What's worse: not having dreams, or having dreams and not chasing them?

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    Nov 17, 2012 1:16 PM GMT
    Just a reminder for the days we get complaisant.

    What's worse: not having dreams, or having dreams and not chasing them?
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    Nov 17, 2012 1:28 PM GMT
    Not chasing your dreams is torture for your attitude. I know, I've struggled with fulfilling my dreams for years. If only being without dreams would be so easy. People without dreams baffle me. icon_question.gif?icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 17, 2012 2:46 PM GMT


    Dreams.

    I found that some are achievable and some not. The trick for me has always been to have many.

    I dreamed of becoming a published author.
    I dreamed of being financially successful.
    I dreamed of travelling the world so I could stand in Africa, stand on Ayers Rock in Australia, explore the inside of a pyramid.
    I dreamed of falling in love and building a life together with someone else.
    I dreamed of being a famous scientist that solved an enormous world problem.
    I dreamed of making a huge difference in the lives of others and they wouldn't know it was me.
    I dreamed (this is an odd one) of somehow going back in time and rescuing Christ from crucifixion.
    I dreamed of being a great artist in painting or drawing.
    I dreamed of being a fabulous and famous musician.
    I dreamed of marrying a girl and having kids who all went on to be successful and wonderful people.
    I dreamed of travelling to other worlds.

    Having dreams is very important, I think. and sorting through them and striving to accomplish the attainable ones is just as important.
    Start small, aim big. icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 17, 2012 3:50 PM GMT
    Are we not satisfied living here and now if dreaming there and then? Is thirst for new experience today withered yesterday? Are we content to manufacture disappointment entailed in dreaming?

    "Fools hate samsara and seek nirvana" ~~ Longchen Rabjam
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    Nov 17, 2012 5:27 PM GMT
    Both are pretty bad.

    I'd say that not having dreams are probably worst though.

    There are times that those with dreams can't chase them because of the cruelties of reality.

    However, if you aren't chasing dreams out of pure laziness, thats probably worst than not having a dream.
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    Nov 17, 2012 5:45 PM GMT
    Having dreams and not chasing them is worse. For myself days without dreams and writing are pointless.
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    Nov 17, 2012 5:46 PM GMT
    Not having dreams. Then again, a lot of people have 'dreams' and still don't do anything to chase them.
  • Karl

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    Nov 17, 2012 5:52 PM GMT
    not having a dream is worse.

    It means he surrender the reality and he doesnt even want to get better. His life isnt truly a life !

    a person who has dreams but not chasing them ... at least he has dreams ... his inner life are full of beliefs and joys ...
    And he can probably starts chasing them whenever he's ready.

    Everybody needs to have dreams !
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  • Medjai

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    Nov 17, 2012 6:05 PM GMT
    Dreams and passions are different. I've dreamed of being a lot of things, but there are very few I have a passion for.

    Not chasing your passions is so much worse. A dispassionate life is no life at all.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Nov 17, 2012 7:15 PM GMT
    Careful not to spend dreaming ur whole life away......
  • HottJoe

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    Nov 17, 2012 7:45 PM GMT
    meninloveI dreamed of becoming a published author.


    Getting published is tough, especially for first-time authors, and once you've done it, it's like heroin; you'll want to do it again, and again . . .

    I self-published my first book, THE TRAGEDY OF MISS GENEVA FLOWERS, and it was subsequently picked up by a NYC publisher. If you have any completed novels, and you're finding it difficult to break into traditional publishing, I'd suggest getting as much feedback as you can, from people you trust. Then, after perfecting your prose, try putting it out yourself.

    One tip to keep in mind is that you'll want to have follow-up books. Most authors build success by publishing multiple books, either in a series, or within a certain genre.

    Good Luck!!!icon_smile.gif
  • Lincsbear

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    Nov 17, 2012 9:58 PM GMT
    The latter.

    Living life with regrets, that you didn`t go for something you loved, is a kind of torture.

    Always go for it!
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    Nov 17, 2012 10:11 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    meninloveI dreamed of becoming a published author.


    Getting published is tough, especially for first-time authors, and once you've done it, it's like heroin; you'll want to do it again, and again . . .

    I self-published my first book, THE TRAGEDY OF MISS GENEVA FLOWERS, and it was subsequently picked up by a NYC publisher. If you have any completed novels, and you're finding it difficult to break into traditional publishing, I'd suggest getting as much feedback as you can, from people you trust. Then, after perfecting your prose, try putting it out yourself.

    One tip to keep in mind is that you'll want to have follow-up books. Most authors build success by publishing multiple books, either in a series, or within a certain genre.

    Good Luck!!!icon_smile.gif


    Done, actually.icon_wink.gif

    ...and also done:

    I dreamed of being financially successful.
    I dreamed of falling in love and building a life together with someone else.
    I dreamed of making a huge difference in the lives of others and they wouldn't know it was me.
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    Nov 17, 2012 10:38 PM GMT
    Not Having Dreams is the worst.
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    Nov 18, 2012 12:17 AM GMT
    Neither of them is inherently bad. Not pursuing happiness is another thing.

    I say this because I have met people that are perfectly happy with life at the stage they are in. Maybe they have a great family, are happy with where they live, and don't need much more in their lives. Is it fair to discredit this?

    Other people do have desires but may realize that these dreams are more for the fantasy land. So maybe they do wish they could be a famous international pop star, or a movie star, or have the body of an olympic athlete. But maybe they realize that they would not be happy making the necessary sacrifices to reach that status.

    Having goals and dreams is great, but there is also much to be said for being happy with what one has, and pursuing those things that make them happy. I feel that my dreams are sometimes larger than life, and I'm hard on myself when I feel that my pace is slowing. I may be accomplishing these dreams, but it definitely comes with sacrifice, frustration, and debbie downer/self questioning time. Who are we to frown on those that don't need more?

    BUT, if we're talking about lazy pieces of crap that don't have anything constructive in their lives, I'd say there's something wrong with the picture!
  • Beastmode

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    Nov 18, 2012 12:24 AM GMT
    Some people seem to love coasting through life and appear happy.

    Personally, that would drive me insane. I'm not sure I would call them dreams though, more goals and ambitions.
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    Nov 18, 2012 12:41 AM GMT
    What's worse is having dreams, working them to fruition, and in one fell swoop, having it all whisked away.

    .. like a heartbeat drives you mad, in the stillness of remembering what you had, and what you lost.
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    Nov 18, 2012 12:52 AM GMT
    'Dream, but don't make dreams your master'......R. Kipling....
  • FireDoor211

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    Nov 18, 2012 1:01 AM GMT
    Dreaming i sfine, dreamers are good people, but you would be amazed at what you can do if you put the tiniest bit of action into it.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Nov 18, 2012 2:10 AM GMT
    Forcing dreams to come true is a myth. It's like winning the lottery. Yes I have tickets on the next one, because I'm a flake. But I'm also a realist. I'll still wake up tomorrow not being the LottoMax winner.

    Then you wake up and get back at doing the best you can with the talents you were born with. Being gay is the best one.

  • GLBeck

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    Nov 18, 2012 2:15 AM GMT
    Both are bad. I can't imagine not having any dreams. I think having dreams and not pursuing them is worse. It leads to a lifetime of regrets. Even if there are detours along the way....dreams are worth pursuing and can be achieved.
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    Nov 18, 2012 8:22 AM GMT
    I think not having dreams is worst. At least if you're not chasing them you still have the ability to visualize an "ideal". It would be like a feel good movie that plays in your head - I hope this makes sense. People without dreams have that look in their eyes that they lost their spark for life. (Reading previous posts after writing this; it's like what Karl said).

    Like someone said I consider my dream like winning the lotto. I will do what I can to make it happen, but after you control what you can it's in God's hands.
  • janu88

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    Nov 18, 2012 8:28 AM GMT
    I dream one by one.
    Now the dream which i'm fulfilling pretty soon is going to India-Nepal-Tibet trip for a month.icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 18, 2012 4:20 PM GMT
    My problem is that I have so many dreams, I'm afraid if I take the many years of time to pursue one, I'm giving up on all the others. In this current "limbo" I still have all my options, but I end up choosing nothing. I really need to make some decisions because I feel like I'm wasting time.
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    Nov 18, 2012 5:53 PM GMT
    dcblue saidMy problem is that I have so many dreams, I'm afraid if I take the many years of time to pursue one, I'm giving up on all the others. In this current "limbo" I still have all my options, but I end up choosing nothing. I really need to make some decisions because I feel like I'm wasting time.


    You are wasting time. If you chase two rabbits you'll lose both! Go confidently in the direction of you dreams!!!!!! Just chose one, heck flip a coin, just do something ;-)