Complete and utter virgin?

  • Chumpchamp

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    Nov 13, 2012 2:44 AM GMT
    Hey all,

    I live in a small town and hate it, plan on moving soon (this story does have a point I swear!) I knew I was gay, for sure, when I was 18, all my friends seemed to have known before me. It wasn't till 20 that I was comfortable with being gay. I'm now 23 not fully out of the closet (out to friends not to family) and I find myself wanting to start dating. I'm what I've labeled myself a "complete and utter virgin" I haven't even been kissed (male or female) and I felt so awkward at the end of the one real date I had that it scared me back into my little hole! I'm not posting this looking for any answers I just want to get it off my chest! One of my other problems is I may think im ready to date but am I really! ready if I get scared at the end of date kiss?
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    Nov 13, 2012 3:51 AM GMT

    Whether there's a kiss at the end of a date is entirely up to you. icon_wink.gif

    warmly,

    -Doug of meninlove
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    Nov 13, 2012 4:19 AM GMT
    Small towns are no excuse. I grew up in a population of under 3000, 5 miles out of town on a farm...and had a secret boyfriend through most of high school. didn't come out of the closet till age 21, long after my "high school sweetheart" had went off to college never to return.
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    Nov 13, 2012 4:50 AM GMT
    Sit back and accept it. Who knows? You might be good at it.
  • Chumpchamp

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    Nov 13, 2012 11:12 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    Whether there's a kiss at the end of a date is entirely up to you. icon_wink.gif

    warmly,

    -Doug of meninlove


    Very true! Thank you!

    paulflexesSmall towns are no excuse. I grew up in a population of under 3000, 5 miles out of town on a farm...and had a secret boyfriend through most of high school. didn't come out of the closet till age 21, long after my "high school sweetheart" had went off to college never to return.


    You are right, small town isn't an excuse.

    SSSurferSit back and accept it. Who knows? You might be good at it.


    Great advice, that I will have to uphold!

    Thank you
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    Nov 13, 2012 11:16 AM GMT
    Chumpchamp saidHey all,

    I live in a small town and hate it, plan on moving soon (this story does have a point I swear!) I knew I was gay, for sure, when I was 18, all my friends seemed to have known before me. It wasn't till 20 that I was comfortable with being gay. I'm now 23 not fully out of the closet (out to friends not to family) and I find myself wanting to start dating. I'm what I've labeled myself a "complete and utter virgin" I haven't even been kissed (male or female) and I felt so awkward at the end of the one real date I had that it scared me back into my little hole! I'm not posting this looking for any answers I just want to get it off my chest! One of my other problems is I may think im ready to date but am I really! ready if I get scared at the end of date kiss?


    This is the most endearing thing I've read here on rj.
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    Nov 13, 2012 1:28 PM GMT
    Well.. I can relate.. my first kiss was soo awkward I didn't ever want to do it again..

    Kissing is something that will come naturally and when the chemistry is right - just go easy and don't do it like you see in the movies just because thats they way you've seen it done..

    Its personal, and everyone has their own style, enjoy exploring it when you're ready.