Is having a GRINDR account setting yourself up for rejection?

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    Nov 12, 2012 1:05 PM GMT
    I have a grindr account and I don't think I've actually ever had a full out normal conversation with a guy. "Sup" or "send pic" is about the extent of it.

    All guys seem to like to do on there is ignore, block, or rip you apart for something. I'm not the hottest guy in the world but I mean I'm certainly not ugly. All of these guys on there are like expecting Channing Tatum to crawl out of the wood work and wont accept anything less. icon_rolleyes.gif

  • Nov 12, 2012 3:07 PM GMT
    Yes, if your intent is to just meet people. Grindr is a hookup app. Therefore, most guys are looking for a Chad Tatum-type to hookup with.
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    Nov 12, 2012 3:12 PM GMT
    CollegeDude27 saidI have a grindr account and I don't think I've actually ever had a full out normal conversation with a guy. "Sup" or "send pic" is about the extent of it.

    All guys seem to like to do on there is ignore, block, or rip you apart for something. I'm not the hottest guy in the world but I mean I'm certainly not ugly. All of these guys on there are like expecting Channing Tatum to crawl out of the wood work and wont accept anything less. icon_rolleyes.gif


    Grindr is pathetic. I once had an account for, like, 2 days, and I deleted it. It actually made me wish that I was straight and have bunch of kids.icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 12, 2012 3:15 PM GMT
    Grindr's profile length limit makes any kind of really informative profile difficult (not impossible) to pull off.

    That said, if you're looking just for hot sex with hot guys, it's great...if you're stereotypically hot.
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    Nov 12, 2012 3:16 PM GMT
    Grindr is a bit of a self punishment. Rarely ever hooked up on it and guys like other posters have said. Only want an adonis to fuck around with.
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    Nov 12, 2012 3:19 PM GMT
    I have Grndr on my phone, in my limited profile I clearly say that I am more likely to grab coffee or a drink than hook up. I've met some really nice guys that way... and a few freakshows. You inevitably get what you put out there, you just have to be honest with yourself as to what it is you're on there for.
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    Nov 12, 2012 3:32 PM GMT
    I have friends who try to meet men on Grindr and are always complaining about how none of them want true love....

    They're places to go for conversations and love, Grindr is not one of them.
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    Nov 12, 2012 3:36 PM GMT
    Well actually my best friend met his boyfriend on Grindr. Of course, he most be one the weird cases cos most guys on hook-up sites are shit hehe.
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    Nov 12, 2012 3:38 PM GMT
    I met a pretty terrific guy that I've been seeing off and on from Grindr. However, success like that is few and far between.
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    Nov 12, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
    A_X91 saidWell actually my best friend met his boyfriend on Grindr. Of course, he most be one the weird cases cos most guys on hook-up sites are shit hehe.


    So,your best friend bf is shit?icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 12, 2012 3:45 PM GMT
    Grindr, Scruff, and all those other hookup apps are where productivity goes to die.
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    Nov 12, 2012 3:45 PM GMT
    30_something said
    A_X91 saidWell actually my best friend met his boyfriend on Grindr. Of course, he most be one the weird cases cos most guys on hook-up sites are shit hehe.


    So,your best friend bf is shit?icon_confused.gif


    No, that's why I said there are weird cases and that most guys are shit not all of them.
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    Nov 12, 2012 3:47 PM GMT
    Not_Superman said
    19c79 saidGrindr, Scruff, and all those other hookup apps are where productivity goes to die.

    But not RJ?

    RJ too.
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    Nov 12, 2012 3:47 PM GMT
    A_X91 said
    30_something said
    A_X91 saidWell actually my best friend met his boyfriend on Grindr. Of course, he most be one the weird cases cos most guys on hook-up sites are shit hehe.


    So,your best friend bf is shit?icon_confused.gif


    No, that's why I said there are weird cases and that most guys are shit not all of them.


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  • Medjai

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    Nov 12, 2012 4:07 PM GMT
    I met my boyfriend of over a year on Grindr, and he has met a large number of platonic friends on there in his travels(clinical rotations post med school). Yes, it is rare, but not everyone on that app is out for sex.
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    Nov 12, 2012 4:12 PM GMT
    So where do you suggest meetings guys if not on Grindr and not at the bar?
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    Nov 12, 2012 4:14 PM GMT
    I guess Grindr must be where all the hot guys are. Alas.
  • Medjai

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    Nov 12, 2012 4:14 PM GMT
    princeofnash saidSo where do you suggest meetings guys if not on Grindr and not at the bar?


    ManHunt, A4A, and craigslist.
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    Nov 12, 2012 4:15 PM GMT
    I prefer Scruff!!
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    Nov 12, 2012 4:35 PM GMT
    princeofnash saidSo where do you suggest meetings guys if not on Grindr and not at the bar?

    DC has active, popular gay sports leagues. You can play softball, flag football, row crew, run, kickball, darts...just about anything you can imagine. I think that's a pretty good place to meet new people.

    In my opinion, you have to think about the expectations of the people you're going to meet. On GRINDR, they're more than likely not looking for anything more than something transactional. On a sports team, they're probably more open to meeting friends or getting asked on a date. Bars are probably more in the middle though the alcohol probably drives people more toward the hookup.
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    Nov 12, 2012 4:45 PM GMT
    CollegeDude27 saidI have a grindr account and I don't think I've actually ever had a full out normal conversation with a guy. "Sup" or "send pic" is about the extent of it.

    All guys seem to like to do on there is ignore, block, or rip you apart for something. I'm not the hottest guy in the world but I mean I'm certainly not ugly. All of these guys on there are like expecting Channing Tatum to crawl out of the wood work and wont accept anything less. icon_rolleyes.gif



    Every online site, including RJ, will have the hookup type people. However, on RJ one can kill time on the forums.

    Back to your main question " setting up for rejection".

    I'm assuming by your post content and your RJ profile that you do not have a profile picture on grindr.

    Thus a very simple way to reduce the rejection rate is to have a profile picture.
    You won't have to deal with the guys that say "sup" "send picture" then ignore you.
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    Nov 12, 2012 5:06 PM GMT
    We each had Grindr for a little while when it was a new app. We had some fun meeting some of the guys in our neighborhood - - which was good, since we live in a gayborhood. We've had a few backyard parties at each other's houses - and Grindr was okay for finding out who our neighbors were - - but after that, we dropped it.............too many messages just wanting to hook up.
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    Nov 12, 2012 5:09 PM GMT
    Grindr if for dumb guys with a sexual addiction. "sup"? Really?
  • onefortified

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    Nov 12, 2012 5:12 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidGrindr if for dumb guys with a sexual addiction. "sup"? Really?


    Or "Wassup?" or "Wats up?" or "DAMN YOU SEXII"....

    I have Grindr but I don't respond to people who say the above
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    Nov 12, 2012 5:13 PM GMT
    CollegeDude27 saidI have a grindr account and I don't think I've actually ever had a full out normal conversation with a guy. "Sup" or "send pic" is about the extent of it.

    All guys seem to like to do on there is ignore, block, or rip you apart for something. I'm not the hottest guy in the world but I mean I'm certainly not ugly. All of these guys on there are like expecting Channing Tatum to crawl out of the wood work and wont accept anything less. icon_rolleyes.gif


    If you are a cowardless, pictureless, that sucks at marketing, you're likely to be disappointed with your results across the board. Nothing is huge a turn off as sneaky, dishonest, lack of integrity, lack of confidence, lack of friendliness, and being a "taker." You need to re-think your approach in its entirety.

    Currently, you have a plan for failure. That's fine, if you like failing, but, if you want a plan for success you need to consider your marketing efforts, learn confidence, and how to engage others in conversation, etc. You can hide in the bushes and expect anything more than your minimal, piss poor, efforts. Quit whining, and start changing if you want more success.

    You're a gay site. You're picture-less. You're whining. That's a loser.