I need some advice

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    Nov 17, 2012 2:26 AM GMT
    I'm a night manager in a supermarket and there is this customer (a guy) who has been comining in to say hi the past few months making a point to say hi even if I don't see him or if we are too far apart to speak he will wave and smile.

    Anyway he was in a couple nights ago and I didn't see him and he comes up to me to say hi so I turn around smile say hi and I haven't seen ya for a while and he chuckles a little says he's been in & out ,smiles and went on his way.

    I can definitely feel the "gaydar"working between us.I was thinking about giving him a contact card and say something like call me sometime.You guys have any suggestions on what I might do or say?

    Also I have to be careful because I live in that backwards red neck hillbilly town that had the little kid singing the anti gay video on u tube this past summer and it's aslo the same town that the teenager Billy Lucas committed suicide after his classmates bullied him for being gay,so that tells you what kind of community I live in.
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    Nov 17, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    Just try and befriend him!

    ( take him out of the store scene, and see what develops)
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    Nov 17, 2012 2:56 AM GMT
    Get the fuck out of hillbillyville, and take him with you.
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    Nov 17, 2012 3:01 AM GMT
    What you do is first feel him out, and by that I don't mean physically. Next time he comes up to say hi, you say, "Hey, so when are we going to go out for that cup of coffee?" wait to see what he says ... If he says something like, 'when ever you want', you say "okay", "hey, how do I get a hold of you", he gives you his number. If he answers with someday, then you say, well when you are ready give me a call. And if he says "but, I don't have your number" then you give it to him. ... now memorize and do it.
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    Nov 17, 2012 4:43 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidWhat you do is first feel him out, and by that I don't mean physically. Next time he comes up to say hi, you say, "Hey, so when are we going to go out for that cup of coffee?" wait to see what he says ... If he says something like, 'when ever you want', you say "okay", "hey, how do I get a hold of you", he gives you his number. If he answers with someday, then you say, well when you are ready give me a call. And if he says "but, I don't have your number" then you give it to him. ... now memorize and do it.


    This sounds like a pretty good idea to me.

    He sounds too friendly to be just friends (Based on your description, I'm guessing he doesn't always buy stuff? This makes me think he's gay and likes you)

    If you don't follow the above, just start making more small talk, and ask if he'd like to get a coffee some time. Its a little safer than giving him your number and telling him to call you.