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  • bvb101

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    Nov 12, 2012 5:26 AM GMT
    Any advice? First timer here
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    Nov 12, 2012 7:11 AM GMT
    I can see it going either two ways, in which I would advise to mention my personal preference at the end of this post:

    1. He is a very busy guy, he sounds a lot like me. And one thing that does bother me is when people want to hang out when I have tasks to complete on time restraint. But if he has the same feelings as you do, I would in his position at least, I would call you and want to hang out. Men seek out things that they want and will go through many loops to get there. So sit back and relax cause if you want to end up with him and stay on the safe side, do this and all will be come to the way it should.

    2. Not every guy out there is bold enough to drop his tasks for just anyone. Route two will require a lot of guts and in essence, have it's drawbacks. You can go all out and directly ask him out. He may just not have a clue on your true intentions. When I am at my most busy times, stress adds up and makes life so clouded. However if a guy I've been crushing on comes up to me and tells me how he feels, I would arrange my schedule so that they is time to hang out and get to know each other better. This option obviously has some cons in a way that you will find out how he feels very fast and sometimes we hear they answer we don't want to hear.

    Now that I expressed my best two options, I'd like to add that any variation of the two can be blended together and that they are two different extremes of the spectra. If I were this guy you have been crushing on, I would prefer option two over option one only because the things on my schedule will always come first and it is pointless to pursue a guy who might not want me. On the other hand if you came out to him and talked to him instead I could see some greater results to happen because I can always arrange my time with a sure thing.

    Best of Luck bvb101.

    ~hopeful in honolulu


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    Nov 12, 2012 4:18 PM GMT
    i would straight out ask him what is his thoughts on dating.
  • great_scott

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    Nov 12, 2012 4:41 PM GMT
    Maybe you could try letting him initiate the conversations for awhile. If he doesn't, he doesn't. Move on to your "standby guy". You don't want to set up a relationship where you'll be doing all the work.
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    Nov 12, 2012 8:51 PM GMT
    bvb101 saidSo I've been seeing this really cute guy before starting school. He is so sweet and even went out of his way to get me a cupcake from sprinkles after we talked about how i'm lactose intolerant and can only get the vegan cupcake from there. He really is amazing, but really busy, he works, volunteers and is a full time student that is constantly studying, but doesn't have time to ever hang out since school and everything started. I really really like him, but I feel like i'm constantly bugging him to hang out and he never can. I've never been so antsy about a guy, its weird how much I actually like him, he replies to my texts here and there but I feel like he's not interested anymore. He never initially texts me, i'm always the one starting the conversations. Any advise on what to do? Should I just stop texting him all together, or keep trying?


    He's not that into you.
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    Nov 12, 2012 9:36 PM GMT
    I agree, "he is just not that into you". BTW has he seen you shirtless? for your really ripped body he should have some interest in you.
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    Nov 12, 2012 11:49 PM GMT
    Well if you like him so much and want to stay friends, just be caution not to fall in love with the guy. That'll just get things worse. But even as a friend, what kind of friendship is it if he can't even hang out or text you...
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    Nov 14, 2012 8:37 AM GMT
    bvb101Steduo said
    Well if you like him so much and want to stay friends, just be caution not to fall in love with the guy. That'll just get things worse. But even as a friend, what kind of friendship is it if he can't even hang out or text you...


    Haha I ran into him today with some other girl that we both know. I started talking to her and completely ignored him... I guess I feel some resentment because he won't acknowledge me? lol


    I have to agree with Steduo, and to proceed with caution. Many problems can arise if the situation becomes more awkward. From experience I would say to give him some space because he does seem busy.

    Perhaps you can let that text you sent to him stew in his head for a while and let him complete all of his jobs and revisit this idea.
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    Nov 14, 2012 8:45 AM GMT
    my advice: give him some space. Patience is the only thing that will help you with this guy by the sounds of it. After some time you'll be able to see the situation clearly.
    Also, if you really do like him, do you even want to be in his friend zone? Just because you two may not be together now doesn't mean you couldn't be down the road. If you put yourself in the friend zone then it's almost impossible to get out of it... really think about what you want from him.

  • Nov 14, 2012 9:29 AM GMT
    k3l3k0 saidmy advice: give him some space. Patience is the only thing that will help you with this guy by the sounds of it. After some time you'll be able to see the situation clearly.
    Also, if you really do like him, do you even want to be in his friend zone? Just because you two may not be together now doesn't mean you couldn't be down the road. If you put yourself in the friend zone then it's almost impossible to get out of it... really think about what you want from him.


    ^ +1

    You obviously care enough about him for you to make this post. Don't have hard feelings just because he can't reciprocate the attention you give him. That's very petty...

    If you really like him, easier said than done, but just give it time. You've done your part already. Let him do his.
  • bvb101

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    Dec 09, 2012 8:53 AM GMT
    i hate waiting. but i guess thats what must be done :
  • RaggedyMan

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    Dec 09, 2012 8:58 AM GMT
    I think hes not into you that way. Give him space and see what happens. Its been about a month since you posted. has anything changed?