Sorry to hear that these events have happened to you guys...it's always heartbreaking to hear when young men, or worse boys, get taken advantage of by people that hold authoritative positions [like Doctors; Teachers; etc.].
Trust is a fundamental element of all relationships [family, friendship, workplace, etc.]; so, when that trust is betrayed it can take quite a long time to repair and heal.
I remember watching an episode on Oprah
discussing male survivors that didn't want to tell anyone; and how they kept those memories to themselves for decades. I didn't realize how rampant it was. Supposedly 1 in 6 males deal with this - which goes into millions of men that have no where to share what is on their mind.
Well, I remember that the show had links for guys to check out to discuss with other kindred spirit. A place where they can share their thoughts privately, and in confidence. I googled and found the page Resources for Male Survivors
There are 3 links on that page: 1in6
For what it's worth, I've not visisted those links; so, I can't speak from a firsthand about what it's like there. But I figure it's something to consider, if your questions are not answered here.