Interracial Minority Couples: Where's the love?

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    Nov 15, 2012 11:24 PM GMT
    The trend in the gay community for interracial couples is commonly:

    Black/White
    Asian/White
    Latino/White
    Minority/Majority
    Black/Latino

    Why is it when interracial relationships come to mind people immediately correlate that to countless examples of minority-majority couples . Where's the love from fellow minorities dammit!? I have a preference for minority men; Asian, Latino, Black and less considered groups including Mid-Eastern and Indian men. I have dated men from all of these backgrounds. This preference originated from my childhood experiences of being surrounded by a balanced mixture of people from several races.
    However it seems VERY taboo for minorities to date one another in the gay community. Its also evident that criticism is the most intense from the respective races of the couple. Asian and Latino men that I've dated have been harshly ridiculed for dating me and more generally a black person. I have also received equal ridicule from fellow blacks regarding preferences with other races. I'm sure other minorities have fared the same ridicule for dating within other groups of minorities and the majority included. I know the counter argument is that people are conditioned by media along with their immediate surroundings/environment. However I retort with this begging question. Does one's conditioning define absolute attitudes? Does conditioning inhibit/hinder inquisition, exploration,experimentation, and discovery? Apparently it does within this matter. For now, the established social order is still very against this trend. So I say again, where's the love boys???
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    Nov 16, 2012 3:24 AM GMT
    flmao saidIf gay porn ceased to exist, so will most racial hierachy issues in this "community".


    I really believe that gay social order is informed by many factors, media outlets (porn) being one of them, but not solely per se.
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    Nov 16, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    No surprise there, gay people can be as bigot and racist as all people. I would not waste my time with others ridiculing the guys I go out with. People everywhere like to look down on someone. Makes them feel special and "uppa-class".

    There is no need to ever respond to a 'friends' racial taunt about your date. Just look him in the eye, change the topic or leave.
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    Nov 16, 2012 4:49 AM GMT
    I'm in an inter-racial relationship which is like pretty rare in Australia in a gay culture dominated by Caucasian men. My partner is Latino and I am 3/4 Asian. Like the OP, I have a preference for men of colour so you speak but I wasn't always like that. When I was younger I used to only fancy white guys it's funny how taste and perspective changes with life experience and exposure to different cultures. I actually find I connect with black guys the most but lol that's just me. So yes I think it's very much the media and exposure that influences our tastes.
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    Nov 16, 2012 5:03 AM GMT
    asian is not a minority
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    Nov 16, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidasian is not a minority


    Well I'm specifically referring to the United States where I live.
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    Nov 16, 2012 5:26 AM GMT
    @Ant
    You seem really intelligent. It's a good quality, xD

    I generally like other Asian and Caucasian men, and I haven't really noticed much discrimination for the white men. Maybe it's because I live in nyc, and it's more culturally mixed??
    It's more like people are generally taught to picture couples by race- therefore, I guess they judge if it's not according to that.
    Or maybe, they're just jealous that you're not into their race? icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 16, 2012 5:58 AM GMT
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    Nov 16, 2012 6:11 AM GMT
    I live in the US as well and I totally understand what your saying @Ant94538...Being a Gay man, you have to be strong and have tough skin when living in today's society, specifically in dealing with: homophobia, discrimination, and bigots. It makes no sense to me, why we are having to deal with the exact same issues in the Gay Community. We can do so much better. I Believe. #cometogetherightnow
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    Nov 16, 2012 8:25 AM GMT
    Where I come from, you see tons of combinations. I don't think I can think of any combination that I have NOT seen while walking around over the past couple years.

    But to my defense, Hawaii is the melting pot of the world.
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    Nov 16, 2012 1:06 PM GMT
    Go a white guy who doesn't know his family's heritage. He could be a mixed of any white European Bloodlines. A big mystery, set in a lighter tone. icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 16, 2012 3:04 PM GMT
    Minority gays/bis tend to be closeted. When I search okcupid in my town, it's mostly white guys. Same with RJ, a4a etc. I love minorities but I'm in a town where I can't overcome the math. So, I date mostly white guys.
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    Nov 16, 2012 3:14 PM GMT
    I used to date white guys, predominantly, until I moved to China. There, I was with one Latino guy, and than I discovered Chinese/Asian men and also few black guys. Melting pot is the best. I prefer men of colors now rather than white guys. Yellow fever, I guess.icon_surprised.gif
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    Nov 16, 2012 3:19 PM GMT
    Supernova_ saidI used to date white guys, predominantly, until I moved to China. There, I was with one Latino guy, and than I discovered Chinese/Asian men and also few black guys. Melting pot is the best. I prefer men of colors now rather than white guys. Yellow fever, I guess.icon_surprised.gif


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  • Puppymuncher

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    Nov 16, 2012 3:30 PM GMT
    Oh oh I'm in this club. Got a brown bf and I'm asian. Brown as in guyanese. Everytime he cooks, my throat gets a 2nd degree burn. Go diversity!
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    Nov 16, 2012 3:51 PM GMT
    DOMINUS said
    Supernova_ saidI used to date white guys, predominantly, until I moved to China. There, I was with one Latino guy, and than I discovered Chinese/Asian men and also few black guys. Melting pot is the best. I prefer men of colors now rather than white guys. Yellow fever, I guess.icon_surprised.gif


    You are going to hell!


    See ya there!!
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    Nov 16, 2012 4:30 PM GMT
    I think that the gay community is hopelessly fractured over the stupidest things. That's why we have such a hard time getting anything done.
  • Desertsnake78

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    Nov 17, 2012 9:31 PM GMT
    Where i live, washington dc, United States, white guys seem look down to minority (speaking as an Asian). I used to live in Cali, and people are more open and diverse and more friendly. Im more into white and latino guys. It doesnt meant i dont like asian. Most my friends are asian and im proud to be an Asian. White guys in this area seem raciat and stuck up (in my opinion and no offend anyone). However, I've seen a lot of old white men hitting or dating with young Asian guys. It's not a position i wanna be.
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    Nov 21, 2012 12:18 AM GMT
    Puppymuncher saidOh oh I'm in this club. Got a brown bf and I'm asian. Brown as in guyanese. Everytime he cooks, my throat gets a 2nd degree burn. Go diversity!


    high fives*
  • MadeinMich

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    Nov 21, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    flmao saidIf gay porn ceased to exist, so will most racial hierachy issues in this "community".


    How do you figure? Why is that?
  • Medjai

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    Nov 21, 2012 12:42 AM GMT
    Ant94538 said
    lilTanker saidasian is not a minority


    Well I'm specifically referring to the United States where I live.


    In America, where Caucasians are the racial majority, why is it dour praising that the porn reflects that? Porn made overseas reflects the racial ratios of its target demographic too...
  • TheBizMan

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    Nov 21, 2012 1:00 AM GMT
    Interracial minority couples don't happen in real life... only in your dreams.
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    Nov 21, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    TheBizMan saidInterracial minority couples don't happen in real life... only in your dreams.


    Unfortunately that is too true.
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    Nov 21, 2012 2:06 AM GMT
    It is unfortunate. I like the idea of Inter-Ethnic couples.
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    Nov 21, 2012 3:57 PM GMT
    zetrad saidIt is unfortunate. I like the idea of Inter-Ethnic couples.


    It's not a terrible idea at all. I usually forget when I am in an interracial relationship. I figure that's the last reason why people might stare in public...