The ways for interesting and nice conversations..tips please !!

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    Nov 17, 2012 5:27 AM GMT
    Say, I am about to meet a guy. We have had a chat and we ended up deciding to meet the other day. How should I keep the spirit on and go one having nice conversation? I am scared, I will be like after a while keeping my mouth shut thinking not to say any stupid and turn off the guy next to me !!

    Looking forward to have some helpful tips from my RJer bros :-)
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    Nov 17, 2012 5:34 AM GMT
    I don't know about Indian culture, but in the US, you can keep a conversation going, and keep the other's attention, by complimenting him in some way (what he's wearing, etc.) and asking him questions - his opinions on things - his life, his work and career, etc. (There are some cultures where one would never ask someone what they do for a living, for example, but US people don't seem to mind.) In other words, show an interest in him, rather than just talking, or worst, talking about yourself.
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    Nov 17, 2012 11:42 AM GMT
    Don't impress him but just be honest with yourself about who you are. By this way you will reflect your best side. He then may like your smile, the way you usually are, the way you usually speak, the way your goodness shines on you and so there is a lot of goodness hidden when you are being honest to yourself.

    Listen to him.

    Don't ask for a second date.
    If you end up having a good first date and both of you agree with your body language, then just kiss him and stop it right there and don't go beyond.

    Have the time of your life.

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    Nov 18, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    Just ask him how he is, if anything new is going on, maybe mention some previous conversation topics and try to add more to them.
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    Nov 18, 2012 2:22 AM GMT


    I picked straight away, just from the subject line that the OP wasn't North American.

    OP, be yourself and be a good listener.

    The standard rules of conversation follow a Question/Answer/Question ( not applicable to USA/CAN*) formula.

    The Answer (in this case his answer) part is your opportunity to add any perspectives/ personal experiences that you feel will continue the conversation.

    If you really like him, this should be quite easy.

    Good luck!

    *North Americans prefer a different style of verbal interaction where speakers regale listeners in endless experiences which are then met with the other person either remaining silent or speaking over the first speaker with their own story.

    Questions not applicable.