Massages- sexual or not?

  • 626_Ice

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    Nov 14, 2012 7:06 AM GMT
    As a massage therapist in the Los Angeles area, I keep getting men asking for happy endings. Is that all you guys think about when you hear massage or know someone is a massage therapist?

    Do you know the difference between a massage therapist and a massuse?
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    Nov 14, 2012 9:41 AM GMT
    Neither of them give "happy endings"

    Do you know the difference? or do you just expect a masseuse to do things like that because they don't get to call them self a "massage therapist".

    physio therapist used to call the massage therapists physio dropouts.

    Anyway.

    Yes that's all they ever think about...

    Maybe you should advertise your services to people outside the gay community
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    Nov 14, 2012 1:46 PM GMT
    Nothing wrong with a happy ending either, relieves stress and would probably get you a bigger tip. Stop being a prude. Somehow one would think a gay man rubbing other gay men would understand these things and quit playing games. You want to "just" massage people, stick with the blue haired ladies in Beverly Hills.
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    Nov 14, 2012 1:57 PM GMT
    If I found the ad. for a massage on a gay website, then I expect a happy ending.
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    Nov 14, 2012 2:33 PM GMT
    I always thought the differences in the ads is one is written "massage therapist" from professional and the other one is "erotic massage therapist".
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    Nov 14, 2012 3:26 PM GMT
    I have friends in the city who were having similar problems. It always ended being how they were advertising, where they were messaging, and the vibe they gave when encountering clients.
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    Nov 14, 2012 3:26 PM GMT
    And yes... it might be you, not them.
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    Nov 14, 2012 3:31 PM GMT
    I think of Happy Endings all of the time. The hilarious TV show, not the post message jerk off.
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    Nov 14, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
    lol....yeah an advt on a gay website, one would expect a happy ending icon_wink.gif
  • stratavos

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    Nov 14, 2012 4:21 PM GMT
    Yes I know the difference, and... for a lot of people the difference is negotiable icon_sad.gif

    Do you tell the client that same line when they ask about "additional services"? because a good follow-up is telling them how much of an insult that request is.

    psst, liltanker you rock!
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    Nov 14, 2012 4:24 PM GMT
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    Nov 14, 2012 4:34 PM GMT
    I know the difference between a masseur and a masseuse. I'd like a happy ending, please.
  • drypin

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    Nov 14, 2012 4:34 PM GMT
    Well, yes, I do know the difference. A masseuse is a female masseur, both of whom offer massages. A massage therapist is a 'specialized' masseuse or a masseur who offers massages ostensibly for therapeutic purposes. Stress relief in all its forms can be considered therapeutic; that would include sexual relief (though I don't suppose insurance would cover it in any case).

    If I decided to enter that field, I would have to come to terms with the fact that many of my fellow practitioners offer these 'happy endings'. It goes with the territory, just like underbidding, going to the client versus working from home, etc.

    Not sure how I would make it clear in my ads that I DON'T offer that particular service. Perhaps I would emphasize any board certifications that I have and focus on the 'recovery from injury' aspect of my practice. That's about all the advice I can think of.
  • starboard5

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    Nov 14, 2012 4:42 PM GMT
    A happy ending is completely inappropriate in a professional massage. A professional massage is sensual but not sexual; there's a difference and mature people understand it. I have no doubt I'm going to get blasted for this. All you professional MTs out there, back me up.
  • Nico3687

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    Nov 14, 2012 4:55 PM GMT
    starboard5 saidA happy ending is completely inappropriate in a professional massage. A professional massage is sensual but not sexual; there's a difference and mature people understand it. I have no doubt I'm going to get blasted for this. All you professional MTs out there, back me up.


    Seconded.
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    Nov 14, 2012 5:06 PM GMT
    In Chicago it's illegal to advertise as a massage therapist, so erotics call their practice bodywork in most ads
  • wild_sky360

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    Nov 14, 2012 5:52 PM GMT
    imasrxd saidMV5BMjA0NjY2MDM4Nl5BMl5BanBnXkFtZTcwMDUx

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    Lisa Kudrow ... Mamie

    Steve Coogan ... Charley

    Jesse Bradford ... Nicky

    Bobby Cannavale ... Javier

    Maggie Gyllenhaal ... Jude

    Jason Ritter ... Otis

    Tom Arnold ... Frank

    David Sutcliffe ... Gil

    Sarah Clarke ... Diane

    Laura Dern ... Pam


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  • SoDakGuy

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    Nov 14, 2012 5:58 PM GMT
    I tend to see massage therapist since my back is messed up from being in 3 car accidents. Massages are never a turn on for me at all. They hurt like FUCK.
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    Nov 14, 2012 6:24 PM GMT
    My massages are always for therapy, I would never ask for a happy ending. BUT that being said, if he is naked, hot and wants to, who I am I to say no? Lol

    BTW Masseur is a guy therapist Masseuse is a woman
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    Nov 14, 2012 6:52 PM GMT
    As a Licensed Massage Practitioner I would have to say 'not' in a professional sense and atmosphere. If asked... no matter how hot the guy may be... I politely advise that I do not provide those services. But if you are with your partner then sure why not. Just my opinion of courseicon_smile.gif
  • groundcombat

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    Nov 14, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    I want a real and effective massage. Is it bad that I want a hot, muscular dude to do it? icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 15, 2012 3:25 AM GMT
    starboard5 saidA happy ending is completely inappropriate in a professional massage. A professional massage is sensual but not sexual; there's a difference and mature people understand it. I have no doubt I'm going to get blasted for this. All you professional MTs out there, back me up.


    Absolutely correct. It's not only disrespectful but it is against licensing law in most states. I don't go into anyone's work and ask them to break the law for my gain. Why would they feel entitled to come into my office and do it? That's my bottom line.

    My advice to the OP would to document the Hell out of this stuff when it happens. Write up an incident report, and put a note about it in your SOAP notes, then close the file. That way if by chance you get some vindictive queen who tries to say you did something you didn't do because you didn't fulfill their request to go downstairs, then you at least have something drawn up in writing stating what happened, where, what time, how it happened, etc.

    I don't know how strict licensing law in California is, but in NC you have to jump through a bunch of loopholes just to get a license, and if you pull something shady, they'll have it snatched up and you on disciplinary action in a very timely manner.
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    Nov 15, 2012 3:32 AM GMT
    Every time I get a massage, I request a muscular guy, not because it turns me on but because I always want Deep Tissue Massages. The harder he can push the better, I don't want some petite girl (even though I have gotten a few good ones). But yeah, I never had a relaxing massage, only therapeutic massages that actually hurt and make me soar the next couple of days.
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    Nov 15, 2012 3:36 AM GMT
    I just have so much muscle tension inside my sphincter icon_sad.gif
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    Nov 15, 2012 3:50 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI just have so much muscle tension inside my sphincter icon_sad.gif


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