Nov 17, 2012 9:49 PM GMT
Hello,
My question is a long one which needs a long explanation, so I apologize for the incoming wall of text
I recently moved to Montreal after living my whole life in a homophobic country were gay guys are seen as sicko perverts that you have to watch out for and warn others to prevent the spread of the "illness".
For this reason, moving to Montreal has been without a doubt one of the best things that has ever happened in my life and although I am in the closet (have to be for now due to family also living here), I want to start meeting "regular" guys (preferably gay) that I can be friends with, hang out, have a good conversation, go out, go to the movies, eat, and perhaps even find a nice boyfriend.
So my question is, where can I meet "regular" guys that are not just interested in sex? Don't get me wrong, like any other guy, I like sex. I just don't enjoy jumping to bed with a guy I just met 5 minutes ago.
So far I have tried meeting guys from the usual online sources (Here at RJ, Badoo, Grindr, Blendr, BoyAhoy, ManHunt, Adam4Adam, etc) but every time I get asked "what are you looking for" and I explain I am open to almost anything except having sex with strangers, they lose interest. This probably means I am looking at all the wrong places which is why it occurred to me to ask here at RJ forum.
In my (very) limited experience, it has always been easier to meet people who are somehow related to you, (for example a friend of a friend) but given than I am new here, this one is probably not going to work.
What do you recommend I try? Gym? (I have been searching for one close to home or school), a volunteer organization? I am latino but I am not fond of religions so I guess this leaves out churches and related.
What are the usual venues to meet guys for stuff other than sex? (again, I am not discarding sex, I just prefer it to be with someone I actually care about).
Thanks for your time and any help (and possible insults hehe) you might offer.
My question is a long one which needs a long explanation, so I apologize for the incoming wall of text

I recently moved to Montreal after living my whole life in a homophobic country were gay guys are seen as sicko perverts that you have to watch out for and warn others to prevent the spread of the "illness".
For this reason, moving to Montreal has been without a doubt one of the best things that has ever happened in my life and although I am in the closet (have to be for now due to family also living here), I want to start meeting "regular" guys (preferably gay) that I can be friends with, hang out, have a good conversation, go out, go to the movies, eat, and perhaps even find a nice boyfriend.
So my question is, where can I meet "regular" guys that are not just interested in sex? Don't get me wrong, like any other guy, I like sex. I just don't enjoy jumping to bed with a guy I just met 5 minutes ago.
So far I have tried meeting guys from the usual online sources (Here at RJ, Badoo, Grindr, Blendr, BoyAhoy, ManHunt, Adam4Adam, etc) but every time I get asked "what are you looking for" and I explain I am open to almost anything except having sex with strangers, they lose interest. This probably means I am looking at all the wrong places which is why it occurred to me to ask here at RJ forum.
In my (very) limited experience, it has always been easier to meet people who are somehow related to you, (for example a friend of a friend) but given than I am new here, this one is probably not going to work.
What do you recommend I try? Gym? (I have been searching for one close to home or school), a volunteer organization? I am latino but I am not fond of religions so I guess this leaves out churches and related.
What are the usual venues to meet guys for stuff other than sex? (again, I am not discarding sex, I just prefer it to be with someone I actually care about).
Thanks for your time and any help (and possible insults hehe) you might offer.