Anyone have a FWB realtionship? How is it working out?

  • bijockmuscle

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    Sep 05, 2008 1:39 PM GMT
    Are either one of you becoming too attached? Anyone want to be mine?
  • EricLA

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    Sep 05, 2008 5:21 PM GMT
    Uhhhh, FWB? F*cking Without Bustingaload? What's FWB?
  • bijockmuscle

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    Sep 05, 2008 5:22 PM GMT
    EricLA saidUhhhh, FWB? F*cking Without Bustingaload? What's FWB?


    Friends with Benefits
  • fitdude62

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    Sep 05, 2008 5:35 PM GMT
    I have a great relationship. He is the best.

    But I guess you could say we both have FWB's. It's nice to be able to share the physical communication and the mental.

    My partner and I are both emotionally tied together but we also recognize the desire to be connected to others. Communication is the key to our relationship.

    As far as wanting to be yours........lol.....I think you live too far away. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 05, 2008 5:36 PM GMT
    A fuck buddy. Yes, in the past. And in my opinion you shouldn't try turning it into a relationship cos it just doesn't work. There is usually a good reason why you or the other guy doesn't want a relationship - has a bf, commitment issues, is a slut.

    Why don't you try sorting things out with your wife first?
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Sep 05, 2008 5:57 PM GMT
    I have many FWB's --- ummmmm, doesn't everybody icon_rolleyes.gif
  • bijockmuscle

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    Sep 05, 2008 6:02 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidI have many FWB's --- ummmmm, doesn't everybody icon_rolleyes.gif


    not me obviously
  • Aquanerd

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    Sep 05, 2008 8:52 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidA fuck buddy. Yes, in the past. And in my opinion you shouldn't try turning it into a relationship cos it just doesn't work. There is usually a good reason why you or the other guy doesn't want a relationship - has a bf, commitment issues, is a slut.

    Why don't you try sorting things out with your wife first?



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    Sep 05, 2008 9:26 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidI have many FWB's --- ummmmm, doesn't everybody icon_rolleyes.gif


    sure, but I now use only one icon_smile.gif
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Sep 05, 2008 9:32 PM GMT
    I've had an FWB for like 3 months now......I can say I been getting kinda attatched. Hes a cute 23yo. Who wouldnt??......LOL
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  • DanBasil

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    Sep 05, 2008 9:43 PM GMT
    I had several, but of course with one I got too close dated for 2 years while still having other FWB and things got way complicated. But if you can keep the emotional ties from growing too strong they're great fun.
  • Nautical

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    Sep 06, 2008 12:47 PM GMT
    its the devils candy boys, trust me
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    Sep 06, 2008 1:03 PM GMT
    ya, I have one. he's great...22 and a super hot lay. he's just the right combo of kinky and shy that makes my flag rise.

    but school is moving him like 100 miles away so I'm thinking that's pretty much over. I guess I'm pretty attached, but I'll get over it...it was fun as hell while it lasted!!!!!!!! (plus he keeps my underwear in his backpack and takes it into the restroom at school on breaks and jacks off with it...I'm kind of in love, lol).
  • MisterT

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    Sep 06, 2008 1:06 PM GMT
    Have one, were friends first, then after a year the benefits started. Dating wouldn't work, no spark in that way, but there is a lot of trust, affection, and we're sexually compatible, so it's fun, though we don't go all the way.

    This is the only time I've had a friend with benefits though, and the benefits stop when either of us starts dating someone, which is good.
  • gsh1964

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    Sep 06, 2008 1:10 PM GMT
    I have one, it's kinda strange because we have stopped having sex and have become best buds.
    I guess you could say that the friendship ruined the sex. I would get naked again him again, but we just have transitioned away from it.
    We are just a couple of easy going guys and don't expect things out of each other. I think that's where FWB mess up, one of them start expecting more than the other one is willing to give.
    You have to go into it with the feelings of, this will never become a LTR, then if it does, SWEET, added bonus.
  • Koaa2

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    Sep 06, 2008 1:10 PM GMT
    I had one who was married with 5 kids, was fun, until he moved away.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 06, 2008 1:27 PM GMT
    I've been encouraged to do that several times and one "friend" (really more of an acquaintance) pointed out the benefits if I would "just consider it".

    I don't think a FWB when your in a relationship with someone else you are supposed to care for really makes much sense. My problem has been more with friends that get too attached to me emotionally with nothing physical.
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    Sep 06, 2008 1:43 PM GMT
    I started something with someone I work with, which now I can see was a horrible idea. I hate to admit it but I think I'm a little overly attached and I see him way too often. I think he's more attached than he'd like to admit but I can never tell for sure...
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    Sep 06, 2008 2:05 PM GMT
    *sigh*
    if only
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    Sep 06, 2008 2:40 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidI have many FWB's --- ummmmm, doesn't everybody icon_rolleyes.gif


    No...I've never had one.

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    Sep 06, 2008 3:00 PM GMT
    I've had FWBs, and everything goes great for awhile - but some of them eventually fall - and drop the "L" word on me - then it has to end.
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    Sep 08, 2008 4:22 AM GMT
    I prefer to have sex with those I am attached to. FWB only ends in tears,
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    Sep 08, 2008 4:32 AM GMT
    I gotta say that I'm slightly jealous of you guys with FWB's.

    I'd love to have one but I have only one condition which seems to be freakishly difficult among alot of people who have casual. I just want someone who won't lie to me when I ask a question.

    Other then that I'd love to have a FWB. All the fun and none of the responsibility and commitment. Having a friend who likes to have his "moments" sounds awesome.
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    Sep 08, 2008 6:44 AM GMT
    I think there is a pretty big difference between a friend-with-benefits and a fuckbud. Anybody agree with that?
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    Sep 08, 2008 6:49 AM GMT
    With fb the chit-chat is kept to a minimum and it's just sex, nothing more. I used to have a lunch time fb and we could be done and finished in half an hour and I could cycle back to work and be at my desk within the hour. It was fun for a while but became a little mechanical.