Nov 13, 2012 5:10 PM GMT
Ok, I noticed there were a LOT of threads straight guy crushes. I have to say, I didn't really pay a lot of attention to this issue.... until it happened to ME 
The thing is I've never really had a good male friend who knew I was gay, and had absolutely no problem with it. When I came out to my best friends, some of whom are guys, I sensed it was still kind of a taboo between us , we're working through it but it's still not come to the point where we can casually talk about it.
This year, I decided to just stop hiding the fact that I was gay, just tell people if the situation presented itself, basically just coming out at a higher level. In the process, I made a really good friend, the first guy who has manifested no awkwardness or discomfort whatsoever about me being gay. In fact, we talk and joke about it all the time.
The problem is, I'm afraid I might like him a bit too much, and I can't say if it's a crush or if it's just really a strong friendship, cause here's the thing, I do think about him a lot when he's not around , and I really love the time we spend together but at the same time, I've never really fantasized about anything physical with him, I just don't see it.
But then, it got me thinking, the reason so many guys find themselves in this situation, maybe is that it's so hard to find caring, compassionate people out there. So, when they do find one, and he's a guy, there's bound to be confusion about their feelings for him. Maybe it's just natural for guys who feel loved and accepted wholly for the first time in their lives, to react by reciprocating that love, sometimes going farther than they're supposed to. In that way, having a crush on a straight guy can almost seem like a rite of passage. What do you think ?
The thing is I've never really had a good male friend who knew I was gay, and had absolutely no problem with it. When I came out to my best friends, some of whom are guys, I sensed it was still kind of a taboo between us , we're working through it but it's still not come to the point where we can casually talk about it.
This year, I decided to just stop hiding the fact that I was gay, just tell people if the situation presented itself, basically just coming out at a higher level. In the process, I made a really good friend, the first guy who has manifested no awkwardness or discomfort whatsoever about me being gay. In fact, we talk and joke about it all the time.
The problem is, I'm afraid I might like him a bit too much, and I can't say if it's a crush or if it's just really a strong friendship, cause here's the thing, I do think about him a lot when he's not around , and I really love the time we spend together but at the same time, I've never really fantasized about anything physical with him, I just don't see it.
But then, it got me thinking, the reason so many guys find themselves in this situation, maybe is that it's so hard to find caring, compassionate people out there. So, when they do find one, and he's a guy, there's bound to be confusion about their feelings for him. Maybe it's just natural for guys who feel loved and accepted wholly for the first time in their lives, to react by reciprocating that love, sometimes going farther than they're supposed to. In that way, having a crush on a straight guy can almost seem like a rite of passage. What do you think ?
