Lack of Dating Sucess

  • ventus868

    Posts: 4

    Nov 15, 2012 11:55 PM GMT
    How do you all deal with lack of dating success? I know that I will not get a date on this site, but I am trying on others.
  • AMoonHawk

    Posts: 11406

    Nov 16, 2012 12:20 AM GMT
    I'm pretty sure it's not likely to happen for me, especially off of a dating site. I think the best chances are to try to meet someone in real life. I also do not let my life revolve around the idea of dating someone. Don't care if I do or if I don't. Trying to meet someone that shares my same life style, values, etc is I think, pretty close to impossible.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Nov 16, 2012 12:23 AM GMT
    Do you mean not getting dates or dates not being successful (and if so what would you consider a successful date)?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Nov 16, 2012 12:25 AM GMT
    I am averaging 1 date per year...

    I handle it by trying to move to a less horrible part of the United States.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Nov 16, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    I just go to back to work and make more moolah icon_neutral.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Nov 16, 2012 1:10 AM GMT
    ventus868 saidHow do you all deal with lack of dating success?
    love-smiley-086%20wank.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Nov 16, 2012 2:00 AM GMT
    venue....or as realtors say....location, location, location....is the key.....people in the scholastic forum should be the most likely to be successful.....those in the workplace, depending on career choice are next and for those of us who are left...throwing rocks at the neighbours' dogs on the weekends in hopes of meeting the owner would be considered a sound situation.....i'm in the latter....whoa, just missed a german shepherd...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Nov 16, 2012 2:18 AM GMT
    Just look in a place with people like you. Like maybe if you like studying, see if you could meet someone at a library. Or just generally, hit the club. xD
    If you're really that unsuccessful, maybe you're just hitting on the wrong guys- the cocky types?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Nov 16, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
    I don't deal with it. I've hit a wall. I can't figure out how to meet the right kind of guy for me, and I don't see to attract the guys that I'm attracted to.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Nov 16, 2012 3:54 AM GMT
    I cry
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Nov 16, 2012 4:32 AM GMT
    I ask you guys how what to do.

    Really. Ever since my first date ever.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Nov 16, 2012 4:33 AM GMT
    To add what I said above, I have no gaydar, so meeting guys in my local area doesn't work. I'm horribly bad at knowing when guys are into me. If they flirt with me, I assume they're just flirting and aren't serious. I don't pick up on signals or hints when comes to liking me. Guys have to tell me outright that they like me because, otherwise, I don't have a clue. Few guys will do that.

    The dating subject is such a downer. It shouldn't be this difficult.
  • TheAlchemixt

    Posts: 2294

    Nov 16, 2012 6:03 AM GMT
    It looks like you kind of live in the middle of nowhere, you should try moving to a more gay populated area.
  • onefortified

    Posts: 1630

    Nov 16, 2012 6:07 AM GMT
    For now just focus on improving myself so that I can date when the time comes. Seems a lot more people are into random hook ups now than trying to be in a relationship.
  • ohioguy12

    Posts: 2024

    Nov 16, 2012 6:14 AM GMT
    Larkin saidI am averaging 1 date per year...

    I handle it by trying to move to a less horrible part of the United States.


    Lucky you. I'm averaging .0384615 dates a year
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Nov 16, 2012 6:14 AM GMT
    Nothing's good enough for anybody else, it seems.
  • MikeW

    Posts: 6061

    Nov 16, 2012 6:23 AM GMT
    Yeah, being in a metropolitan area definitely helps. I'm out of the scene completely and that is fine. I've outlived two LT partners and am in no hurry to get into another relationship. BUT, I met both of them through gay social organizations and began dating after having met them in RL. These organizations had big membership pools. Not just a dozen men, but like thirty or so at a time and over a period of time, hundreds. Moreover, the setting (not bar or club, much less on-line dating services) provided somewhat structured opportunities to interact with different people, get to know them at least somewhat. The 'dates' came out of mutual interest and attraction.
  • Pontifex

    Posts: 1882

    Nov 16, 2012 6:23 AM GMT
    I don't feel as bad now. I get dates. They just don't really go anywhere. Finding someone with things in common, who have goals in life and who is compatible with my lifestyle isn't that easy.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Nov 16, 2012 6:43 AM GMT
    Successfully managed a second date tonight! I am rather thrilled this guy has not just wanted sex.
  • gbc59

    Posts: 90

    Nov 16, 2012 6:51 AM GMT
    i have had 3 coffee dates in last 3 months 1st said i was not his type i was too short (5'6'') he was 5' 8'' he only like taller guys this was said even b4 we had finnished coffee . 2nd i wasnt his type he found me boring as i didnt have multiple sex with guys , 3rd date was good, 2nd meeting went ok, then no msg for a week , text and he responded why am i texting what do i want from him. i given up for a while, no dating icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Nov 16, 2012 7:01 AM GMT
    Re-define "success?"
  • 1blind_dog

    Posts: 376

    Nov 16, 2012 7:25 AM GMT
    BuddyinNYC saidDo you mean not getting dates or dates not being successful (and if so what would you consider a successful date)?


    I think a successful date in general is just one that isn't the last
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Nov 16, 2012 7:44 AM GMT
    mindgarden saidRe-define "success?"

    Your head didn't end up in his freezer? Success!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Nov 16, 2012 8:02 AM GMT
    I'm not...

    I'm not dating.

    I'm kinda seeing this guy in Brisbane but it's very casual he's visiting and going to another part of the country next year so it's very casual plus I assume he's seeing more then me which I'm happy with.

    There really is no chance of anything emotional happening so I'm pretty happy with that.

    I can't find a guy cause I didn't want to find one.. but I'm in Brisbane and I know it was me
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Nov 16, 2012 8:30 AM GMT
    I retreat into work and my little side projects. Dating is not the end all, be all. I've come to a point where I've realized I cannot possibly predict, let alone control, whether I'll have a date and whether it will be successful.

    So I've decided to condition myself to not perceive it as a need or an indictment of myself. I'd rather spend time with friends, work, exercise, learn more about programming or math, work on some side ideas for a business, go to the beach for a run, etc. There is so much out there to do, and I for one am about done with worrying over dating.

    If I end up never having a relationship again, I still plan on having a very rich, rewarding life.