Who has deleted their profiles on sites like Adam4Adam or Grindr and felt that a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders?

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    Nov 15, 2012 1:22 PM GMT
    Who has deleted their profiles on sites like Adam4Adam or Grindr and felt that a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders? I am really f***in close to deleting my A4A account. So tired of the bs and lies.

    What were the reasons for deleting it?
    How did it make you feel after?
  • ADL14

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    Nov 15, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    For one week, I deleted Grindr, Jack'd, and A4A. I also didn't look at PoF. It felt soooo good to not be obsessed with them. And it's not like I am using them to hook up. I chat every once in a while but that's it. I guess I think I may miss "the one" if I completely get rid of them.

    Right now, I continue to use Grindr and Jack'd. So sad...icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 15, 2012 1:58 PM GMT
    Feels even better not to have ever had a profile on these online bathhouses. Much like you never meet classy people on their knees in airport restrooms, you will never meet a healthy person trolling for cock on a app designed for trolling for cock.
    That weight you feel lifting off your shoulders? It's your brain reconnecting from your dick, wondering where the blood flow has been these last few months/years.
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    Nov 15, 2012 2:00 PM GMT
    I did. It's the best thing ever you can do for yourself as a gay man. Honestly, with grindr or scruff or any of those dating sites its completely commercializing and manufacturing the sexual experience. Whatever happened to meeting someone in person and watching the organic chemistry develop between the two of you? Or having sex with someone where you don't know who's top or bottom and likes what and just letting the moment dictate the experience? We have become so in to what we supposedly "like" and "don't like" that we are out of touch with any sense of an organic, natural life dating experience. Maybe because we are afraid to risk the intimacy of the moment-- with grindr and scruff there is more "control" of the outcome. I think it's a tragedy and our generation is missing out on taking risks or trying new things that ultimately could lead to love in favor of a pre-programmed menu of lust.
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    Nov 15, 2012 2:04 PM GMT
    I still have profiles on both, I hardly ever use adam4adam, Grindr almost once everyday (just to see who near me is gay lol). I dont take these websites seriously and never have any expectations from them.
  • Kagse

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    Nov 15, 2012 2:06 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidFeels even better not to have ever had a profile on these online bathhouses. Much like you never meet classy people on their knees in airport restrooms, you will never meet a healthy person trolling for cock on a app designed for trolling for cock.
    That weight you feel lifting off your shoulders? It's your brain reconnecting from your dick, wondering where the blood flow has been these last few months/years.


    Agreed. I know it's probably different for everyone, but just seems like so much work. Even after I caught my ex cheating, it was a big fucking deal to get him to delete his accounts. He just seemed so obsessed with it, so much wasted energy.
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    Nov 15, 2012 2:08 PM GMT
    Good replies guy! I often get down on myself when I visit sites like those. I do not get anywhere. Feels like I am going in circles half the time. I need to stop thinking that way about myself. I really do want to get out in the real world and meet guys, but I am shy sometimes. Also I tend to go for masc guys so it is hard for me to know if they are gay or not. Or when I do talk to a guy that I am into, I find out they are str8!!icon_eek.gificon_razz.gif
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    Nov 15, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    Honestly BMasc, I don't know if you live in a city or not but you absolutely have to step outside of your comfort zone to make friends and/or meet a guy. Take a risk and smile at someone sometime. People usually smile back. And they might even strike up a conversation with you. I'm not saying hit on every guy you think is cute but all of us could do well to be more proactive. I once read a book that said we should be looking for a partner/boyfriend/husband everywhere but online, at bathhouses and gay clubs. His theory was if you take sex and alcohol out of the equation, you're more likely to meet someone you will have organic chemistry with that -- where you can actually tell if its love at first sight or not. Which he believed in. Just some thoughts to ponder.
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    Nov 15, 2012 2:23 PM GMT
    Thanks Capn_A. When I first see or meet a guy I am always wondering if they are gay or str8. I am sure this is not healthy in need for wanting to find a guy to connect with. I do have a good amount of str8 friends though and only like 3 good gay friends. Lame I know lol! I tend to be an over thinker.
  • GAYROMANIA

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    Nov 15, 2012 2:29 PM GMT
    Well where do I begin I use almost every gay app there is hehe.

    My current apps I use daily is Grindr, PlanetRomeo (Gayromeo), Badoo and TakeMeOut also known as Flirtomatic. Website wise is Fitlads.net and this site. A new gay app is called DISTINC.TT it's a strange app as nobody talks to you it's so cold in there but give it a try.

    I also have installed Manhub, Bender, Growlr, Scruff which I no longer use unless I get a message randomly.

    I love using WhatsApp so if you got it guys then add me +447514819063
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    Nov 15, 2012 2:30 PM GMT
    I deleted MH months ago and just deleted A4A this past week. Just really wasn't on them much and I want more than a hook up. RJ and Dudes nude are the only sites I have left. Oh...and True Nudist
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    Nov 15, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    I deleted them but it wasnt a huge weight off of my shoulder. They suck. Period.

    Agree with what the other guy said about ruining the organic experience. I hate hooking up with people online.

    I was in the "Lets chat and if you seem sane meet in person with no expectations" boat. It worked very well. A lot of dudes but some really hot hot sex! (organic sex mind you)

    Ironically enough, it made me realize that I usually end up bottoming even if we dont establish sex roles through chatting :-(

    As for getting rid of them, out in Montana I have no one to date, even on Grindr or Scruff so it doesnt make a difference. Im probably gonna get back on it after I move back to civilization and see what happens.
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    Nov 15, 2012 2:37 PM GMT
    i deleted them all except growlr. bears tend to be older and nicer and i actually have alot of friends on there. less pretentious bullshit. and i go to the bear dinners and stuff, so i know alot of people on there.

    the other apps are just degrading. if you didn't feel like a whore before, well....NOW YOU CAN!!!
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    Nov 15, 2012 3:57 PM GMT
    ADL14 saidFor one week, I deleted Grindr, Jack'd, and A4A. I also didn't look at PoF. It felt soooo good to not be obsessed with them. And it's not like I am using them to hook up. I chat every once in a while but that's it. I guess I think I may miss "the one" if I completely get rid of them.

    Right now, I continue to use Grindr and Jack'd. So sad...icon_razz.gif


    They are what you make of them. Your comment regarding how you use it is interesting and disconcerting . I hope it says in your profile you are there just to chat and don't use it disrespectfully.
  • alphatop

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    Nov 15, 2012 3:59 PM GMT
    I used to have Grindr account for, like, two days. It made me feel extremely miserable, so I deleted it within 48 hours. Just not my cup of tea, but works for some people. I never had an urge to re-open my account. I don't have a single hook up app on my iPhone.
  • conquer

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    Nov 15, 2012 4:01 PM GMT
    was on grindr for a couple of months. complete waste of time. glad i'm off of it. you just check it constantly and get disappointed by either the responses or the fact that you didn't get any
  • docbailey2005

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    Nov 15, 2012 4:01 PM GMT
    Capn_A saidI did. It's the best thing ever you can do for yourself as a gay man. Honestly, with grindr or scruff or any of those dating sites its completely commercializing and manufacturing the sexual experience. Whatever happened to meeting someone in person and watching the organic chemistry develop between the two of you? Or having sex with someone where you don't know who's top or bottom and likes what and just letting the moment dictate the experience? We have become so in to what we supposedly "like" and "don't like" that we are out of touch with any sense of an organic, natural life dating experience. Maybe because we are afraid to risk the intimacy of the moment-- with grindr and scruff there is more "control" of the outcome. I think it's a tragedy and our generation is missing out on taking risks or trying new things that ultimately could lead to love in favor of a pre-programmed menu of lust.


    WELL SAID!!!! KUDOS!!!!
  • alphatop

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    Nov 15, 2012 4:05 PM GMT
    GAYROMANIA saidWell where do I begin I use almost every gay app there is hehe.

    My current apps I use daily is Grindr, PlanetRomeo (Gayromeo), Badoo and TakeMeOut also known as Flirtomatic. Website wise is Fitlads.net and this site. A new gay app is called DISTINC.TT it's a strange app as nobody talks to you it's so cold in there but give it a try.

    I also have installed Manhub, Bender, Growlr, Scruff which I no longer use unless I get a message randomly.

    I love using WhatsApp so if you got it guys then add me +447514819063


    Wow! You disrespect yourself THAT much?
  • PR_GMR

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    Nov 15, 2012 4:13 PM GMT
    Capn_A saidI did. It's the best thing ever you can do for yourself as a gay man. Honestly, with grindr or scruff or any of those dating sites its completely commercializing and manufacturing the sexual experience. Whatever happened to meeting someone in person and watching the organic chemistry develop between the two of you? Or having sex with someone where you don't know who's top or bottom and likes what and just letting the moment dictate the experience? We have become so in to what we supposedly "like" and "don't like" that we are out of touch with any sense of an organic, natural life dating experience. Maybe because we are afraid to risk the intimacy of the moment-- with grindr and scruff there is more "control" of the outcome. I think it's a tragedy and our generation is missing out on taking risks or trying new things that ultimately could lead to love in favor of a pre-programmed menu of lust.


    Well said! I deleted Grindr and their kind a couple of months ago. I only keep one profile in a certain website to allow myself a little play. But I'm looking for that one-on-one chemistry that develops when you meet someone in person somewhere. I think that's more likely to lead to a relationship.
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    Nov 15, 2012 4:37 PM GMT
    I deleted them all, a4a, grindr, jack'd. Sometimes I just need a break from it.
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    Nov 15, 2012 4:44 PM GMT
    i did and I'm glad i deleted it to, but i did meet some cool guys I'm i talk to on occasions I'm actually going to go out with one of them this weekendicon_surprised.gif
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 15, 2012 4:46 PM GMT
    I did it because I had a stalker. I also found that I prefer meeting random people in person better. This way I can use my personality which I believe is my best asset!
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    Nov 15, 2012 5:15 PM GMT
    I deleted A4a this week and am very glad I did! I know that I have an addictive personality and I was spending too much time on it.
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    Nov 15, 2012 5:26 PM GMT
    I deleted my okcupid account a while ago. I felt ok... I guess. If I wanted to deal with BS, I have Grindr. For whatever reason I thought I'd be able to actually meet people using okcupid. That never happened.
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    Nov 15, 2012 5:36 PM GMT
    Funny, I stil have a few profiles out there, on A4A, Big Muscle and Grindr...I didn't create them tho lol and Im sick of requesting support to take them down so fuck it. I certainly cant make it stop. That's when I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders, when I stopped giving a shit...