Looking for something more...

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    Nov 10, 2012 3:24 AM GMT
    I feel like I'm really stupid to try so hard to find someone to be in a relationship with. I sometimes think it will just happen sooner or later but other times it just feels like it won't ever happen.

    I think a big problem is being in an area that doesn't seem to think being gay is socially acceptable and it's hard to find someone.

    Am I just being dumb or does it just happen?
  • calibro

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    Nov 10, 2012 3:50 PM GMT
    you're 20. relax/get high
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 10, 2012 3:55 PM GMT
    Well it isn't magic.. take the initiative to be out there and get to know some new guys, do some social things, take some steps you might not otherwise, but don't "look" for a relationship, enjoy life and let it happen.
    Above all... be positve.
  • TennisJock10

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    Nov 10, 2012 3:59 PM GMT
    Why are young people (myself included) in such a rush to be in a serious, committed relationship? Sure, it would be nice to have that one person that you care for and do all the romantic stuff with, but I feel like our twenties should be for having fun and figuring out who we are individually before we can be commit to another person.

    Sure it would be nice to wake up with someone every morning, but I personally value my independence and look at this point in my life as a time for me to grow into a person who can be in a serious relationship. I just don't think that at twenty years old we can truly grasp the seriousness of an actual relationship.

    Long post short: give it time and don't stress. Go sneak into a bar somewhere and have a couple of shots. That's what I do! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 10, 2012 4:31 PM GMT

    Don't worry, you're not the only one that's been looking for something more even at a young age or older. However, the harder you look, the more you think about it, the more likely you will put yourself further and further into a state of negativity about finding someone...

    The best part of looking for a relationship, is not looking for one. Because in truth, it just kind of happens.

    Look at it this way, you're only 20!!! you got a looot of years ahead of you for that someone to find you icon_wink.gif

    Believe me, It took me a long time after I broke up with my ex before I started dating again icon_razz.gif

    Just be confidant, talk to guys, message back and forth until you guys click... Relationships are hard to come by, but the right quality person is just around the corner.. Don' try so hard. Just put yourself out there and half fun. icon_smile.gif
  • alphatop

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    Nov 10, 2012 4:33 PM GMT
    One word for you - spliff.icon_lol.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 14, 2012 4:15 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidWell it isn't magic.. take the initiative to be out there and get to know some new guys, do some social things, take some steps you might not otherwise, but don't "look" for a relationship, enjoy life and let it happen.
    Above all... be positve.



    This is great advice. love will come when you least expect it ! plus if you stay positive then positive things will happen to you! I think that everyone gos through this at some point or another .. just keep your head up ! icon_smile.gif