FALLEN IN LOVE WITH A "STRAIGHT"

  • GEEVER

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    Sep 07, 2008 7:53 AM GMT
    i met this guy from school, y only have 1 class with him, but after two weeks seeing him i think i've fallen in love..i don't know why!!!! it just happened. i just talked to him once and it was something about school. i have a bi friend who also know this guy and he told me that he may be gay or something, but i'm not sure and i'm not really with the words when i meet someone new, i just dont know what to do...i keep thinking about him and waiting desperately every week to see him again icon_sad.gif no one knows im bisexual by the way, i was thinking maybe i could tell someone in that class my condition and he will probably find out. i almost forgot, he keeps looking at me, i don't want to keep my hopes up cuz this has happened before and the guy turned out to be more straight than anyone in the world icon_sad.gif help!!!
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    Sep 07, 2008 8:59 AM GMT
    Well, if he's looking at you nearly as much as you think he is, he probably likes you too.

    Why don't you get his number and try to arrange some hangout time outside of class?

    Good luck with the guy!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 07, 2008 9:29 AM GMT
    RyanReBoRn saidWell, if he's looking at you nearly as much as you think he is, he probably likes you too.

    Why don't you get his number and try to arrange some hangout time outside of class?

    Good luck with the guy!icon_biggrin.gif


    I believe geever said he had a bf.

    be careful, if you love your boyfriend,don't go ruining it with a crazy hook up
  • blackpoptarts

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    Sep 07, 2008 10:09 AM GMT
    He said he had a bi-friend, not a boy-friend. icon_smile.gif

    In regards to him looking at you all the time, you may not want to assume that that means that he likes you. The opposite may be true. Perhaps he's just caught on to you looking at him so much and is kinda freaked out and is only looking back when you do. If it's more of an intimidating stare-back, well then he's probably not into you. If he keeps stealing looks at you when you're not looking, well then you've got something good going for you and you should work up the courage to talk to him. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 07, 2008 11:04 AM GMT
    Throw a glass of cold water on yourself and get your composure back bro. Approach this boy like a friend, and see if he wants to hang out, grab a cup coffee at starbucks, or a beer at the local bar, or if appropriate in this class prepare for a test or whatever. This way you can hang out and get to know him a little better, perhaps making a friend. You may also find out he's not what you think he is. Or you may start to get additional information that will lead you to draw one conclusion or another, or if there is any interest and he starts to trust you as a friend a little bit, he may feel comfortable making things a bit more obvious. If not at least you've made another friend. Don't forget the glass of cold water...If you aren't to the point of asking him to do something yet, just try being casual, like a hello on the way into the class room if you happen to walk in at the same time, or a simple nod and a "hows it going". Just start making some small talk with the guy and develop that a bit, tell him a joke (as long as its a good one), the world loves jokes. Compliment something about him (not his ass), everyone appreciates a genuine compliment. Relax, breathe and approach him casually.

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    Sep 07, 2008 1:59 PM GMT
    YngHungSFSD said This way you can hang out and get to know him a little better, perhaps making a friend. You may also find out he's not what you think he is. Or you may start to get additional information that will lead you to draw one conclusion or another, or if there is any interest and he starts to trust you as a friend a little bit, he may feel comfortable making things a bit more obvious.


    Don't confuse a crush with love. Many times we think we are in love with someone when we actually are in love with the idea of someone. Get to know him before you start planning the commitment ceremony and picking out a Himalayan Whistle Kid to adopt. icon_lol.gif

    -Den
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    Sep 07, 2008 3:29 PM GMT
    AlphaDen said
    YngHungSFSD said This way you can hang out and get to know him a little better, perhaps making a friend. You may also find out he's not what you think he is. Or you may start to get additional information that will lead you to draw one conclusion or another, or if there is any interest and he starts to trust you as a friend a little bit, he may feel comfortable making things a bit more obvious.


    Don't confuse a crush with love. Many times we think we are in love with someone when we actually are in love with the idea of someone. Get to know him before you start planning the commitment ceremony and picking out a Himalayan Whistle Kid to adopt. icon_lol.gif

    -Den


    ^^ The unadulterated truth. You're experiencing what Dr. Phil would call INFATUATION.
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    Sep 07, 2008 4:50 PM GMT
    dude! this same thing happened to me this last weekend! well, maybe not to the extent in loving him, but definitely a crush. and at first i thought he was gay, or at least in the closet when i first just met him. he was being very talkative with me, grabbing at his ears and stuff like he was nervous. but then someone started talking about a gay guy there that i know personally, people were blown away a straight acting guy existed yada... yada... yada... then i came up. he still acted the same after he found out about me. and then the following night was still real friendly. he talks about girls though, who knows at this day and age. i hate straight guys haha.
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    Sep 07, 2008 4:57 PM GMT
    Same thing happened to me, become friends but don't keep your hopes up. I fell in love with a guy that was straight, all my friends, his friends and everyone else would always joke he was gay, and I was closeted at the time. Now 8 years later we are still best friends, I'm gay he's straight and we get along like brothers. A lot of turbulence in those six years but sometimes getting a good friend out of it is worth it.
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    Sep 07, 2008 5:00 PM GMT
    Get over yourself
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    Sep 07, 2008 5:15 PM GMT
    Well I don't think you should get your hopes up until you know where this guy stands meaning until you know if he is gay or not. Even then you aren't even sure if he's all that interested in you sexually or otherwise. People look all the time and looks can be misread. For all you know you might've had a talking green fairy on your shoulder. LOL. Just kidding.

    Your best bet would be to find out a little more about this guy and to save yourself from any heartache later on in the future you should probably tone down the usage of the phrase like "I've fallen in love". Based on your situation that isn't love. It's lust at best and a possible infatuation but certainly not love. Go with the flow and feel things out before jumping to conclusions and then later on feeling pretty stupid about it. Makes for a funny icebreaker at parties though.

    If he's gay then I'm sure he'll let you know in a way that you will be able to figure out and if he's interested in you then I'm sure he'll let you know a way that you can figure out. Nothing wrong with just being friends. More people should try it instead of jumping the gun and trying to jump into the sack first.

    Best of luck.

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    Sep 07, 2008 5:27 PM GMT
    flex89 saidGet over yourself



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    Sep 07, 2008 5:35 PM GMT
    Yeah, friends frist is a great policy.
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    Sep 07, 2008 5:38 PM GMT

    You are cute .. even he's straight you'll turn him gay ... or not .. life isn't that colourful you'll find a straighter gay guy someday icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 07, 2008 5:44 PM GMT
    GHoSTa said
    You are cute .. even he's straight you'll turn him gay ... icon_smile.gif


    if only it were that easy...
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    Sep 07, 2008 7:32 PM GMT
    Run away! and find a guy that you know likes guys, you are heading for disaster.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 07, 2008 7:50 PM GMT
    My very first "crush" happened with a straight guy when I was 17. He was 18 or 19 at the time. I didn't want to acknowledge what was reality and that was that I had a crush on the guy. Nothing even romotely happened, but I remember trying to do different things to put me in a position to chat with him. Kind of embarassing now.

    My suggestion to you. Know what this is and react in a grounded manner.
    If you know he's straight, what kind of result (logically) will you have?
    Best wishes to you, I know its pretty hard.
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    Sep 07, 2008 7:56 PM GMT
    be careful...don't set yourself up for a big disappointment.
    ;)
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    Sep 07, 2008 9:32 PM GMT
    EMSman saidRun away! and find a guy that you know likes guys, you are heading for disaster.


    You're so right.

    Falling for straight men is a mistake.

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  • Koaa2

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    Sep 07, 2008 9:37 PM GMT
    Seems like this is a common problem on these threads.

    My recommendation would be is to get real with yourself, come out, so everyone knows who and what you are about. And, second, start hanging with more gay guys, where you can meet more guys you can have a relationship and sex with. All this second guessing about yourself and others is a waste of time and energy. I am not against straight guys by any means, it is just that in most cases it is a dead end issue, as far as a realationship or sex are concerned, even though we have fantasies that it might happen.