If ur willing to share & be open & elaborate, were u molested as a child or adolescent?

  • TannerMasseur

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    Nov 15, 2012 6:00 PM GMT
    Do u see it as being molested or as a sexual awakening by an elder? And how do u think it has affected ur life to this point & all ur interactions & how u see sex? And what kind of sexual relations do u have now as a result of it?
  • kevmoran

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    Nov 15, 2012 6:19 PM GMT
    You ask like 12 strange questions a day.

    And nope.
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    Nov 15, 2012 6:23 PM GMT
    kevmoran saidYou ask like 12 strange questions a day.
    And nope.
    This.
  • MikeW

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    Nov 15, 2012 6:34 PM GMT
    Sexually, no. I was emotionally abused by my father, though. The man had serious problems. Fortunately I got the support I needed to untangle my way out of those knots. It took years.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Nov 15, 2012 7:00 PM GMT
    To moonhawk: Just added adolescent to the title.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Nov 15, 2012 7:01 PM GMT
    To MikeW: Sorry to hear that. Man u've had a tough life!
  • TannerMasseur

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    Nov 15, 2012 7:02 PM GMT
    To kevmoran: "Strange" is subjective......
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    Nov 15, 2012 8:16 PM GMT
    Molested as a child?
    No, but I was physically abused for a short period (I think) And emotionally abused most of my life by my father.

    Any kind of abuse is bad, especially sexual abuse, but I find that emotional abuse can be just as bad. I used to have a hard time forming any type of connection with people for fear of it going bad. I had a hard time trusting adults, and even now I can't help but restrain myself for fear of exposing myself. Eventually though, you just learn to live with the pain, and overcome it when you can.
  • Hothouse

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    Nov 15, 2012 8:33 PM GMT
    A good friend of mine told me he was sexually involved with his uncle at an early age. He did not refer to it as abuse, but technically, it was. Did it "mess him up"? He said no. At the time he told me this he was in a relationship with another guy and had been for a long time. I was friends with both of them. We kind of drifted apart, but stayed in touch, and they eventually broke up. Then he called me one day and said he'd gotten married to a woman. OK - I didn't understand it, but he said he was happy. Months later when I talked with him, he's still married but is fooling around again with guys.
    So, I have to think that he is kinda messed up, it may or may not relate to his sexual experience with an adult relative, but it could. A lot of people have baggage, and I can't help but think that being molested, or even consental sex at an age when a child is not emotionally equiped to handle it, won't have consequences later on in life.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Nov 15, 2012 8:36 PM GMT
    Thx Hothouse icon_smile.gif And thx WaytoDawn icon_smile.gif
  • IAmTheOneWhoK...

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    Nov 15, 2012 9:20 PM GMT
    Yeah. A "Family Friend" who was a carpenter, would fix stuff around the house. I think it kind of messed me up around the time, but I barely think about it now, and I'm only 19.
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    Nov 15, 2012 9:31 PM GMT
    No I was not molested by anyone.

    And as far as my dad is concerned he is a replica of Burt Hummel from Glee. He always supports me in everything and gives a lot of freedom. He says he doesnt understand men getting attracted towards men but he wants me to be happy and trusts me.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Nov 15, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    To IAmTheOne: So u've coped with it pretty well?
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    Nov 15, 2012 11:02 PM GMT
    Dated a guy who was molested by his older cousin from when he was 12 until maybe 14?

    Me? Nope.
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    Nov 15, 2012 11:02 PM GMT
    spgem saidTo IAmTheOne: So u've coped with it pretty well?


    You are just too transparent.
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    Nov 15, 2012 11:05 PM GMT
    No
  • TannerMasseur

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    Nov 15, 2012 11:11 PM GMT
    Meninlove: Don't be critical & don't categorize me. Have u seen how many different mulit-faceted threads I've posted? I have an artist's inquisitive mind. Don't stifle me.
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    Nov 15, 2012 11:15 PM GMT
    spgem saidMeninlove: Don't be critical & don't categorize me. Have u seen how many different mulit-faceted threads I've posted? I have an artist's inquisitive mind. Don't stifle me.


    Uhhh..spgem, you just posted a topic a few days ago all about the joys of gay parents and their kids having sex.


    You're rather obvious.
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    Nov 15, 2012 11:29 PM GMT
    Good times...
  • TannerMasseur

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    Nov 15, 2012 11:30 PM GMT
    To meninlove: My mind works on variations & spin-offs. One tangent starts another tangent.....Just like an artist creates multiples & variations on the same theme, it's all relative.......
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    Nov 15, 2012 11:31 PM GMT
    Nope, I was just a gayby!
  • TannerMasseur

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    Nov 15, 2012 11:33 PM GMT
    To Trollileo: To each their own.....
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    Nov 15, 2012 11:36 PM GMT
    everyone wants to play the victim.
    waah, my daddy emotionally abused me, I think!
    waaah, I was bullied as a child
    waaaah, mommy was an alcoholic.
    waaaaaah, I got my dick diddled by an old man when I was just a wittle boy


    I met this one chick, who was 15 and pregnant with her dad's baby. Yup, she was raped and keeping it.

    Now, thats some real shit right there.
  • UIUC1978

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    Nov 15, 2012 11:51 PM GMT
    spgem saidDo u see it as being molested or as a sexual awakening by an elder? And how do u think it has affected ur life to this point & all ur interactions & how u see sex? And what kind of sexual relations do u have now as a result of it?


    Don't really consider what happened as sexual abuse or molestation. I was 2 or 3 and caught my 15 year old uncle and his buddy, jerking each other off one day. When I asked them what they were doing and why they stopped doing it, my uncle said that it was a secret game. I asked if I could play. they told me to play with their dick and not stop until they told me to.

    Not too long after that I caught them again in the shed blowing each other. This was a new game they said and only 'big boys' got to play it. I ran into the house crying that my uncle and his friend wouldn't let me play with them.

    Did it affect me? Hell yeah!!! I wanted to play that game all the time after that; but they never wanted to.

    The humorous thing is Uncle is now an ultra-conservative family man who has absolutely nothing kind to say about gay men
  • TannerMasseur

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    Nov 16, 2012 12:02 AM GMT
    To UIUC1978: Interesting how ur uncle turned ultra-conservative.