My first broken heart

  • swimmermatt10...

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    Nov 17, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    I have just gotten my heart broken for the first time. I can't even begin to think how I'm going to live without him. I'm just curious how you guys have coped with it and how long it took to get over it your first time.
  • IAmTheOneWhoK...

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    Nov 17, 2012 2:07 AM GMT
    He'll pop up in your mind very briefly for like 10 seconds but you'll just be like "fuck that" maybe once a day or every 2 days...at about the 2 month mark. You'll be fine.
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    Nov 17, 2012 2:10 AM GMT
    Could take a few months to several months. You wouldn't believe it right now, but with time you do learn to get used to it, and then to move on. It's very tough in the beginning, but it's something we ALL go through. Time heals all wounds,so hang in there. And good for you, for reaching out for help. Talking to a sympathetic person helps.
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    Nov 17, 2012 2:11 AM GMT
    IAmTheOneWhoKnocks saidHe'll pop up in your mind very briefly for like 10 seconds but you'll just be like "fuck that" maybe once a day or every 2 days...at about the 2 month mark. You'll be fine.

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    If he's lucky. If he's an unlucky schmuck like me....erm. I'm at the two month mark from my last heart break and it's not looking so good. I want someone to steal my phone.
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    Nov 17, 2012 2:29 AM GMT
    I tried to kill myself with alcohol and cigarettes, but couldn't afford enough of either at the time.

    Now that I can afford it, I don't want to. icon_lol.gif
  • PR_GMR

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    Nov 17, 2012 4:15 AM GMT
    IceBuckets said
    IAmTheOneWhoKnocks saidHe'll pop up in your mind very briefly for like 10 seconds but you'll just be like "fuck that" maybe once a day or every 2 days...at about the 2 month mark. You'll be fine.

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    If he's lucky. If he's an unlucky schmuck like me....erm. I'm at the two month mark from my last heart break and it's not looking so good. I want someone to steal my phone.


    Yep. It took me like 8 mos to get over the last one. It took every ounce of my willpower to put him behind. The time it takes to mend a broken heart varies from person to person. Don't give yourself a timeline. Just keep to no contact, OP. And make sure to move on with other things in your life. Let time do its thing.

  • Nov 17, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    Best way to get over someone is to get under someone. There's some truth in that... I don't think u can completely get over someone till you start falling for another. In other words, get out there!
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    Nov 17, 2012 4:24 AM GMT
    I don't know if you ever really get over it. Your heart only breaks once. Well, at least mine did only once. The wound just gets lemon juice poured on it by others as life progresses. LOL.

    But, it's a natural part of existence. You just have to get past it and move on. Realize that you're important and there are others out there you can be with. Take some time to yourself for a while, then start dating again.
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    Nov 17, 2012 4:36 AM GMT
    Emotional attachment is a difficult thing. Rest assured, you'll survive, but, there will be reminders. Some folks take not too long to get over; other folks come into your life. Other folks can take a very long time to get over, and...hard as it is...you have to distract yourself because being miserable is a drag and is unhealthy.
  • calibro

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    Nov 17, 2012 4:55 AM GMT
    by making fun of people who are melodramatic after their first breakup
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    Nov 17, 2012 5:11 AM GMT
    And how do we get into 'good friends' phase? Is it after the 2 months/8 months mark? Because with all the common friends, it seems impossible to not ever meet.
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    Nov 17, 2012 5:24 AM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    calibro saidby making fun of people who are melodramatic after their first breakup

    scamp


    i can't even begin to think how i am going to live after that comment
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    Nov 17, 2012 5:25 AM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    calibro saidby making fun of people who are melodramatic after their first breakup

    scamp


    I am sure you meant cunt, right? icon_redface.gif
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    Nov 17, 2012 5:30 AM GMT
    IF You are lucky... You will have a few More.

    They are the best teachers. And make for the best stories. And occasionally the best friends.

    And when You REALLY arrive... You will GET that hey will ALWAYS be with You...

    Even when You move on .

    A Man without a broken heart (at least once) is a Man without a heart.

    Period.

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    Nov 17, 2012 5:35 AM GMT
    Bustamante said
    Aristoshark said
    calibro saidby making fun of people who are melodramatic after their first breakup

    scamp


    I am sure you meant cunt, right? icon_redface.gif


    who are you? why don't you save me some time and just comb through some old thread for a snarky comment i made, and then replace that other person's name with yours. just think, one day you might be vaguely insignificant enough that i'll create a unique comment just for you. now you know have something to aspire to; you're welcome.
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    Nov 17, 2012 5:37 AM GMT
    Cash saidIF You are lucky... You will have a few More.

    They are the best teachers. And make for the best stories. And occasionally the best friends.

    And when You REALLY arrive... You will GET that hey will ALWAYS be with You...

    Even when You move on .

    A Man without a broken heart (at least once) is a Man without a heart.

    Period.

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    +1
    And what Blake said was truer than true - only time heals these wounds of the heart. But relax, they are never fatal.
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    Nov 17, 2012 5:48 AM GMT
    HikeSwimSkiSF said
    Cash saidIF You are lucky... You will have a few More.

    They are the best teachers. And make for the best stories. And occasionally the best friends.

    And when You REALLY arrive... You will GET that hey will ALWAYS be with You...

    Even when You move on .

    A Man without a broken heart (at least once) is a Man without a heart.

    Period.

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    +1
    And what Blake said was truer than true - only time heals these wounds of the heart. But relax, they are never fatal.

    The pieces just get smaller and harder to put back together. icon_sad.gif
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    Nov 17, 2012 5:59 AM GMT
    You'll be amazed how much easier it gets after you get stronger and on your feet again.
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    Nov 17, 2012 8:09 AM GMT
    depends how long you were together and the type of person you are

    my first was two and a half years ago, and I only really started dating again this past september and truth be told I still miss that jack ass from time to time but point is regardless how long you hurt.... it WILL get better eventually... there is no set date to when youll be good as new maybe tht will never come but the only way to do it is by proactivly looking to move on with your life.
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    Nov 17, 2012 9:16 AM GMT
    My heart goes out to you. I'm sorry, Bud.

    I don't have any great words of wisdom really... For me, my heart was broken over 3 years ago and I still have bruises. I still think about him daily. The best you can do, is keep your head up and keep pressing on, even when it takes everything in you. I hope you have a friend who can walk this with you. If you need a listener, hit me up.

    I wish I could fix it for you and take the pain away.

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    Nov 17, 2012 10:37 AM GMT
    MatthewHoffman said

    I still miss that jack ass from time to time


    I think I'm gonna cry already icon_sad.gif