How can you find a gym partner?

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    Nov 07, 2012 10:00 PM GMT
    I have been looking since I moved to Ottawa Ontario Canada for a reliable gym partner but with little success
    I find on my own I get nothing done
    the gym partner I have found has gone once in the past two months with me and flaked every other time
    Ive posted on Kijiji, Craigslist, my profile on here, on my grindr several times on my facebook
    little luck so far
    if I have someone to go with and they know enough that we both get a good workout I could easily go every day but on my own I just dont feel motivated enough to get anything really done and so I just feel like Im wasting my time and usually just dont bother going to work on something else

    does anyone know anything that I havent tried to get a gym partner?

    for the record Im only a student so a trainer is sadly out of the question or Id have just done that.

  • MikemikeMike

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    Nov 07, 2012 10:03 PM GMT
    Go to the actual gym and find someone who is about your size strength and fitness level and have the balls to ask them in person.icon_idea.gif
    If you can't do that at least post your request in a gym.
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    Nov 07, 2012 10:09 PM GMT
    I hae and they are the one that keeps flaking out ... yea Ive even tried creepily going up to a stranger

    as for posting the request I have asked at the front counter and basically got the referal to the trainer program goodlife has... so also not happening

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    Nov 07, 2012 10:13 PM GMT
    MatthewHoffman said How can you find a gym partner?
    By going to a gym and meeting other members.
  • GAYROMANIA

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    Nov 07, 2012 10:14 PM GMT
    I've recently joined my local gym and looking for gym buddy but don't know any gay men. So should I go to reception and ask thanks alin x
  • Medjai

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    Nov 07, 2012 10:16 PM GMT
    I'm in the same boat. It's a student gym though, so it's pretty transient. I'm okay going solo though if needed.
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    Nov 07, 2012 10:20 PM GMT
    I guess in a nut shell I didnt post this so much for advice because (the two posts Ive gotten that Ive tried unsucessfully thankyou) but more so if someone in Ottawa looking finds this will let me know.....
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    Nov 07, 2012 10:38 PM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidGo to the actual gym and find someone who is about your size strength and fitness level and have the balls to ask them in person.icon_idea.gif
    If you can't do that at least post your request in a gym.



    That's a bit harsh....

    However, worth mentioning to the staff at your gym to see if they know of someone. I don't agree that they necessarily need to be your size. I'm a PT and I train with a guy 16 years my younger who is far more muscular than me and can lift far more. That motivates me to train harder. Likewise, CV wise I am far fitter than him so I've helped him to work on that.

    Also worth asking guys from your town on here... it might take some time but could be very fruitful.

    It's more about agreeing aims, atttiude and motivating each other than anything else in my view.

    Good luck!
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    Nov 07, 2012 11:47 PM GMT
    MatthewHoffman saidI have been looking since I moved to Ottawa Ontario Canada for a reliable gym partner but with little success
    I find on my own I get nothing done
    the gym partner I have found has gone once in the past two months with me and flaked every other time
    Ive posted on Kijiji, Craigslist, my profile on here, on my grindr several times on my facebook
    little luck so far
    if I have someone to go with and they know enough that we both get a good workout I could easily go every day but on my own I just dont feel motivated enough to get anything really done and so I just feel like Im wasting my time and usually just dont bother going to work on something else

    does anyone know anything that I havent tried to get a gym partner?

    for the record Im only a student so a trainer is sadly out of the question or Id have just done that.



    Why do you need a gym partner? I've managed to do it all by myself for 38 years.

    This is something you can actually do better on your own.
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    Nov 07, 2012 11:53 PM GMT
    everybody works differently
    and I find that if I go on my own I dont manage to get anything done and I leave feeling like I didn't even workout or overdoing the cardio

    that being said Im not a kinetic learner or person who takes to this quickly, so I need a second person with me for this sort of thing to be effective.

    in exchange Im energetic and competitive so I can create an equally beneficial environment for people with the same goals... just finding someone.

    fyi creeping your pictures somehow I can imagine as an endomorph you'd probably be okay regardless icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 08, 2012 12:17 AM GMT
    chuckystud said
    MatthewHoffman saidI have been looking since I moved to Ottawa Ontario Canada for a reliable gym partner but with little success
    I find on my own I get nothing done
    the gym partner I have found has gone once in the past two months with me and flaked every other time
    Ive posted on Kijiji, Craigslist, my profile on here, on my grindr several times on my facebook
    little luck so far
    if I have someone to go with and they know enough that we both get a good workout I could easily go every day but on my own I just dont feel motivated enough to get anything really done and so I just feel like Im wasting my time and usually just dont bother going to work on something else

    does anyone know anything that I havent tried to get a gym partner?

    for the record Im only a student so a trainer is sadly out of the question or Id have just done that.



    Why do you need a gym partner? I've managed to do it all by myself for 38 years.

    This is something you can actually do better on your own.


    I concur. Really, all you need is an occasional spotter on the bench. Anyone can fill that role for a couple of minutes.
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    Nov 08, 2012 1:25 AM GMT
    again Im not honestly posting this for advice... more so hoping someone else in my area will see the thread and reply...

    Im glad you've been fine on your own, congrats!
    I haven't had much success on my own, however in past with a gym partner I get more done
    again people work differently
    different personalities, mind sets and body types etc..

    now if y'all would get off my ass (thank you)

    even if I honestly did want advice it was how to get a gym buddy not should I get one...

    so unless its something constructive on the how and not the opinionated "should" save all our time and skip over the thread

    and Im sure Im not the only person out there looking for a gym buddy

    I have met many others (but they are usually live somewhere else) so this isnt an isolated case believe it or not, a desire for a gym partner is actually wide spread and when I lived in Toronto I could pick up a partner in a day easy.

    sorry if that seems offensive but I don't want to get in grey area on an otherwise simple topic

  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Nov 08, 2012 1:46 AM GMT
    I'd love a gym partner. But I'm a student so I'm sure it would be easy to find one at the colleges gym.
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    Nov 08, 2012 1:51 AM GMT
    Craigslist

    Platonic Section.
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    Nov 08, 2012 1:53 AM GMT
    Ive actually tried craigslist, posted about two ads in the past month no replies
    got a few with kijiji but the guys never followed up that did with an exact time for us to go just a reply of general intrest
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    Nov 08, 2012 2:01 AM GMT
    MatthewHoffman saideverybody works differently
    and I find that if I go on my own I dont manage to get anything done and I leave feeling like I didn't even workout or overdoing the cardio

    that being said Im not a kinetic learner or person who takes to this quickly, so I need a second person with me for this sort of thing to be effective.

    in exchange Im energetic and competitive so I can create an equally beneficial environment for people with the same goals... just finding someone.

    fyi creeping your pictures somehow I can imagine as an endomorph you'd probably be okay regardless icon_smile.gif


    I'm actually almost super-meso, if you wanta' talk somatypes. Doh.
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    Nov 08, 2012 2:06 AM GMT
    Im sorry my mistake
    you're super-meso
    Ill put that under my hat for next time icon_wink.gif


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    Nov 08, 2012 2:10 AM GMT
    I can't find a date much less a workout partner. Having said that, start talking to guys at the gym and get to know them and if you're strenth and siz are compatible than ask them if they'd be interested in working out together. Don't pick somebody just because you are attracted to them because it will never work out if you're doing it for relationship/sex purposes.
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    Nov 08, 2012 2:14 AM GMT
    yea, no I have been full platonic with anyone I have worked out with and will workout with, every add Ive posted Ive mentioned it is platonic and I actually think I have the word platonic in my profile
    and again I have approached people at my gym and I have a unified theme of when I do find someone they flake out on me
    maybe I just have a a second head no one told me about or the fact that I just something non sexual is the very thing scaring them away

    and yea I have issues in relationship department also... I gave up on that about three years ago
    but if I could find a gym buddy that was platonic or a sexual partner Id rather the Gym partner
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    Nov 08, 2012 4:16 AM GMT
    I personally don't want to hinder back any of my friends who are much more advanced than I am gym wise, so I don't ask them to be my gym buddies. Ask you gym-goers friends or try to talk to people with your same level of fitness at the gym, you never know how things develop!
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    Nov 08, 2012 5:37 AM GMT
    The best I've found is to go to your gym, regularly-and-consistently, and make friends w/ the other regulars.

    You will find that your 'gym-buddy' and you will be unable to workout, together, on a completely consistent basis. For example, you want to work legs today, but your partner missed yesterday; therefore, he wants to work back & biceps, today . . . and it throws the schedule off. Under such circumstances, you will be glad you know other guys @ your gym; so that, you can find another who is on your same schedule, until you & your partner are synchronized again.
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    Nov 08, 2012 6:59 AM GMT
    Motivation needs to come from within. Expecting motivation from a gym partner it's like asking your neighbour to go do your job for you, or write your exams.

    Another reasons it's to make you "feel" less intimidated in the gym. This works for a while.

    Third one would be to watch your form and such. This one doesn't work, as the people that really know the right form are most likely advanced and while in the gym they are totally focused on their own workout. They don't want to act as personal trainers.

    Best way would be to have a real life friend that needs some push to go to gym.

    All this is based on the fact that there is no need for a gym partner.


    If you need a constant spotter you are doing it all wrong and dangerous.


    If you find yourself in a situation as you say, where you cant get done much; I'd suggest make a very basic and simple program to follow for a while.

    Such as legs on Monday , chest on Wednesday, and back on Friday or something similar. Stick with it until it becomes routine.
    For people that have been doing it for years it's not a motivation matter anymore; it's a conditional reflex, like tooth brushing.

    I hope that helps, good luck.


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    Nov 08, 2012 12:30 PM GMT
    borgiaczar saidMotivation needs to come from within. Expecting motivation from a gym partner it's like asking your neighbour to go do your job for you, or write your exams.

    Another reasons it's to make you "feel" less intimidated in the gym. This works for a while.

    Third one would be to watch your form and such. This one doesn't work, as the people that really know the right form are most likely advanced and while in the gym they are totally focused on their own workout. They don't want to act as personal trainers.

    Best way would be to have a real life friend that needs some push to go to gym.

    All this is based on the fact that there is no need for a gym partner.


    If you need a constant spotter you are doing it all wrong and dangerous.


    If you find yourself in a situation as you say, where you cant get done much; I'd suggest make a very basic and simple program to follow for a while.

    Such as legs on Monday , chest on Wednesday, and back on Friday or something similar. Stick with it until it becomes routine.
    For people that have been doing it for years it's not a motivation matter anymore; it's a conditional reflex, like tooth brushing.

    I hope that helps, good luck.




    Agreed!
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    Nov 08, 2012 1:37 PM GMT
    if you go often enough, you'll see who the regulars are. there are always regulars - guys there every day, around the same time. they gym seriously. they also will spot each other and talk with other regulars. everyone else appears transient to them. i know this because i am a regular at my gym, and i know who the other regulars are. i don't know the regulars who go in the mornings, mid-day or late-night, cuz thats not when i go.

    when i workout, i don't want people to slow me down. sometimes friends (e.g. from work, or outside the gym) will want to work out with me, and of course i'll let them join me, but it usually takes me twice the time when they're around. i'd rather workout by myself or with the other regulars who lift similar weights. you motivate each other, you "get" each other's gym routines/goals, and you're working out at similar paces.

    i don't think you'll have any luck placing an ad, asking random guys to be your friend, or using your Grindr profile to look for gym buddies. i suggest that you go for a few weeks on your own, at a predictable schedule, and establish yourself as a regular. talk to the staff. be courteous (e.g. don't leave a puddle of sweat on benches, put weights back, defer to the regulars, be friendly but not creepy). if you're serious about what you're doing, soon enough you'll meet others who are into similar things, who come at similar times, and you'll develop a "see you tomorrow" kind of friendship, which could evolve into a gym partner thing.

    keep in mind, schedules change. for example, when school starts in september, my summer gym partner's schedule changed from being a late afternoon guy, to a late night guy and we stopped working out together. of course we're still friends, but our schedules don't match. similarly, if i go away on a business trip, the schedule gets knocked sideways.

    good luck!

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    Nov 08, 2012 1:52 PM GMT
    I admit i didnt read the whole thread, so maybe someone already suggested this...

    But to me, my best training buddy is to have a clear plan of what i am supposed to do at a particular gym day. In other words, get yourself a good program! I found/made one that just have three different setups for the first, second and third day of gym that week. The order doesnt matter that much, which keeps it less strict. If you feel like doing more than three days one week, you just do one of those sessions again, or you split up your sessions even more for specific muscle groups.

    I now do "push" on one day (like triceps and chest), "pull" on the next day (biceps and back) and shoulders/legs the last day. Abs every (gym)day. As long as you find a program that you feel comfortable with, you will feel less need for a gym partner i think. Why not try some of the workout plans here on RJ?

    Another imortant thing for me personally is to track my progress!
    Before, i used to just go in a gym and do some random excersise here and there and quickly lose interest. I found that if i track my progress all the time (easily done with some app or at bodybuilding.com for instance), I keep my motivation up and push myself harder than the last time in almost every gym session.

    This has worked well for me, hope it can be of any help.