Boyfriend cant perform. Help?

  • aquariumkid

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    Nov 11, 2012 3:12 AM GMT
    Okay so I have been dating this amazing guy for four months. Almost everything is perfect. The only down side is that he cant quite perform after round one. I have to finish my self off six or seven times after we have sex. icon_confused.gif

    Its not that he doesnt want to... He just physically cant get it up twice. Then he gets all self hating cause he doesnt feel like a man and I feel bad for making him feel that way. It ends up making both of us miserable

    Ive thought of a few solutions like bringing in a third. But i know it hurts his pride too much, and I understand why that is. I am tired of repressing my horomones though!

    Any suggestions that can satisfy my needs yet keep his pride would be appreciated. Thankyou! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 11, 2012 3:32 AM GMT
    aquariumkid said Boyfriend cant perform. Help?
    Sounds like you need more hookups per night.
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    Nov 11, 2012 4:11 AM GMT
    aquariumkid said I have to finish my self off six or seven times after we have sex.


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    Nov 11, 2012 4:21 AM GMT
    Rita said
    aquariumkid said I have to finish my self off six or seven times after we have sex.


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    He forgot to mention they only have sex once a month. So he only gets off less than twice a week.
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    Nov 11, 2012 4:37 AM GMT
    OP, if you are going to be talking about your sexual acts to us, you might as well give us ALL the details - there is just a bit of ambiguity in your description.

    Thus, having made assumptions, two suggestions:

    1. You cum first.
    2. He could take cialis/viagra/levitra

    Why do you assume everyone can have multiple orgasms question work some guys can have multiple orgasms in a short period of time; most guys can't . And if you insist on who is coming first, why can't he finish you off with a blowjob or his hand?
  • aquariumkid

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    Nov 11, 2012 4:53 AM GMT
    HikeSwimSkiSF saidOP, if you are going to be talking about your sexual acts to us, you might as well give us ALL the details - there is just a bit of ambiguity in your description.

    Thus, having made assumptions, two suggestions:

    1. You cum first.
    2. He could take cialis/viagra/levitra

    Why do you assume everyone can have multiple orgasms question work some guys can have multiple orgasms in a short period of time; most guys can't . And if you insist on who is coming first, why can't he finish you off with a blowjob or his hand?


    The doctor wont perscribe drugs, we have tried.

    Once he cums he just doesnt seem as into it. I can understand why as well.

    And yes i usually do come first.
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    Nov 11, 2012 2:56 PM GMT
    Don't let him cum the first five times you do. Since his "problem" is with sexual appetite after the first orgasm, he should be fine if you cum and he doesn't.

    That said, it is perfectly normal for a male to be done with sex after an orgasm. Really: we are built that way, and it's a constant tension in straight couples, where he falls asleep when she wants round two.
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    Nov 11, 2012 3:25 PM GMT
    aquariumkid said


    The doctor wont perscribe drugs, we have tried.



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  • rnch

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    Nov 11, 2012 3:30 PM GMT
    aquariumkid saidOkay so I have been dating this amazing guy for four months. Almost everything is perfect. The only down side is that he cant quite perform after round one. I have to finish my self off six or seven times after we have sex. icon_confused.gif

    Its not that he doesnt want to... He just physically cant get it up twice. Then he gets all self hating cause he doesnt feel like a man and I feel bad for making him feel that way. It ends up making both of us miserable

    Ive thought of a few solutions like bringing in a third. But i know it hurts his pride too much, and I understand why that is. I am tired of repressing my horomones though!

    Any suggestions that can satisfy my needs yet keep his pride would be appreciated. Thankyou! icon_biggrin.gif





    Contrary to what porno movies show us; most of us do NOT stay hard and jizz 3 or 4 times during one sex session.




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    Nov 11, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
    6 or 7 times in one session? That borders obsessive.
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    Nov 11, 2012 3:46 PM GMT
    trollololol. if not, then lol, you're like 12. calm your shit.
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    Nov 11, 2012 3:48 PM GMT
    Oh, Jesus Christ.........give me a fucking break.
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    Nov 11, 2012 3:49 PM GMT
    Creative writing RJ style. Oy.
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    Nov 11, 2012 3:50 PM GMT
    aquariumkid saidOkay so I have been dating this amazing guy for four months. Almost everything is perfect. The only down side is that he cant quite perform after round one. I have to finish my self off six or seven times after we have sex. icon_confused.gif

    Its not that he doesnt want to... He just physically cant get it up twice. Then he gets all self hating cause he doesnt feel like a man and I feel bad for making him feel that way. It ends up making both of us miserable

    Ive thought of a few solutions like bringing in a third. But i know it hurts his pride too much, and I understand why that is. I am tired of repressing my horomones though!

    Any suggestions that can satisfy my needs yet keep his pride would be appreciated. Thankyou! icon_biggrin.gif


    umm....you set the bar too high icon_smile.gif . six or seven times? wow....two max for me and that's if I'm really horny. he's fine.

    and like someone else suggested. don't let him cum until you've emptied out.
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    Nov 11, 2012 3:51 PM GMT
    you need to describe him more. like: is he older? did he ever have issues with his thyroid? testosterone issues? what is his "recharge rate"? after cumming, how long do you have to wait until he is hard again? 1 hour? 3 hours? 24 hours?

    also remember... you are 19. 19!!!! you are going to be hormonal and with a high sex drive. be more compassionate. as you age, you will find that your sex drive will slow down as well.

    also, we have a saying in Alaska. "your team is only as fast as your slowest dog."
    meaning, maybe you should take care of yourself through out the day so that when you do have sex with your man, you can finish when he finishes. go at HIS rate. it sounds like you are causing him to be down on himself and making him feel bad.
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    Nov 11, 2012 3:56 PM GMT
    Use toys or bring in a third. If bringing in a third is not an option, the two of you must decide whether you can sustain your relationship when one of you is not completely sexually fulfilled. By the way, it appears that your boyfriend can peform, he just can't perform multiple times.
  • rnch

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    Nov 11, 2012 3:59 PM GMT
    snowman3 saidOh, Jesus Christ.........give me a fucking break.






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  • onefortified

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    Nov 11, 2012 4:10 PM GMT
    This isn't your boyfriends "problem". Most people can't keep going after the first round. You should cum several times before his first or find a bf that can have multiple orgasms.
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    Nov 11, 2012 4:12 PM GMT
    Bringing in a third party does not sound like it will improve the situation. Patience and understanding will.
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    Nov 11, 2012 4:21 PM GMT
    n8698u saidCreative writing RJ style. Oy.

    Don't encourage the trolls... these Psychology Students control tests on us. More results for their theories and hypotheses.
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    Nov 11, 2012 4:30 PM GMT
    I feel your pain, I have to jack of 58 times each night just to keep sane....................... seriously? 6-7 times?
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    Nov 11, 2012 4:34 PM GMT
    aquariumkid saidI have to finish my self off six or seven times after we have sex.


    You're talking over the course of a week, right? icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 11, 2012 4:42 PM GMT
    aimveryhigh saidI feel your pain, I have to jack of 58 times each night just to keep sane....................... seriously? 12 times?

    I remember back in college, I jacked like 6 times a day. It really got in the way of studying.

    Now, once or twice a day. Hey, I'm old. I admit it.
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    Nov 11, 2012 4:43 PM GMT
    JR_RJ said
    n8698u saidCreative writing RJ style. Oy.

    Don't encourage the trolls... these Psychology Students control tests on us. More results for their theories and hypotheses.


    Hey now, I haven't performed any psychological tests on anyone...YET icon_wink.gif!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 11, 2012 4:47 PM GMT
    Perhaps you could have a party and have a line at your bedroom door....

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    Well ... with the holidays and holiday parties! LOL


    just kiddin..icon_smile.gif