work out then just come back and if it is not like you will never come back...explore the world.
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    Nov 07, 2012 8:59 AM GMT
  • MikemikeMike

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    Nov 07, 2012 9:03 AM GMT
    It's called a crush.icon_idea.gif

    Serious part: there are so many men right in your own backyard. Sounds like a lot of complication and drama.
    Maybe you found someone already?? Or similar to when a guy starts a topic about a friend and it's really about him or viceversa.
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    Nov 07, 2012 10:12 AM GMT
    At the moment, given current legislation/regulation in the USA (e.g. DOMA), you're not going to be able to emigrate there based on a gay relationship. You woukd have to meet the criteria of other immigration streams on your own individual merits.

    Don't even get me started on whether that is a wise path unless you have already been with someone for a substantial periond of time already...
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    Nov 07, 2012 11:56 AM GMT
    It's rare, don't count on it, but it can happen. I dated my last boyfriend for a year, he was in NYC, myself in Edinburgh but we both had jobs where we travelled a lot for work so it was not too hard, eventually things broke down though more due to work than the distance. A good friend of mine, he met his boyfriend on a chatroom, his boyfriend was in the States, he was at university in England, they kept it going for 3 years seeing each other when they could until his boyfriend moved over to the UK. 10 years later they are married and living in Australia. It's a rare story and a great one, just dont pin your hopes on it, keep your eyes wide open but life is for the taking my friend so good luck to you!
  • zakariahzol

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    Nov 07, 2012 2:40 PM GMT
    Back In college(1989), I marriage a lesbian American women in order to obtained green card to be with my American bf. It didnt work. I live in constant fear that immgration department will find out. My wife mentally and financially abuse me and finally leave me to start a new life somewhere else. Even fellow co-worker / manager suspected I have something to hide and keep asking me how do I get my green card.

    I keep making more and more lie just to cover my crime.

    You could spent 2 years in jail, and get deported from the US.
    Life only get better after I return home and started to build a new life for myself.

    It not worth it. Trust me
  • janu88

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    Jan 23, 2013 4:02 PM GMT
    I know a guy from UK whos been together with his boyfriend for 7 years. He lives in Canada.aicon_rolleyes.gif
    No idea how they do that, since they see eachother 3 months a year!!