One Sided Friendship....

  • comical44

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    Nov 11, 2012 4:21 AM GMT
    Whats your definition?...
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    Nov 11, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    Only one friend makes an effort in the friendship.

    I have a one-sided friendship. We have been friends for a long time, and any time we get together we have a blast, but when we are apart, we never talk. I tried texting and calling, but that died quickly. I tried online games, and a weekly online get together, but they all failed.
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    Nov 11, 2012 4:31 AM GMT
    A one-sided friendship is when you tell someone to go fuck himself.
  • starboard5

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    Nov 11, 2012 3:41 PM GMT
    Seemed like I was experiencing a lot of this. And then it occurred to me..."Maybe I'm just boring."
  • rnch

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    Nov 11, 2012 3:50 PM GMT
    It has been my experiences that seldom is the level of affection equal between 2 peeps.




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  • calibro

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    Nov 11, 2012 4:16 PM GMT
    making other people do the work of your thread topic
  • ryno

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    Nov 11, 2012 4:17 PM GMT
    A person who contacts you once in awhile only when they are bored and literally ignores your calls, texts, and emails any other time. If you treat people like they're just a rainy day project, and in agreement with a previous post, don't be suprised if you're told to go f#@k yourself.
  • ryno

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    Nov 11, 2012 4:18 PM GMT
    calibro saidmaking other people do the work of your thread topic


    Assuming they're your friend.
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    Nov 11, 2012 4:23 PM GMT
    All relationships tip to one end or the other. Even the most perfect relationships whether they are best friends, lovers, whatever - one partner always cares about the relationship and puts more effort then the other. In turn, the other has control on the relationship and where it goes.

    But in most instances, the difference is negligible. Meaning it isn't an extreme of one person putting more effort then the other. Just a tiny bit here and there. Tiny things. Like maybe one will be more keen on sending the other funny pics and the other just doesn't. Or one is constantly sharing funny YouTube videos for them to both enjoy.

    But a one sided friendship is a typical constant and clear cut disregard for the other person. Like they act great together they get along in person and even in texting and calls. But it's the actions that define it. For instance, hospital visits.Two friends are in hospitals for different things at different times. One visits and the other can't find the time or the energy to even bother to call. Basically, a friendship of convenience. When THEY want something they'll call.

    I had a friend like that until almost exactly a month ago and then I railed on her for three hours about what a terrible friend she is. Told her that until she's ready to put effort into her friendships as she does her ego, not to bother me. icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 11, 2012 5:02 PM GMT
    One side friendship does not make any sense to me. A friendship should be built in mutual bases for two or more people. I just don’t see the point for anybody to be a friend of another person that will not correspond to my feelings and or standards. Just my opinion.
  • drypin

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    Nov 11, 2012 5:25 PM GMT
    Wikipedia says, "It ... often involves placing a lower priority on one's own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others."

    Oh, wait! That's 'codependency'. I failed to see the difference.
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    Nov 11, 2012 6:55 PM GMT
    It's when only one person puts the effort to want to be a friend. The other doesn't really care and doesn't seem to want to be a friend.

    Basically, they're NOT your friend.